Do you know where you're going to be buried ?

hollydolly

hollydolly

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Having just read a post where someone mentioned they were standing in the very place where their ashes will be eventually held....

Have you decided the exact place where you want to be buried or your ashes left... ?

I kinda don't want to know tbh.. might sound silly to some, but there is no family plot or grave, so no connection to any one place..... and I've made my daughter promise that she will not have me buried here where I live now.. to be left alone with no family around ( she lives 2 hours away) ..but exactly where I will end up hasn't been discussed. Perhaps I should start looking around for a choice of a nice place.....but at least for me.. I wouldn't want it to be somewhere I pass every day now.. it would give me the creeps thinking that the local cemetery or churchyard etc was just waiting for me to pop my clogs.. :D

What about you folks ?
 

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Yes. I know this is a morbid topic, but after my late husband died, I made the decision then. I also made sure my mother's site and funeral were prepaid (helped her with the expenses). I have been saving money on the side for my own funeral expenses. I also am consider prepaying, but not sure yet if it is worth it. Just planning ahead....
 

Have several options but haven't chosen one. Could be ...

Veteran's cemetery ... somewhere
Burial at sea ... somewhere
Ashes scattered ... somewhere

Mother and father have a cemetery lot in the town I grew up in. There's a spot there I could have.
Mom always said she wished and hoped that I'd be buried there with her and my dad and other extended family around.

At the end of the day, doesn't really matter to me and would be of no concern to me of course.
I anticipate few to none will be seeking closure upon my demise. But if so, do as they like regardless.
 
I already have my tombstone in place waiting for me in a local rural cemetery where several relatives are already buried. It's about a ten minute drive from where I live. My cremated ashes will be interred there in a very informal gathering of friends. I designed the stone a few years ago and I was there when the monument firm put it in place.
 
hollydolly said:
is that close to where you live Nathan?...if so, do you walk around there, do you know exactly where your plot will be..?

I don't find this a morbid subject I think so many of including me really haven't made plans.. and perhaps should...
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It is about 30 miles, we've been there for several funerals. We haven't made specific plans yet, but is on the ToDo list so that the kids don't have to deal with it.
 
hollydolly said:
Having just read a post where someone mentioned they were standing in the very place where their ashes will be eventually held....

Have you decided the exact place where you want to be buried or your ashed left... ?

I kinda don't want to know tbh.. might sound silly to some, but there is no family plot or grave, so no connection to any one place..... and I've made my daughter promise that she will not have me buried here where I live now.. to be left alone with no family around ( she lives 2 hours away) ..but exactly where I will end up hasn't been discussed. Perhaps I should start looking around for a choice of a nice place.....but at least for me.. I wouldn't want it to be somewhere I pass every day now.. it would give me the creeps thinking that the local cemetery or churchyard etc was just waiting for me to pop my clogs.. :D

What about you folks ?
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LOL @ pop your clogs!

I have no clue what will happen to me. Mom sold my plot in the family grave site. Not allowed a living will since I have nothing to leave anyone. The only thing I'll get is and of life paperwork.
 
My parents are buried up north, 1200 miles away, I have not been in that area in decades, have no expectation of ever going up there again.
My late wife and I discussed it and bought prepaid cremations. Ashes are to be scattered in the Gulf of Mexico near here. Hers will be next week, it will be from a boat and some family will attend. Mine when the time comes, no rush.
 
I'm pretty sure that nothing has been available where most of my relatives lie for quite a long while. That cemetery is now hemmed in by highway and housing development, so expansion is out of the question.

I should probably bring it up with my ex. I don't know her plans (beyond a cremation preference) and we have 3 sons together. I'd almost like to find a nearby new place where I might be able to acquire a block of plots and columbarium niches as a new "family resting space." I'm not certain that is even possible though. I think we need to have a family discussion.
 
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