Emotional Maturity

My husband was emotionally immature. Too often things were a catastrophe for him and it was everyone's fault.
He never changed. My parents were the same way. Life leans toward the unfortunate, give yourself and everyone else a break, geez.
 
It states that emotionally mature people handle conflict or situations without unnecessarily escalating them.

They aren’t impulsive and never speak recklessly

They don’t rely on defence mechanisms of deflection

They respect boundaries

In short, they aren’t childish.

Here is another good article about emotionally childish people


https://www.google.ca/amp/s/exploringyourmind.com/5-traits-emotionally-immature-people/amp/

I‘m emotionally immature 😏🥺
 
I feel that I'm pretty mature, but I have my moments. I agree that social media gives immature, needy people a stage. I don't know what makes a person over-share their life in agonizing detail complete with pictures. :rolleyes: Seems a pathetic need for praise, drama, and approval from complete strangers is an odd phenomenon in this computer age.
 
Floridatennisplayer said:
Amen girl. I dropped out of FB last March. It was like I joined Junior High all over again!
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I’ve never joined Facebook , Twitter or any other social media platform and don’t often share pictures of myself but do share photos of the country side as well as our dogs. I probably am guilty of oversharing

I think the concept of addiction can’t be ruled out either since the internet can be very addictive.

I wonder what the main reason of emotional immaturity is.
 
Many children are forced to deny their feelings rather than express them. They grow up not knowing why they feel the way they do much less able to process what they and others feel, so as adults they only react. At least that's the most popular explanation. Take it or leave it. I think there comes a time when it becomes imperative to be responsible rather than impulsive and grow up already. No excuses like, this is just the way I am.
 
Keesha said:
It states that emotionally mature people handle conflict or situations without unnecessarily escalating them.

They aren’t impulsive and never speak recklessly

They don’t rely on defence mechanisms of deflection

They respect boundaries

In short, they aren’t childish.

Here is another good article about emotionally childish people


https://www.google.ca/amp/s/exploringyourmind.com/5-traits-emotionally-immature-people/amp/

I‘m emotionally immature 😏🥺
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In that case I'm immature. I get into a flap about quite trivial things.
 
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I suppose I am immature as I have been known to throw the occasional hissy fit which can turn into a full blown temper tantrum. Depends on how important I feel it is to take a stand.
 
dont think iam ' of course I have a good ole tantrum who dont ? think going on FB is a big no no -
it should have been called ----- the world and his wife -as everyone knows every ones business..thats what I call being
stupid and immature !!!!!!!!
 
Keesha said:
Do you think due to your upbringing it has caused you to be somewhat immature? It’s not meant to be an insult. I’m just curious if it’s crossed your mind before.
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My comment was sarcasm, Keesha.
Actually, in my family I started assuming domestic tasks in the home when I was in the fourth grade....ironing clothes; two years later I had become the cook, dishwasher and laundry manager. Mom's depression (expressed by sitting in a chair all day staring at the floor) compromised her own abilities in the domestic abilities department. I was also her personal caregiver.
I'll leave the assessment of my maturity level to anyone who cares to pass judgment on it.
By the way, I would be most interested to hear a definition of the term maturity....
And thank you so much Keesha for wondering if I've ever considered my upbringing.
 
Hmm.....I need to ponder this question while I'm playing with my army men. There's quite a battle brewing, as they go up against my mechanical dinosaur. It can get pretty intense on the battlefield, so it might take me a while to figure out how emotionally mature I am!
 
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I think as I get older I become more emotionally mature and am able to handle day to day things better - being retired helps this. I try to accept things that cross my path as I sign that I need to step back and look at it from other perspectives. A sort of "do unto others as you would have them do onto you". An mentally unstable twenty something son living at home helps you to learn extreme patience in the face of horrible odds. That being said, I find I have more patience with others I don't know. Anyways, I am rambling and it is time to go for my daily walk.
 
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I think of emotional maturity is a state where one can exhibit realistic, balanced behavior resulting from a measure of self control and emotional strength. And I think THAT comes from being self-aware.

I think it was Albert Einstein who said: " Maturity appears when we start to worry more about others than about ourselves.”

The kind of self-focus that would label one as selfish or narcissistic is definitely being emotionally immature. I don't see how it can be otherwise if you're going through life with the belief or desire that the world revolves around you. And from that mindset, I think comes the inability to take responsibility for one's action, commitment issues, and fiscal irresponsibility.

I've always thought of emotional immaturity as a deep lack of self-awareness. How can we be self-correcting as individuals, monitor and adjust inappropriate behavior, recognize issues and seek help for them, if we're not self-aware?
 
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Excellent topic, Keesha.
I think emotional immaturity begins if one does not feel safe or protected in early childhood. C'est Moi is on the right track, I believe, with her comment: "Perhaps the lack of attention or validation when very young?" I think it goes even deeper than that, to the root of how secure our caregivers made us feel.

Emotional immaturity is fear-based, IMO.
 
Judycat said:
Many children are forced to deny their feelings rather than express them. They grow up not knowing why they feel the way they do much less able to process what they and others feel, so as adults they only react. At least that's the most popular explanation. Take it or leave it. I think there comes a time when it becomes imperative to be responsible rather than impulsive and grow up already. No excuses like, this is just the way I am.
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That excuse of "this is just the way I am" is my granddaughter's favorite. At the age of 34, I am beginning to wonder if she will ever outgrow it. She is also addicted to social media which seems to feed her belief system.
 
Pepper said:
Excellent topic, Keesha.
I think emotional immaturity begins if one does not feel safe or protected in early childhood. C'est Moi is on the right track, I believe, with her comment: "Perhaps the lack of attention or validation when very young?" I think it goes even deeper than that, to the root of how secure our caregivers made us feel.

Emotional immaturity is fear-based, IMO.
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I am sure that this explains the situation for many folks, but there are exceptions. My parents were so immature that they had no business having children at all. As the oldest, I had to grow up in a hurry.
My two younger brothers both came to live with me when they were teens. I was 23 at the time and my parents sent me a small amount of child support for the younger one, but nothing for the 16 year old.
A few years later, I was given custody for my 13 year old sister by a court in Seattle.

So I am reluctant to speculate on what causes people to remain immature as adults. During my 31 years in the Navy, I knew many young people whose upbringing was terrible, and yet they matured into very stable mature people.

To me this is all a great unknown.

I like to think of myself as emotionally mature, but that doesn't mean that I don't find myself double checking my thinking.
 
Pecos said:
I am sure that this explains the situation for many folks, but there are exceptions. My parents were so immature that they had no business having children at all. As the oldest, I had to grow up in a hurry.
My two younger brothers both came to live with me when they were teens. I was 23 at the time and my parents sent me a small amount of child support for the younger one, but nothing for the 16 year old.
A few years later, I was given custody for my 13 year old sister by a court in Seattle.

So I am reluctant to speculate on what causes people to remain immature as adults. During my 31 years in the Navy, I knew many young people whose upbringing was terrible, and yet they matured into very stable mature people.

To me this is all a great unknown.

I like to think of myself as emotionally mature, but that doesn't mean that I don't find myself double checking my thinking.
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I also know younger people who have had a stable upbringing, responsible parenting, a good education and an abundance of opportunities, none of which has helped to foster their emotional security in the slightest.

I would suggest @Pecos that double checking your thinking is a very valid sign of emotional security. 😉
 
I am certainly more emotionally mature than I once was. Like most, I have my moods at times and some things can unhinge me some :ROFLMAO: I think I handle most situations pretty well generally. Walking away is something I have learned to do even though I don't always do it...hey, I'm human:LOL:
 

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