Don't you wish sometimes you could put a firecracker under some people

debodun

debodun

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A friend told me that after her husband's death, the funeral home contacted her and said she was due some money back on the pre-paid service. Days went by and she didn't receive anything. I suggested that she go down to the funeral home. She said she would send them an e-mail reminder. When she heard back, the owner said he'd get her check in the mail that day. It's been a week and I saw her at the PO and asked if she received her reimbursement. She said she hadn't. I suggested she go to the funeral home in person and ask for it since hey could probably cut her one right away. She said she didn't want to go there.

She seems so timid and wishy-washy about it. If it were me, this is what would happen (pretend I'm the baby and the funeral director is the dog):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZomwVcGt0LE
 

Just a thought, maybe your friend is feeling emotional and vulnerable if she has recently lost her husband, and can't face returning to the place where she arranged his funeral (and maybe saw him for the last time) could be that a confrontation about money is the last thing on her mind at the moment.....
 
That's exactly it. Not wanting to go back to the funeral home or visit the cemetery makes some people depressed.

like my mother used to say. 'It wasn't a chicken that died'
 

Do her a favor. Get a note from her authorizing you to pick up the check.

Then show up on the doorstep. If it's ready he will just hand it to you because it will be made out to her or have her wait in the car while you go in.

I have been there. There are certain things in life you avoid like the plague and it's best to get someone else to do it for you.
 
I doubt that they are trying to cheat her out of it or they wouldn't have notified her she was due a refund. Maybe it's just normal course of business -- a week isn't a long time at all to order a check from accounts payable, get the check written, find someone to sign it, get it in the mail and for the mail to be delivered. It takes a while to go through the process -- at least it did everywhere I ever worked.
 
Wren said:
Just a thought, maybe your friend is feeling emotional and vulnerable if she has recently lost her husband, and can't face returning to the place where she arranged his funeral (and maybe saw him for the last time) could be that a confrontation about money is the last thing on her mind at the moment.....
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I agree with you completely Wren. If it's not a big issue for her Deb, it shouldn't get you excited either. Maybe she'll just send another email when she's ready. If I lost my husband, something petty like this would be the last thing on my mind. People like to handle these things in their own way, all of our personalities are different.
 

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