Does it bother you when people don't like you?

Uptosnuff said:
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
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It could be the result of somebody backstabbing you. I've had that happen to me on occasion.
 

Uptosnuff said:
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
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Yes I agree with that. I've actually had that happen when there just seemed to be no apparent reason for it at all.. and no-one would say what was wrong !! Very odd behaviour :cautious:
 
More history for you re: this guy. I was having my family over to celebrate Mother's day a few years ago and there were so many cars at my place that some spilled out of the driveway and along the street. One car was close to THIS GUY'S house. I told the owner to leave a note on it explaining what was going on and not to have the their car towed but to call my number if the car was inconveniencing anyone and needed to be moved. We never got any calls but when this guest left there was a parking ticket on the car and I really believe it was this guy just being a P on a major holiday to make someone unhappy. 😡

I'm getting out my witch's brew.

:ROFLMAO:
 

JonDouglas said:
Whether someone likes me or not isn't something I give much thought to. I try to treat people with respect and consideration but not at the expense of compromising my beliefs, understanding and behavior. If that doesn't work for them, then it's their issue and not mine.. Also, I do not automatically dislike someone who dislikes me. This is to say it doesn't bother me if someone doesn't like me. There have been cases where I felt honored not to be liked by someone.
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Must admit...I have to ponder a bit on your reply...as not sure if I agree or disagree with it. With regards to a distasteful individual in my life, I get the urge to write about them in a story...anonymously of course.
 
chic said:
More history for you re: this guy. I was having my family over to celebrate Mother's day a few years ago and there were so many cars at my place that some spilled out of the driveway and along the street. One car was close to THIS GUY'S house. I told the owner to leave a note on it explaining what was going on and not to have the their car towed but to call my number if the car was inconveniencing anyone and needed to be moved. We never got any calls but when this guest left there was a parking ticket on the car and I really believe it was this guy just being a P on a major holiday to make someone unhappy. 😡

I'm getting out my witch's brew.

:ROFLMAO:
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It's very annoying Chic, but there's someone like that in every neighbourhood...just treat him with the contempt he deserves, and act as if he's invisible..
 
Ruby Rose said:
With regards to a distasteful individual in my life, I get the urge to write about them in a story...anonymously of course.
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Me too!

reminds me of something I writ a few decades ago;


Who dost thou think thou art?

Between oil field jobs, I worked at a private golf course.
River Oaks Country Club.
Quite the area, and a good example of how things once were.
River Oaks blvd had this huge entry gate. More symbolic than functional. It separated tiny houses outside the gate from the mansions within.
Pillared edifices with huge manicured grounds lined the boulevard, ending with the ‘club house’, pillars, fountains, white jacketed people of color opening doors, stepping, fetching. ‘Yah, suh’.
I was mowing tees one Saturday morning, and shut my equipment down to give the twosome a shot at the green on this par three.
These guys were owners of things, like NFL teams.
Before they got into their swing regimen I asked if any of them knew what time it was.
‘Is he talking to you?’
I didn’t realize that my ranking as a member of the human race did not rate higher than a third person, an entity to ignore, snub, or order to bring something.
‘They wouldn’t give me the time of day’ became a reality for me that morning.
I watched the dried up bitter old geezer twist his beef jerky torso and flail his pretzel arms, culminating in a feeble swing, sending yet another worm burner half way to the hole.
Sad, but this, among all atrocious, is what I hate most.
Yeah, there’s idiots that happen to drive, kids (18-28) that need a good spanking, and haters that in reality fear people that are not like them, and just downright mean people.
But, I so wish for the self-appointed royalty to be brought down, disrobed of their haughtiness, and abased in front of their subjects.
 
Having others even everyone like me was a hang-up for me when I was much younger. The older I get and the more I read about human behavior, the more curious I become about the people that may not like me or others who do not like each other. We are such fascinating beings.
Our egos can lead us into very petty trivial places.
 
I learned a long time ago to just carry on quietly as I am and not worry too much about others . Generally good friends over the years have been honest and i have always valued their input.
“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”
– Oscar Wilde
 
I couldn’t care less if people don’t like me, chances are I don’t like them.

By the sound of it chic, he dosn’t even know you,I’d just ignore him, let him get on with it, I certainly wouldn’t be baking him cookies !

(Incidentally when I first saw my neighbour, he took one look at me, turned round and went back in his house. :oops: now he comes into mine for his dinner each evening)
 
Uptosnuff said:
What really bothers me is when I have been friends or at least friendly with people and all of a sudden that changes and they don't want anything to do with me. Hubby and I were friends with the owners of a local winery. Did things together, were very friendly. Something happened, apparently, and now even when we go to the winery they are very remote.

That kind of thing bothers me more than someone not liking me right off the bat.
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Back when I was still working, there were a couple of guys--let's call 'em Guy A and Guy B--at work who'd been friends for a long time. I noticed that the friendship seemed to be kind of cooling off: they weren't going for coffee or lunch together nearly as often. One day Guy A mentioned how he'd been getting tired of how much Guy B kept talking about the home he'd recently bought, the improvements he was going to make to it, etc. and how boring that had become to listen to. And that's true, Guy B had been talking about it a lot. But Guy A was always talking about his kids and grandkids. That was different, I guess.
 
chic said:
I have a neighbor who doesn't like me and lets me know it. Every time. If I run into him and try to say hello or make polite chit chat he doesn't even look me in the eye but mumbles something kind of surly.
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chic, you shouldn't even let it ruffle your tail feathers. My life as a the big frog in a small puddle, otherwise known as the general manager, has had some serious conflict. Confrontation, it goes with the territory. But for you, just trying to be neighbourly, getting not only the cold shoulder, but some sort of mumbled put down, just do what others have suggested and walk away.

When I put the barrack room lawyer firmly in his place, he let fly with a string of profanities, he was big, muscular, like to get into a fight and he intimidated everyone at work. I said to him:
"My mother taught me, as a child, that there was good in everyone, sometimes though, you had to look extra hard to see it. But in your case my mother was wrong. The goodness intended for you probably ran down your mother's leg at the moment of conception." He just stared at me open mouthed, so I told him to think about all those he intimidated and bullied. A week later he resigned.
 
You can't please everyone all the time and some of them only some of the time. Some people get miffed off all the time and you just can;t please them no matter what you do. If someone doesn't like me and just a neighbour; I ignore them. If it is someone I had a good relationship with and then they are ignoring me, I may ask them why.
 
Why not just treat him like he doesn't exist? It's a lot easier than the alternative. Some of my dopey neighbors felt that I didn't like them and proceeded to make a lot of trouble for me. We all wound up in court which led to a lot of trouble for them and it was all so needless.
 
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