Does where you live or what you're living in effect family visits?

There is a vast difference between a "trailer park" and a +55 mobile home park. Trailer park seems to have an image of old single wide trailers with a mangy dog and an old car in front up on blocks.
The park we lived in for 15 years was beautifully landscaped, and the homes were manufactured homes, not those old "tin can" types. Below is a photo of our home it is 1400 sq ft has 2 br, 2 baths, and a family room.

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IrishEyes said:
Yes, very much the same type setting. The prices range in different areas or states. This is why I can't understand why some
adult children think their parents are shaming them to live in these types of communities.
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Lol I thought you meant these.

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My grandma had one like that with her cousin on a holiday park. She lived in a flat and in the summer she went there and we visited.
 
When I saw this thread title I assumed it referred to geographic location. That was always our limitation: Thanks to my ex-husband's job we either lived in the DC area (2×) or, more often, some tiny town that was very far from family. I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times we had any family member, from either side, visit.

That's actually been a relief to me because my family of origin is not a happy one. I'm very content to have the excuse of being several states away from them.
 
Pappy said:
We spent 25 years in our manufactured home in a 55+ park. 1300 square feet, two baths, two bedrooms. It was a tough house as in 25 years of hurricanes and near misses it survived very well. Hated to sell it but circumstances required us to sell.
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pappy it was a beautiful home, I remember it well......good thing you sold tho'...... have you noticed how the house seems to be leaning to the right.... while the maibox seems to be level....:unsure:
 
hollydolly said:
pappy it was a beautiful home, I remember it well......good thing you sold tho'...... have you noticed how the house seems to be leaning to the right.... while the maibox seems to be level....:unsure:
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Probably the guy, me, taking the picture was leaning.🤭
Actually, the mailbox leaned a bit to the left.
This one’s my favorite.
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Our children chose to buy homes in this part of Los Angeles. When I was trying to convince DH to downsize he pointed out that a smaller house would spell the end of our half a dozen-ish parties with 25-40 family and friends. Talk about a mic drop moment. We're still here and our home remains the primary gathering place.

Extended family members live far away, DH's & my siblings included. When traveling to see my family we stay in hotels. Many friends and family offer to host gatherings while we're in town, but there are two homes we strongly prefer. Both are spacious, comfortable and the hosts have casual attitudes.
IrishEyes said:
As I have gotten to know many neighbors here I have heard the same story that saddens my heart.
"No, my kids will come pick me up and take me places but they won't come into my home and visit
because I live in a Mobile Home. They are disgusted I live in one, like it's a step down in class. Never mind
that I love living here, that my home now is easier to clean and cozy for me. It embarrasses them."
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This surprises and saddens me. I cannot help but wonder if something else isn't afoot.

Perhaps their grandchildren don't feel they have room to play or the freedom to make noise.

Another possibility: Small spaces can easily become fussy and cluttered with a life's worth of beloved knickknacks, photos, wall hangings, etc. The occupants become accustomed to an environment that can feel claustrophobic and chaotic to visitors.
 
IrishEyes said:
Yes, very much the same type setting. The prices range in different areas or states. This is why I can't understand why some
adult children think their parents are shaming them to live in these types of communities.
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Some individuals think 'status' is important..

It's a horrible way to look at things, but it does happen.
 
bowmore said:
There is a vast difference between a "trailer park" and a +55 mobile home park. Trailer park seems to have an image of old single wide trailers with a mangy dog and an old car in front up on blocks.
The park we lived in for 15 years was beautifully landscaped, and the homes were manufactured homes, not those old "tin can" types. Below is a photo of our home it is 1400 sq ft has 2 br, 2 baths, and a family room.

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That's for sure. My mobile was 32'x80' 4 bedrooms 3 baths. Then Of course... you had trailers :eek:


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No one in my family has ever cared what the rest of their family lives in and we have always visited. Five years ago I downsized to an 855 ft.² Condo but I purposely bought a two bedroom so that I could have overnight guests. I’ve had up to 10 people for dinner. I also can sleep four people because besides my guest room I have a queen size blowup air mattress that we can put in the living room.

My third mother-in-law was a hoarder and lived in a rundown trailer in a rundown trailer park. She was one of the nicest people I have ever met. We would invite her to our house, but we would also visit her in her home too. I wasn’t going to let the state of her home ruin our relationship.

Luckily she kept the living room clear so you could go in there and sit down. Although she hoarded items it was not filthy and it was not full of food or animal waste. She had a small dog that she took very good care of.

When she died, we had to empty the home because my husband was her only child. It was going to cost 20 K to have the 30 year-old mobile home hauled away to the dump.

Instead, we gave it to a young single mother who was thrilled to get it because all she had to do was pay the lot rent, which was much cheaper than rent anywhere. After it was empty, she cleaned it well and repainted the entire inside. It looked like a different place.
 
Sunkist said:
Some individuals think 'status' is important..

It's a horrible way to look at things, but it does happen.
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As a kid I lied that I lived elsewhere. I was ashamed of my parents' house because a friend who lived in front of us, in an even bigger house, was somehow jealous. No idea why and then I lied to parents who drove me back that I lived in the cheap part of town. They called it the gold coast where we lived. My dad worked worked worked to get a big house with a big yard for his kids and his kid was ashamed of it lol.
 
Our home here in Toronto was built in 1905, by my Grand Father who was a master builder. He built about 40 houses in this part of Toronto in a 30 year time span. It's a two story solid brick house. We live on the ground floor, and we have two long term tenants, one in the basement suite, and one on the second floor. Both of them are nice quiet professionals. One is a costume designer for movies and TV programs, while the other is a legal law firm paralegal. None of us smoke, or drink alcohol, so no noisy parties.

We are a five minute walk from one of the major streets in the city, which has a 24 hour street car line and buses every 5 minutes. JIMB>
 
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