Do you have one that got away in your life?

hellomimi

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My gf and I were discussing our TOTGA (the one that got away) at lunch. It brought back happy memories for me. His name is Andy. He was accompanying a patient at the ER when we met. Overall nice guy ~ good looking, decent, well educated and most important, he adored me 🥰💘 BUT...I knew we weren't a good match. His mom was a meddling biatch. In our culture, one doesn't just marry the person, they marry the family, if not the whole clan. Oh yes! my friends asked me if I can stand an intrusive MIL. The relationship didn't last, she was meddling while we were dating. I still pine for him, especially now that I'm single again. Who knows..., serendipity might be lurking.

Got TOTGA in your life?
 

When I went to Germany, in the USAF, my high school girlfriend, and I, got engaged....with the idea of my spending about a year in Germany, then coming back to the States, getting married, and taking her to Germany. However, after a few months in Germany, my world began to change, and I called off the engagement.

Eventually, I found a cute little Fraulein, and we got married....that was 55 years ago, and we're still doing good.

I ran into my old girlfriend a few years later, at a HS reunion, and without going into details, I think I made the right decision.
 
The one I had a crush on, all through high school, came calling after we were out of school. Problem was, I had a boyfriend by then. I sometimes wonder how things would have turned out, had I gone with him to the party he'd invited me to. Perhaps we would have at least had a friendship.
 
As a freshman in high school, while standing with my friends... my heart started to pound and my eyes were bouncing.,. when I laid eyes on what I thought was the most handsome guy in school. He was a senior and had girls swarming around him. I continued to have a crush on him for years to come. Nothing ever became of this though. He married in his early 30s and is still married. I ran into him once at the grocery store back home and just ignored him. He has made quite a career and is quite wealthy; living in San Antonio. I think I have a much better man in my life.
 
Several. The most significant was the last woman was involved with before meeting and marrying my current (second) wife. She and I worked at the same company and in the same division but in different groups. She was one in a group that played games at lunch and we connected on several levels. When we were teamed up on team related games where one person gave clues and the other guessed we were almost unstoppable. We had lunch a few times together and then one afternoon/evening we headed up to San Francisco for dinner and ended up at her apartment that evening.

It was so easy for me to be with her. I never felt that I had to do anything other than be myself, but she inspired me to do so much more than that. Over the next six months we would often spend the night at one of our places or the other. I have never felt as accepted and have never been given as much affection as I got during our time together. However she was a few years younger than me and we were in different phases of our lives. She eventually broke up with me and it's the hardest break up I've ever lived through.
 
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While I understand the married ones aren't naming their TOTGAs, I dare the singles to give at least their first names. Okay?

Andy's family was one of the wealthiest in our country that's why his mom was snooty and condescending. She was the type who thought no one is good enough for her kids. Adios biatch!!! I wasn't and won't be after wealth. I live comfortably with what I have and it's enough to make me 😊
 

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