Does a mother dictate the wellbeing of the family?

[Jamala]

If one person "dictates" then there is no harmony. As long as there is love and team work any "family" situation can work.
These days it is difficult to have the ideal family situation with both parents working to either keep food on the table ... or... to keep up with the Jones's.

I have been fortunate never having to work a day in my life if I did not wish to... however... I am not the totally domesticated type of woman... I love being with my peers, and being involved in work allowed me that. My husband completely supported me and our children did not miss a thing because my office was always at home. They came first in everything.

Not many people are able to do that...so... we must cut working parents some slack... they are doing what they have to do.
I've known many mothers who work outside of home and are better role models than many of those who stay at home.

 

[palides2021]

It is my old fashioned view that a good woman makes a good family and stable home. A competent, hardworking wife and mother keeps it all going in good and hard times.

We are led to think anything goes nowadays, it's hard to see what a family unit is. I just don't understand it but I think it's the way to nowhere and chaos in many cases. For me it is man, woman, children. The traditional is tried, tested and though it may not be perfect, surely it is still the best model to strive for?

I'm not sure if a mother "dictates the wellbeing of a family" but she sure has an important role to play! When we were young, my mother would be home, but as we grew older, she would take odd jobs here and there. My dad was home a lot after his injury, so there was always a parent at home growing up.

I was a career woman for the first thirty-some years of my life. After I married, I continued working (and doing housework and cooking. When our son came into our lives a few years later, we decided that I stay home and raise our son and homeschool him. We had to adjust our lifestyle living with a baby in the house (naps, crying) and also making do with only one paycheck, but we did it. There were picnics in the park rather going out to restaurants, and less vacation trips and purchases. But we managed to pay off our mortgage and thrive all the years we were married. We built a small empire, if that makes sense.

We were constantly growing and doing, and our son was doing well. Besides ensuring a good family home, I also wrote books which kept my mind active and brought in extra income. I would not change it one bit. After my husband passed away, it was more difficult to maintain the same family environment without him, but my son and I managed, and we continued to do well. He is now going for his Master's in Divinity.