Do You Want to be Cared for by Your Family

Timewise 60+ said:
After being a caregiver for both my mother and father-in-law there is one thing, I learned relevant to many who posted here.

You probably will not 'go out' the way you want to.

It may come slowly or with a sudden illness that leaves you unable to care for yourself. Therefore, do not assume you will have control or have a quick death, it frequently does not go that way. Have a plan to take care of yourself in case you cannot take care of yourself. Let others who you can trust know about your plans and promise to follow your wishes. A good Trust lawyer can help you set something up to provide funding and direction to your caregivers. They also will help to make sure your wishes are being followed. Of course, this also, comes at a cost.
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I agree. Kind of the same here; over a 10 year period, I was primary caregiver for 5 elderly parents and only one "went out" the way she wanted to (well, almost, she'd rather it'd been my sister instead of me caring for her), dying in her own home.
 

You mean in the same way that I have cared for them. You bet. We have cared for family, young and old, over the years. Some have passed, others continue on, hopefully, to old age.

We live among family and always have. We live in the home where I was born back in 1933, as did my parents and grandparents . My folks and grandparents died in this house and hopefully my wife and I will as well . In fact she cared for my mom back in the mid 60's (with visits from a nurse) and would comb my mother's hair every day to make her feel better about herself. She died at home after a long illness. Dad passed within a few months, from a sudden heart attack.

We gave this house and property to our youngest daughter with a life lease to live out our days here, That was back in 1995 and the best move we ever made. Now the six of us share the old homestead. Daughter, SIL, and 2 - 20 year old grandkids. We have no idea how it's going to end for us but I expect and hope for, the same level of help and caring.
 

I have a policy for LTD when I get so old that I have to be tended to. I think it covers up to $2500 per day for a few years or something like that. I have to get out the policy and read over it again. That doesn't sound right.
 
no family left to care for me..I also have a modified DNR/DNI posted on the fridge door and in my med records at all my care facilities. But I dont think I want to go out laying on my back suffocating because I cant breathe. I am thinking of other ways.
 
My youngest son said he would live with me if I can’t live alone. Him and I have lived together many times and get along well. If I can’t physically care for myself then I will not burden him. Obviously if I get dementia it’s off to a home. I helped care for both my parents but neither lived with me.
 

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