Do you ever feel....

Della said:
I'm with CallmeKate, I seem to be on the opposite end of this scale. I get overwhelmed with all the things I still have to do and no longer have the energy for, like all the Christmas expectations we just went through.

My husband and I hate shopping and having to replace things so for the last 20 years we've been buying things with the hope that it will "see us out." Hah! With planned obsolescence getting shorter and shorter we're lucky if our major appliances last two years.
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You are so right about the planned obsolescence, @Della ! Our dryer that still works like a charm was given to us from a boss about 25 years ago! Buy one now and I highly doubt it would last half that long. When it comes to things you mentioned like Christmas activities, I have finally reached the "I don't have to do *everything* that I used to do... it'll be fine!" point... and it feels good!
 
There are so many places I/we would still like to see. We often wonder if the next one will be the last, or if the previous one was the last.

The itinerary (a very loose/flexible itinerary), for the next one has been drafted, and I still jot down places for the 'one after that'.
 

DebraMae said:
I know I will never get another pet and I think I will probably only get one more car if my old one doesn't hold out but other than that I am fortunate that I still do what I want to do. I plan good things for the future and try to always have something to look forward to.
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Oh yes! I have found that always having something to look forward to is so vital and I've always done that. My daughter often teases me about it.... "Mom, that's still three months away!" And I'm like "and your point is??" :ROFLMAO:
 
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This lady was the hair styling partner of my wife at
the festivals that we attend. They did ladies hair in
the style of yesteryear. Sadly, Covid has put paid to
that. The lady showed the world her idea of turning 70.
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She didn't know we had that photo. When her 71st
birthday came around I enlarged the image of her,
cut it out and pasted it inside her birthday card. She
loved it and she still has it. She captioned it:
"Growing old disgracefully, bring it on!"
 
We used to have wonderful abalone on Fisherman's Wharf in San Francisco years ago. It is delicious...now its embargoed as an endangered species so no more abalone. Remember it as being about the size of my palm, and eating it lightly fried, perhaps as abalone almondine.

Perhaps we should think of new things we will do and are now that we are older and not become so nostalgic over what we won't eat or do again. I like to do both...lol.

Frankly, glad we did most of the travelling and don't have to do it now. As you get older, you appreciate nature and things you never had time to do when you were younger. Rush, rush, rush...that's what I remember aboutso many work years. Now you have the time to explore and enjoy nature and take your time reading and eating and watching your favorite (perhaps old) programs on TV you never seemed to have the time to do before, or take up a new hobby! Personally, I think its wonderful to have the leisure time - time is such a precious thing.
 
Been There said:
Is it expensive?
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Don't remember if abalone is expensive. It has been a long time since I had any. Didn't care for it much. It ranked right up there with octopus and calamari. (n)

Mother of pearl is not particularly expensive I don't think. It would depend on what it is incorporated into. Jewelry or just the shell, etc.
 
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When I was 24, every self-respecting Boy Racer had an
MGB, with it's two litre engine, but if you could afford
the insurance, you could choose a much larger engine.
I was married, I had the two litre.
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These days I drive a one and a half litre MG, and do you know, I much prefer it. The car is one year
younger than me.
 
Now that I am 75 and down to 45% lung function, I do my best to avoid that feeling by doing what pleases me when it pleases me, which means reading good books, creating in my sewing room (designer outfits and quilts), good movies, as many times as I want to watch them over, and playing with my critters. If the dishes and cleaning aren't up to your standards, go home. I've had to do THOSE things all my life, even though I hated every minute of it. They can wait til I'm in the mood for it.
 
MikeyDude said:
Seems that lately I get this almost overwhelming feeling that my life is becoming just a list of things I'll never do again. Foods I won't taste (like abalone), places I won't see again, people I won't hang with, etc.. I'm a guitarist and I cannot find a group of guys to play with to save me.

My brother died in 2007 and while he was in the hospital they had to intubate him. Before they did that he made the comment to the doctor, "I guess I've had my last taste of real food, huh?" I've never forgotten that. And as I've gotten closer to his age I realize there's a lot of things that I am unable to do, or things that I won't get the opportunity to do.

I'm generally a very positive person, but this thought just barges in sometimes.

Sorry for the gloomy topic, but do you ever feel that way as you get older?
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MikeyDude said:
do you ever feel that way as you get older?
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I try not to. So far I'm pretty successful.
 
MikeyDude said:
Seems that lately I get this almost overwhelming feeling that my life is becoming just a list of things I'll never do again. Foods I won't taste (like abalone), places I won't see again, people I won't hang with, etc.. I'm a guitarist and I cannot find a group of guys to play with to save me.

My brother died in 2007 and while he was in the hospital they had to intubate him. Before they did that he made the comment to the doctor, "I guess I've had my last taste of real food, huh?" I've never forgotten that. And as I've gotten closer to his age I realize there's a lot of things that I am unable to do, or things that I won't get the opportunity to do.

