Do you have one sided Friendships?

When I read about the topic of "one-sided friendships," it took me back to my friends. I have friends that I have maintained contact since college years. A few of them died over the years from COVID and cancer. The friends I have now are mostly "two-sided." We talk on the phone if we are long-distance. They will call or I will call. I had many friends from church and they will maintain contact via Social Media. Others, whom I met in the last few years, we go out for lunch to celebrate someone's birthday and chat and laugh a bit. I cherish those moments. They need me as much as I need them. But I think I have more acquaintances than friends at this point in life.
 
Our family make up our frlends at this age. My wife has one friend left that she chats with fairly regularly. They've been friends since childhood, my wife 89 and her friend 90. My last two close friends passed away in the last couple of years. One from my teens and the other a bit younger, in his 60's.

Fortunately, we are surrounded by our kids, grands , and great grands. All of our kids are in their 60's. They take good care of us and it makes for a wonderful end to our lives as we enter our early 90's.
 
Until last year I had a one-sided friendship with a woman I met in a group exercise class about 8-9 years ago. Both she and her husband were members of the gym where the classes were given and the three of us got along well. She and I would make plans to meet up for lunch periodically BUT about 1/3rd of the time she wouldn't show up...always an excuse. And then when she did make it to our lunches, she was constantly on her phone either talking with her daughter or her husband or reading texts. Rude. I didn't see any reason to continue the friendship. It lacked substance and connection and I was tired of her lack of consideration.

She texted me one day last October to say that she hadn't heard from me in a while and was wondering if everything was okay. I told her almost verbatim what I wrote in the paragraph above. She was surprised and angry. We haven't spoken since and never will again.
 
I don’t have any one-sided friendships.

I’ve quoted it here before….we have friends for a reason, a season or a lifetime and that’s been very true for me.

I have a core group of women I’m very close to, we text each other every day and get together from time to time. Have a group texting thread as well. They’re married, all but one whose husband passed away several years ago, and we get together as couples as well. The guys are great, I’m just not as close to them as I am to the women. Ron gets on really well with the husbands too
 

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