Do you believe unconditional love is real?

I DO believe unconditional love is possible but don’t think we, as humans, are capable of it on a daily bases. We have an ego which often dictates our actions and behaviour which is usually self directed. Like Imogene, I DO believe dogs ARE capable of unconditionally love.
 
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No. If you are not the hand that feeds a pet they will not stick around. Their love is conditional upon food.

As for humans, there are always conditions to the love of another. If they feel they are not met you might as well forget it. I've seen it time and time again.

The only true unconditional love I believe in is that of God.
 
Fritz said:
No. If you are not the hand that feeds a pet they will not stick around. Their love is conditional upon food.

As for humans, there are always conditions to the love of another. If they feel they are not met you might as well forget it. I've seen it time and time again.

The only true unconditional love I believe in is that of God.
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Plus, humans constantly evolve. We delude ourselves into thinking we'll always know them.
 
I guess the secret to Unconditional Love is knowing it doesn't mean you have to be a doormat or blind.
I do think some people's ego's won't allow it.
I watched my Mom shut off my sister from her life for good reason and I watched her still worry, cry and pray for her.
She loved her deeply, she just didn't love her life style or being stolen from every visit.
My mother had an ability in her of Forgiveness that works hand in hand with the other and KNEW when to use it. .
My sister lived with my mom her last 6 years of her life and it was beautiful to watch.
I have seen it, and I have it for some, and I know a few who have it for me. And there the secret is...don't abuse it when it's given.
 
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The question of whether unconditional love is real is a fascinating and complex one, touching on psychology, philosophy, and even biology. There isn't a single, simple answer, but rather a rich discussion with different perspectives.
Here's a breakdown of the key viewpoints:
The Psychological and Biological Perspective
From a psychological and biological standpoint, there is evidence that something very similar to unconditional love is not only real but also crucial for human development.
* Parent-Child Bond: Many psychologists and researchers point to the bond between a parent and their child as the closest thing we have to true unconditional love. A healthy parent's love for their child is often described as a commitment that doesn't depend on the child's behavior, achievements, or even personality. This type of love is seen as essential for a child's secure attachment, self-esteem, and emotional well-being.
* Brain Chemistry: Research has shown that the brain activity associated with unconditional love (often in the context of maternal or paternal love) is distinct from the brain activity of romantic love. The areas of the brain involved with unconditional love are linked to the reward system, but in a way that suggests a feeling of fulfillment without the need for reciprocation.
* Carl Rogers and Unconditional Positive Regard: The humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers coined the term "unconditional positive regard," which is a core concept in his therapeutic approach. It means accepting and respecting another person as they are, without judgment or conditions. While this is a clinical term, it highlights the psychological value of a non-judgmental, accepting stance in relationships, which is a key component of unconditional love.
The Philosophical and Practical Perspective
While the biological and psychological evidence is compelling, some philosophers and therapists argue that the idea of "unconditional" love in a purely absolute sense is a myth, particularly in adult relationships.
* The Problem with "No Conditions": The word "unconditional" implies a total lack of boundaries or requirements. In reality, healthy adult relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and shared values. If love were truly without conditions, it could be a justification for tolerating abuse, disrespect, or self-destructive behavior. A therapist's perspective often highlights that some conditions are necessary for a relationship to be healthy and safe. For example, a person might say, "I love you unconditionally, but I cannot be in a relationship with you if you continue to abuse me." In this case, the love may still exist, but the relationship has a condition for its continuation.
* Love as a Choice: The philosopher Søren Kierkegaard wrote about the difference between a love that is based on fleeting feelings and one that is a conscious, active choice. From this perspective, love is not a passive state but an ongoing act of commitment and will. This "choosing" of a person, even with their flaws and imperfections, can be seen as a powerful form of love, but it still requires some form of choice, which is a kind of condition.
* Aspiration vs. Reality: Many people view unconditional love as an ideal to strive for rather than a constant, achievable reality. It's the goal of loving someone even when they disappoint us, make mistakes, or change over time. It's the ability to hold onto a deep, underlying love for a person even when we are frustrated, hurt, or angry with them.
Conclusion
So, is unconditional love real?
* As an absolute, all-encompassing, no-strings-attached concept, it's a very difficult, if not impossible, ideal for humans to achieve. Our emotions, needs, and boundaries are all "conditions" that are essential to our well-being.
* As a powerful, life-affirming force, yes, it seems to be real. The love between a parent and child, the deep commitment in a healthy partnership, and the acceptance of a compassionate friend are all manifestations of something very close to unconditional love. It's not a magical state without effort, but a choice to be accepting, empathetic, and committed to another person's well-being.
Ultimately, the most realistic and beneficial way to think about it may be as a guiding principle—a choice to love someone for who they are, while still maintaining healthy boundaries and self-respect.
 
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