Do you accept or resist old age?

Mitch86 said:
We must all learn to accept everything that happens to us such as pain, impairment and, yes, even death. I'm 89 and was already in Vitas Hospice several years ago. Very few leave Vitas Hospice ALIVE! I left after only 3 weeks. My geriatrician has been telling my I have only 1 year to live. He's been telling me that for 5 years already. He told me he will NOT treat me for cancer or heart disease if I contract either of those terminal illnesses.

I'm 89, my neck is bent from arthritis and walking is difficult. I try to walk 1 twenty minute walk every day to avoid a wheel chair. Luckily, my wife is still alive and she has become my care giver.

To keep my mind active I play chess at Chess.com and Civilization VI at Steam.com every day. I lose myself in the games so do not dwell on my age.
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I also play chess online and it does take the mind off of age-related worries.
Radrook (1901)
 

hollydolly said:
When does mrs HC get her surgery ?.. Is it surprising that she should have heart issues given that she's been someone who has looked after her health all her life, particularly with good exercise?.. did they say what's caused it?
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She's never smoked, alcohol almost nil, we eat fresh food not processed and as you say, gym and dance most of her life. Surgery has a three to six month queue, but before that she's on a course of specific drugs, but for what I have never asked.

Call me a cynic, but I bet if she was younger and still at work, she was an ambulance paramedic, there wouldn't be any waiting, reason being, paramedics are in short supply.
 
Remy said:
I want to quit working so I can see what it's actually like. Maybe I can relax more. Though there is one stressor ruining my life.
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I feel similar.

I read a lot of horror stories about horrible bosses and toxic workplaces. I don't have anything like that, but I still get stressed over work stuff.

I have read about people that felt like they had more energy after they retired. I am hoping it happens to me. I feel like work uses up a lot of energy and I don't have enough energy left for fun stuff.

The weather this summer has been rough on me too. I am sure that is factor as well.
 
KathyB1968 said:
I feel similar.

I read a lot of horror stories about horrible bosses and toxic workplaces. I don't have anything like that, but I still get stressed over work stuff.

I have read about people that felt like they had more energy after they retired. I am hoping it happens to me. I feel like work uses up a lot of energy and I don't have enough energy left for fun stuff.

The weather this summer has been rough on me too. I am sure that is factor as well.
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Thank you. In addition to work my stepfather is ruining my life. He'll be 95 in September. He's living forever. And when he goes, either fast or slow, I will have to deal with everything including his cats. My brother yells at me from the other side of the country, puts me down and says I don't do anything.
 
Remy said:
Thank you. In addition to work my stepfather is ruining my life. He'll be 95 in September. He's living forever. And when he goes, either fast or slow, I will have to deal with everything including his cats. My brother yells at me from the other side of the country, puts me down and says I don't do anything.
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I was resisting okd age in every way and thought I was doing a bang up job until a year ago when my physical exam revealed high blood pressure and I was put on medication. I have always exercised… dance, yoga, walked 5 miles a day. Then suddenly, i had a torn ligament in my foot and had to wear a boot for 6 weeks and couldn’t do a thing. Just as I was to come out of the boot, I had an awful pain under my ribcage, nausea and no appetite. I went to the doc and had a CAT scan which showed gall stones. I had to have surgery ASAP. I was shocked!
So, here I am, 6 weeks later and less a gallbladder and I haven’t done a lick of exercise for months. I now realize that you can’t beat aging.☹️
 
I have to accept it, but I do resist it. I don't like the wording "old age". I think that the word "aging" is enough. "Old" is not necessary to say or think about.
 
I will admit the last five years have not been kind to me healthwise. I now accept there are things I just can't do. No more ice skating, no more gardening except for a few veggies in summer. No more yard work, can't do the heat.

I have never been one to overly concerned about my physical self. Know longer color my hair, feel the need to wear makeup daily. Wardrobe and shoes are all about comfort and easy care. I do make sure I have a good supply of nice things, just in case. Most of them hang in the spare closet, new shoes in the boxes, purses hanging ready to go, everything with tags still on.

