Do you still remember your manners with your nearest and dearest ?

hollydolly

hollydolly

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Often we are extremely polite to strangers but take our own family for granted, and just go with the flow, forgetting our manners at times...

It just occurred to me that my husband and I would never ask each other to do something without saying please or thank you... and when we have a day away..or an extended holiday we always say..''thank you for a lovely day'' to each other at the end of the day... or he will always thank me for dinner or doing his ironing etc... do you still remember your manners with your nearest and dearest.. or do you just take it for granted they know you're grateful for whatever they do for you, or you them?


Do you have any really ungrateful members of your family?
 

My hubby & I always say thank you ,you're welcome , I appreciate stuff ..... Manners shouldn't die when you get married ! We're always saying "I love you because ..." and compliment each other every day. :)
 
Sometimes a tone of voice indicates a "please" between my grandson and I. We always thank each other, however.

Unfortunately, when he burps loudly he won't ask to be excused- says he's "home" and I shouldn't care. Hah.

We always are mannerly among the rest of our family.
 
I always remember my manners and so glad to see that my daughter is raising their sons with good manners as well. The 4 year old held the door open for me in a restaurant. It was so heavy he had all to do to hold it open. So sweet. My hubby was raised a bit different. They aren't slobs but if there is only a bit left in a bowl on the table and they want it, they take it. I was always told to offer it around and if know one wanted anymore then I could have it. I never was allowed to start eating until everyone was seated at the table. I was horrified one Thanksgiving when the hubby loaded his plate like he was at a buffet before anyone was seated. I mentioned it to him afterwards. He said it was just easier and people didn't have to take the time to pass the food to him. He saw nothing wrong with his actions. I made him see the light that night and he never did it again.
 
My family are all polite to each other.

There is a guy in my bridge group, otherwise very intelligent, who is completely lacking in that kind of manners. It is so irritating. If he wants something on the table, say a pencil, he points to it and says, "Gimme that." I have to wonder what kind of home he was brought up in.
 
JaniceM said:
Yes, I believe manners are important.

The thread reminded me of this: a few years ago, I heard from Seniors in this city "Manners are a sign of weakness." What do you guys make of that?
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Your post made me think of this quote attributed to Al Capone - “Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me.”

 
Aunt Bea said:
Your post made me think of this quote attributed to Al Capone - “Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me.”

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Everyone who knows me will tell you that Phrase is my Mantra... '' never mistake my kindness for weakness because you will see a side of me you will never forget''
 
We were both raised to have manners and be polite. For the most part we'll say please and thank you often for many things, but we're not that rigid in everyday life with each other. So we'll skip the please and thank yous for many daily interactions, working on something, doing things with the pets, we just may ask with no please. We're very respectful of each other and often times give and get sincere thanks from the heart. Even with my pets I'll say 'excuse me', or 'can you move please'. :sentimental:
 
chic said:
I'm polite everywhere to everyone. It's a sign of respect and that's important. IMHO. :)
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me too Chic , but I have worked with the public for a long time, and I often noticed how people could be quite polite to strangers and staff , yet snap the heads off their partners or families right there in public, so I wondered if people generally still have good manners with their own nearest and dearest
 
I have always for near to 40 years addressed every letter, note, email to my wife as
Dear Ms. gamboolgal.....

And closed with Love, gamboolman....

I always hold the door for her and introduce her as my wife.

She set the hooks deep into me the first time I laid eye's on her on Sat, 13-Jan-79......

Life's a Dance and You Learn As You Go Along.....
 
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