Do you share your gifts?

[Vicky]

Do you share your gifts? – Just a discussion topic.

When a person gives you a gift, they are giving the item to you. Do you share that gift? Or keep it for yourself, since it was meant for you only?

Some people I know share their gifts received such as a box of candy, basket of fruits, bottle of expensive wine/liquor, gourmet meats, gift card to a fancy restaurant, or anything else that can be split up, which includes inheritance money. However, at times the Giver becomes hurt, because that gift was meant for you, and you alone.

What are your viewpoints on gifts: As a Giver and Receiver?

 

[DebraMae]

I believe when you give a gift it then belongs to that person to do with as they please.

I would share I think, unless it was chocolate!

 

[Vicky]

As a Receiver: I keep my gifts for myself. Years ago, I would share the item with only the people I deeply love (my husband or children). Now I live on my own and keep the gift item for myself.
As a Giver: I become a little hurt when the item is shared, because I spent time or made the item specially for them. I have to remind myself that the gift now belongs to them to do as they wish.

 

[Aunt Bea]

IMO gifts should be given freely without strings or conditions.

I don’t see anything wrong with sharing or regifting but I wouldn’t mention it to the giver unless they were a part of it, like sharing a restaurant meal using a gift card.

 

[That Lady in PA]

When a person gives you a gift, they are giving the item to you. Do you share that gift? Or keep it for yourself, since it was meant for you only?

When I receive a gift, it is mine to do with as I wish.
When I give a gift, it is theirs to do with as they wish.

However, at times the Giver becomes hurt, because that gift was meant for you, and you alone.

So, if you gift me a bottle of wine, you will be hurt when I give my husband a glass??
He can't snuggle under an afghan made for me?
etc.

That is utterly ridiculous!

 

[OneEyedDiva]

If someone gives a box of candy or bottle of wine, I don't see the harm in offering someone a piece or a glass. I'm not saying give away the entire box or bottle, however. In that case, it would be wise to not display or open such gifts if there are a lot of people around. I think sharing from a gift one recieves is different from re-gifting that item, which I can understand would be hurtful to the giver.

 

[Llynn]

When I was in the Navy, our ship had an unofficial alert system (I think the Postal Clerks were behind it).
Whenever someone got a package word of its arrival reached your department before the package did and all your "buddies" showed up to help you enjoy your newly arrived goodies.

I've always been a sharer because I enjoy seeing my friends be happy.

 

[MACKTEXAS]

Ha, I was just thinking of someone who mailed me a Christmas gifts last year, a size extra large shirt. I wear size medium, so I couldn't use it. I had no receipt to return it, and no idea where it came from, so I finally gave it to a friend who could wear it. If I give anything to someone, I try to be very sure it is something they can use.

 

[That Lady in PA]

I think sharing from a gift one recieves is different from re-gifting that item

Oh yes, I agree; sharing and re-gifting are vastly different!


The OP is about sharing, though.
My neighbor was just here. She was gifted banana bread, and she knows how much we love it. She brought over two generous slices for us to enjoy! I cannot see why anyone would have a problem with that.

 

[Babs2u]

If its a cheese board I will share.
If its a Ghirardelli intense dark chocolate bar it is all mine.
If it is a sweater or T-shirt from a friend I will wear it at least once.

 

[chic]

I've shared fruit baskets and boxes of candy gifts many times in my life. I feel food gifts were made to be shared. The rest I keep for myself like gift cards etc.

 

[Twostep]

It all depends.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

When you gift someone , once you give it to that person, it is up to them what they do with it . They can keep it, give it away , throw it away or share it with others. The gift is no longer yours, so none of your business whatsoever’s done with it. If you are that attached to the gifts you give, you shouldn’t give any gifts away.

 

[Vicky]

When I receive a gift, it is mine to do with as I wish.
When I give a gift, it is theirs to do with as they wish.


So, if you gift me a bottle of wine, you will be hurt when I give my husband a glass??
He can't snuggle under an afghan made for me?
etc.

That is utterly ridiculous!

I don't feel hurt if the bottle of wine (as a gift) is shared with a husband or deeply love one. With casual friends, then "maybe" yes.

 

[Vicky]

I agree with the statement "share a piece or 2, but not the whole box." Well said.

My gift giving thoughts dates back to a young child. I did tasks around the house and saved up enough money to buy my mother a birthday gift. She loved chocolate coated cherries, so I used up all my money to get her this. A day later, a friend of hers visits. She shares the coated cherries with her. Then offers the remaining box for her to take home. Geee, I bought this for my mother to please her, not her friend. I didn't mind the sharing of a piece, but when she offered the remaining amount to take home, I was hurt. I guess everyone has a story as to why they feel/think the way they do.

 

[LoveTulips]

The receiver can do whatever they like with the gift. Sometimes I myself have received gifts , whereby I thought, why in the world did you think I would like this?? And it has been re-gifted or given away to someone else. Usually they were hand made gifts.