Limited projects in the house, no more getting up on ladders or chairs. If I have to get down on the floor, I have to think about what I need to get back up LOL!

For the most part none of that bothers me. I just go with what my body and mind tell me. The one thing I hate is pain!

I will say when my son was married, I took a pain pill at the reception and danced for three hours, nonstop!!
 
MaidMarian said:
I was resisting okd age in every way and thought I was doing a bang up job until a year ago when my physical exam revealed high blood pressure and I was put on medication. I have always exercised… dance, yoga, walked 5 miles a day. Then suddenly, i had a torn ligament in my foot and had to wear a boot for 6 weeks and couldn’t do a thing. Just as I was to come out of the boot, I had an awful pain under my ribcage, nausea and no appetite. I went to the doc and had a CAT scan which showed gall stones. I had to have surgery ASAP. I was shocked!
So, here I am, 6 weeks later and less a gallbladder and I haven’t done a lick of exercise for months. I now realize that you can’t beat aging.☹️
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I agree totally... you think you're going along very well, and then suddenly something gets you out of the blue..

For the last 2 years or so the OA in my fingers which started about 10 years ago.. has raged and my fingers are swollen and painful 24/7 .. and they'll get worse.. if that wasn't enough I got OA in my knees.. ..

I am like you, and have always been someone who has been very fit, walked, trekked, climbed.. most of all danced... but despite both of those things and the constant pain.. , I felt it's ok... at least I can still walk.. as long as I have my knee supports on..or my steroid injections... I can still walk and drive, I can even still run if I'm careful... but.. Old age has hit me with a big stick again.. at just 69... and I've just learned I've got OA in my ankles and toes... so eventually I may not be able to walk... that's a real possibility...
 
hollydolly said:
I agree totally... you think you're going along very well, and then suddenly something gets you out of the blue..

For the last 2 years or so the OA in my fingers which started about 10 years ago.. has raged and my fingers are swollen and painful 24/7 .. and they'll get worse.. if that wasn't enough I got OA in my knees.. ..

I am like you, and have always been someone who has been very fit, walked, trekked, climbed.. most of all danced... but despite both of those things and the constant pain.. , I felt it's ok... at least I can still walk.. as long as I have my knee supports on..or my steroid injections... I can still walk and drive, I can even still run if I'm careful... but.. Old age has hit me with a big stick again.. at just 69... and I've just learned I've got OA in my ankles and toes... so eventually I may not be able to walk... that's a real possibility...
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I have also got OA in my toes and I thought exactly the way that you do. I thought that walking would be something I could do until I die. I’m also 69 by the way
 
hollydolly said:
I agree totally... you think you're going along very well, and then suddenly something gets you out of the blue..

For the last 2 years or so the OA in my fingers which started about 10 years ago.. has raged and my fingers are swollen and painful 24/7 .. and they'll get worse.. if that wasn't enough I got OA in my knees.. ..

I am like you, and have always been someone who has been very fit, walked, trekked, climbed.. most of all danced... but despite both of those things and the constant pain.. , I felt it's ok... at least I can still walk.. as long as I have my knee supports on..or my steroid injections... I can still walk and drive, I can even still run if I'm careful... but.. Old age has hit me with a big stick again.. at just 69... and I've just learned I've got OA in my ankles and toes... so eventually I may not be able to walk... that's a real possibility...
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A careful diet along with stretching and manipulating and massaging everything might really help you, holly --reducing sugars for example.
 
When all is said and done do we really have a choice. When my wife underwent serious heart surgery which saved her life but had already imposed serious issues to her future health I adopted a new philosophy about my health. I accept my responsibility to care for my life mate, along with providing the on going care she requires, in order to do that I have to protect my health. She may well outlive me, and if quality of life for her is good I hope that is the case. In the event it's the other way around I want to capable of continuing to care for her. It's that to death do we part thing.
 
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