Do you know of any "Family Secrets" ???????

fuzzybuddy said:
What is the reason your cousin doesn't admit he's married?
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I've never spoken to him about it. Maybe, in part, it had something to do with bringing her here to the UK as a legal resident as quickly as possible. Love and wanting to be together with someone can do strange things to some people. A quick marriage on one continent where the family on another can't attend so quickly. And not wanting to disappoint the other side of the family perhaps produced a marriage partly in secrecy. Maybe with a half thought that he would figure out how to break it to the other side of the family later. Something that in the end never happened.

Or at least not until Ansestry.com sent me an automated message saying that two people with the same name as my cousin and his 'fiance', and the same ages, have been linked to a marriage record in the US. My first thoughts were that it was just a coincidence. Then when I looked into it further, everything fitted, including her middle name, her maiden name and the family name from her previous marriage. And the realisation that they still visit her family in San Antonio, where the marriage took place.

The only reason I put them together on my family tree on Ancestry was because they had lived together in the UK for so long. If I hadn't added her I would probably never have known.
 

Yes. When my father was alive there were hints that he might be gay. He lived with another guy in college. We visited the older man who housed them and he had statues and tchotchkes everywhere. My father minored in music and had tons of records with old show tunes. Those were hints.

He married my mother when he was 35 and she was 25. He was already established and she was beautiful. He was religious and a successful businessman and was determined to "fit in". He was always accepting of me and my partner. My mother told me he was gay after he passed away. It was surprising but it all made sense.

But what always blows me away is that my Uncle, who was always good-looking and a ladies' man, had an affair with his brother's daughter (his niece). And his daughter and his niece still keep in touch. In my view, it's disgusting. Yes, I come from a very dysfunctional extended family.
 

Since we're on a roll, as a kid I knew my paternal Grandfather as a great man who took me with him on painting jobs after he retired, gave me 50 Cent pieces every time I saw him, baked cakes and delivered them to neighbors and had his name on a plaque as one of the founders of the First Baptist Church in his little town.

It was only after he passed away that I learned he was a drunk and a philanderer in his younger years. My Grandmother developed dementia and put chairs up against the doors in her house before she went to bed, saying she would not let him back in after his night of carousing. She was remembering their younger years. :(
 
I was the youngest of six. The two oldest (twins) knew all the family secrets but for the sake of pride they wouldn’t tell the rest of us anything. I suspect we had a sister we never knew about and we’ll never know now. One twin has died and the other twin has dementia. It’s sad not knowing important parts of your history.
 
My maternal great grandmother was rumored to be somewhat of a floozy in her younger days, and my brother was told my grandmother's father wasn't her father.
I never heard about any of this until after my mom passed away.
Had an uncle that was closet gay until after his father died, then it became common knowledge. When we were teenagers, we joked about "Uncle Vern and Aunt Doug"
Not such big secrets now, but scandalous back in the day.
I had a cousin that was adopted and didn't know it until she was a teenager
 
SeniorSally said:
I was the youngest of six. The two oldest (twins) knew all the family secrets but for the sake of pride they wouldn’t tell the rest of us anything. I suspect we had a sister we never knew about and we’ll never know now. One twin has died and the other twin has dementia. It’s sad not knowing important parts of your history.
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start with looking for their surnames as kids and birth place on ancestry. From there you can possibly make your way back.
 

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