Drove down to San Francisco last weekend to visit my son. Did you retire close to your kids?

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Youngster

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My kids live out of town. I retired 35 miles away from the closest one. I can get to his place in less than 45 minutes. The other is a ten hour drive. Not too bad.
What about you? Are your kids (and your grand kids) still close?
 

My daughter and family (after living in California for 2 years) now lives 1 hour away; my 2 sons live in the UK. (I am in western Canada).

I thought it was great when all three decided to live/work out of country, Now the presssure is on my daughter to look after "mom". I am considering moving closer to my daughter but after 40 years in this house, I am very reluctant to make a change.
 
BC Flash said:
My daughter and family (after living in California for 2 years) now lives 1 hour away; my 2 sons live in the UK. (I am in western Canada).

I thought it was great when all three decided to live/work out of country, Now the presssure is on my daughter to look after "mom". I am considering moving closer to my daughter but after 40 years in this house, I am very reluctant to make a change.
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Don't be a burden to your children. Do what's best for them even if it inconveniences you.
 
In the past, I made an effort to live near my daughter. But she had her life, and we hardly ever saw each other.

I decided I might as well live elsewhere. As a result, she got to visit me in interesting places, instead of just across town.
 
Youngster Post #8: your post resonates my Dad's mantra. When he and mom were planning to buy a condo (I knew it will be a temporary situation as they both had health issues) I offered my "self contained basement". Mom would have loved it but Dad said different generations living in the same house won't work.
 
My oldest son and his wife live in the same town and I see them weekly. My youngest son is in Vietnam teaching English but will be coming home to visit in the fall. My middle son lives halfway across the country.
 
Youngster said:
Don't be a burden to your children. Do what's best for them even if it inconveniences young
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I get that, I have only one child a son. They are 20 to 30 minutes away. I don't think they will move away as the DIL's mother is also a widow. They are very good at checking in with the both of us to see if we need anything. I do not call them unless it is something urgent. My son does come at least a couple of times a month to do yard work and anything I need help with. His MIL has quite a large piece of property so has a garden service. I just do not know how I would function if they moved far away. I can hire a lawn service, but I do not think I could go without seeing my son for long lengths of time.
 
When we retired last year we moved homne to within 10 minutes of my 83 year old mum one way and youngest daughter and out likkle grandson 10min the other way. Our eldest daughter is now 4.5 hours away instead of 3.5 and our son is an hour away.
 
Moved to the city that both sons lived to be close, but main reason was that we enjoyed
the city when we visited them.
That was 13 years ago and have yet to regret the move.
We see our remaining son often and it is a comfort knowing he is close.

He's teaching me about Kayaking and I'm teaching him watch repair. Win/Win
 
My Daughter lives roughly 75 miles away... I only get to see her on high days and holidays because she works full time, and of course has her own life to lead when she's not at work. She lived abroad for many years so I had to pay to see her in the past, so now at least I don't have to pay... and she rings me twice a week... 🤗
 
When Mr.R retired two years ago,we left California for Idaho. Our eldest daughter moved here a week or so before us. So we have her here.But we have 3 other kids,16 grandkids and 3 greats in California. I still have a tough time with it. We do make the ten hour drive every three months and they do come to visit-although never all at once.That`s what I miss more than anything-having them all together in one place. Have to take what I can get.
 
Mine lives under 6 miles away. My grandson moved to MA, just over the state line, which is under an hour away.

I see my grandson about 2x per month. My son not as often.
 
Yes, we specifically retired to Florida to be close to our daughter and grandchildren. They are about 20 minutes away and we love getting to be a part of their lives. The other daughter, no kids, lives many hours away in the north near Canada.
 

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