I'm generally a very positive person, but this thought just barges in sometimes.

Sorry for the gloomy topic, but do you ever feel that way as you get older?
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I've had the opposite problem my whole life. For instance, I've never been able to easily digest food with any amount of flavor so learned at an early age that the pleasures of eating even a small amount of good food was not going to be an option for me. And lots of other things, so the fact that I'm not going to live for probably more than 15 more years is a comfort to me.
 
That was then, this is now.

I’ve learned to accept that there’re changes as we age. I still appreciate what we can do, even though I health issues have taken away so many things. C’est la vie.
 
Looks like some of you guys understand what I'm talkin... It's not that I don't have things I try to look forward to. There are plenty of those. We just did a 1500 mile motorcycle trip on Route 66 last June. And I hope to make several more... It's not that I feel like my life is done and I sit and dwell on the loss. It's more about this list just keeps getting longer and longer and the thought just pushes it's way in and I have to beat it back with a stick. If I had known some things were going to be the last, I would have savored them better. :)
 
CarolfromTX said:
It’s occurred to me more than once that “life time supply” has taken on a whole new meaning, as does “ lifetime guarantee. “. I had a ring redone Because the band had become so thin. Jeweler said it would last another 20 years. I replied, “so a lifetime guarantee, then.” He looked shocked but do the math!
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Ha ha. I just posted about "lifetime supply." Great minds think alike!

When I got my tires replaced, the guy said to come back and get the wheels retorqued at 50 K. He meant 50 kilometers, but I thought he meant 50,000 kilometers. I said it was unlikely I'd ever drive that far.
MikeyDude said:
Looks like some of you guys understand what I'm talkin... It's not that I don't have things I try to look forward to. There are plenty of those. We just did a 1500 mile motorcycle trip on Route 66 last June. And I hope to make several more... It's not that I feel like my life is done and I sit and dwell on the loss. It's more about this list just keeps getting longer and longer and the thought just pushes it's way in and I have to beat it back with a stick. If I had known some things were going to be the last, I would have savored them better. :)
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Sometimes those thoughts cross my mind. I do beat those thoughts away. I'm a great believer in forgetting the past and getting on with the present and future.

The past can be instructive. I've learned a lot about people and life in recent years, largely thanks to Internet forums. Some were truths that I guess I didn't want to know before. As I look back, I feel I never had a chance (because of childhood stuff), and I'm a loser and I really messed up. So what am I supposed to do with that? Just be glad it's over I guess. Next!

For various reasons, I believe my romantic life is finished. In a way, this is very sad, because the dream of love and marriage was always the most important thing in my life. But now I have several male friends who like me and treat me with respect.

I moved to this town, kind of unwillingly, because I felt I didn't have a choice. It was terrible at first: no beautiful sights, no activities that I enjoyed, difficult to make friends. But now I'm realizing that it's a great place in some ways, if I just open my eyes.

Maybe the new reality is better. I have to rise up and meet it. As always, gratitude is so important!
 
MikeyDude said:
Seems that lately I get this almost overwhelming feeling that my life is becoming just a list of things I'll never do again. Foods I won't taste (like abalone), places I won't see again, people I won't hang with, etc.. I'm a guitarist and I cannot find a group of guys to play with to save me.

My brother died in 2007 and while he was in the hospital they had to intubate him. Before they did that he made the comment to the doctor, "I guess I've had my last taste of real food, huh?" I've never forgotten that. And as I've gotten closer to his age I realize there's a lot of things that I am unable to do, or things that I won't get the opportunity to do.

I'm generally a very positive person, but this thought just barges in sometimes.

Sorry for the gloomy topic, but do you ever feel that way as you get older?
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Yes, a good part of our brain is chemistry driven and that's where our feelings and moods come from. I have felt that way too. You don't have to apologize.
 
I really try not to look too hard at the dark side, but some introspection is inevitable. Gowing up with depression era parents, I've always been, well lets say thrifty, and learned to do most things for myself not only for the savings, but also just the inherent joy of doing it yourself.

I find myself at a point where my financial security is such, that I am much more often purchasing what I want, and dare I say it, even considering hiring others to do a limited amount of things for me. I don't always succeed, but I generally try to see everyday as a gift, and figure when the end comes, it comes, and that may just be the beginning of another great adventure, who knows.

So MikeyDude, from another Mike, stiff upper lip, and get out there and embrace the day, and don't be wasting the days you have left, worrying about the days you have left.
 
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Do you ever feel as old as you do when you buy a bag for life and you look at that plastic carrier and realise that the shop expects it to last longer than you? :confused: Oh the triumph when I stomp back in that shop, hold up my battered bag for life and announce that it has expired before me :D
 

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