Do You Get More Lonely This Time of the Year?

I am not lonely, I just live alone (except for my pet). I have people in my life and lots of neighbors since I live in an apartment complex for seniors. Most everyone gets along very well and we have planned activities if we choose to participate. I don't do much for Christmas. Just can't wait for it to be over and life gets back to normal. I decorate for it and make a nice meal but no gifts and no crazy shopping.
 

Pepper said:
And that is why.............
I can't sympathize with people surrounded by people who whine that they are lonely. Cry me a river. 😭
If that's lonely it will have to do until the Real Thing comes along.
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Y'know @Pepper, sometimes the MOST lonely feeling ever is to be surrounded by people and yet have zero connection to them, to continue to feel completely isolated. I've been there. Married with kids, and yet because of the dysfunctional relationship my husband had with the kids and me, the abuse and control, that was the loneliest I have ever felt in my life to the point that I became suicidal.

On the other hand, I am comfortable being alone for extended periods of time. It doesn't trouble me.
 
For all my life I spent Christmas with either my parents, and then my Mum. When she died in 2012, I spent a few years either with my sister's daughter, or with my sister, but for some years my sis has gone to be with her family, leaving me on my own. Or because it wasn't possible to go along to my niece. It didn't help that 2 years ago I took on a Westie pup, which severely limited where I could go and what to do.

For two years I went along to a community cafe in my local park, where they served up a meal and gave us the opportunity to talk to other people. This year, however, sis came to me for breakfast then went on to her youngest daughter so it was then just me and the dog. So I drove us the 2-3 miles to the promenade and we walked along by the sea, in the sunshine, greeting others.

I have had to stop this lonely feeling because it is what it is. But I wouldn't give up my dog.
 
Jazzy said:
For all my life I spent Christmas with either my parents, and then my Mum. When she died in 2012, I spent a few years either with my sister's daughter, or with my sister, but for some years my sis has gone to be with her family, leaving me on my own. Or because it wasn't possible to go along to my niece. It didn't help that 2 years ago I took on a Westie pup, which severely limited where I could go and what to do.

For two years I went along to a community cafe in my local park, where they served up a meal and gave us the opportunity to talk to other people. This year, however, sis came to me for breakfast then went on to her youngest daughter so it was then just me and the dog. So I drove us the 2-3 miles to the promenade and we walked along by the sea, in the sunshine, greeting others.

I have had to stop this lonely feeling because it is what it is. But I wouldn't give up my dog.
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Yes, it is what it is. I know what you mean about not giving up your dog--wouldn't give mine up either.
 
Old&InTheWay said:
I am so lonely too, so lonely, but at the same time I prefer to be sans people. Yet I join up hoping to talk! I guess my existence is lead by confusion boats - mutiny from stern to bow.
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This is a pretty interesting site. Hopefully you can find enjoyment in the goings on around here. I read that many seniors are thankful for the social interaction they find on online forums; some of whom can't get out and about.
 

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