There was a time when bullying at school was not tolerated. Sadly, as a few generations have passed, the kids are protected by their parents who will never accept that their kid is a bully. Also, since we are so sue conscious, no one wants to get involved for fear of losing everything. Let us be clear; in the USA our Constitution does not contain one word regarding one's right to privacy. No where can you find that word, yet some smart aleck law clerks for our Supreme Court Justices circumvented one's right to a pursuit of life, liberty and happiness, equates with privacy and it has been accepted in several cases as case law. But to intervene in a bullying situation no one's right to privacy is being abrogated and I feel it is incumbent upon teachers, parents and anyone else to put a stop to it before it gets out of hand. That's why all this bullying has been what is termed, "overlooked." Ignorance is not bliss, folks.
I never knew a time when schools seriously intervened when kids were bullied. Certainly not when I grew up in the 50s & 60s in NY & NJ. Children were left to sort problems out for themselves and if they were a little "different" - chubby, very short (boys), disabled, odd looking, effeminate boys or masculine girls, awkward, unable to manage their tempers, and so forth, they were ostracized or teased. After school fistfights between boys were commonplace.
During childhood and teens nearly everyone yearns to fit in, above all else.
To me, the lesson of this shooting is not whether this boy was bullied or mentally ill, but rather why our country doesn't have the courage to stand up to people who demand the right to unfettered access to lethal weapons. As it stands now, virtually anyone with a mind to "settle a score" can get access to weaponry that allows him (and it's nearly always a him) to do so. In spades.
Yes, this young man had a rough life. I get it. That said, the 19 children and 2 adults he murdered in cold blood were not responsible for his miseries.
Every time I go to Costco, a grocery store, or a place where many are gathered, I cannot help but wonder if this will be my unlucky day. I look around to search out where I could run, where I could hide? How long would it take the police to arrive? I have the same worries for my children and grandchildren as they go about their lives.
Will they be safe or will some crazed person with the means and motive cut short their lives?
Out of control gun ownership, particularly of automatic weaponry is little more than cutting our noses to spite our faces. When the next shooting happens - and there will be a next one, very soon - just remember to not ask for whom the bell tolls. It tolls for us all.
(Edited to correct grammatical errors.)