Encountering your ex., or reconciling your feelings so you eventually can speak

grahamg.....stop worrying about it. Forget what the church has taught you. If you don't love your ex and don't wish to see her after death...you won't. Simple as that.
Have you considered how she feels about the prospect of being together for eternity?
After you die (or to put it another way, when this life ends), all will be explained. There will be a reason that things happened as they did.
 
Rosemarie said:
grahamg.....stop worrying about it. Forget what the church has taught you. If you don't love your ex and don't wish to see her after death...you won't. Simple as that.
Have you considered how she feels about the prospect of being together for eternity?
After you die (or to put it another way, when this life ends), all will be explained. There will be a reason that things happened as they did.
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I think you've missed the post above where I poured doubt upon the suggestion I might be worried about anything, "but thanks for your concern and advice, just in case I was worrying", (plus my religious beliefs are closer to win231's than an average Catholic or other church goer, much though I believe in religions and churches for all the many benefits they bring, unlike my atheist ex., oh, cross off talking about religion topic"!). :)
 

Mormons often marry for "time and eternity", I wondered how that would work when Marie Osmond divorced her first husband, however she has since divorced her 2nd husband and remarried the 1st husband.
 
J.B Books said:
There is a lot of misstatements and wrong thoughts of what the catholic Church teaches, encourages, or believes in this thread.
Like Catholic are not encouraged to read the bible, or " How can the ministry comment on something they don't do themselves? They don't raise children in the home and have no idea of what it takes to be an adult with family obligations."

These are all so wrong.

If you are concerned about meeting your ex in heaven maybe you should be concerned with getting into heaven in the first place. Can't meet someone when you are not in the same place.

Also if you were married in Catholic Church you could have the marriage unnulled. This makes the marriage as if it never happened, so you will not have an "ex" so to speak.

I do not intend to get into a theological discourse with so many non Catholics on this thread.

I just don't have the bandwidth or desire to educate you all.
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Though I am not really personally concerned about what you have said, I do want to point out some other perspectives regarding what people here might have said about the Catholic Church...

One thing to consider before being concerned about educating the rest of us is that different dioceses seem (or at least did when I was growing up in the Catholic Church) emphasize certain ideas over others and often had their own way of putting some things. It is entirely possible that those who grew up in the Catholic Church in different areas, may well have been taught somewhat different perspectives and emphasis on various Church teachings, though I would think that in general, the Catholic Church teachings would be adhered to. I know this from having been brought up in a couple of different dioceses since we moved a few times during my childhood.

Another point to consider is that what the children were taught in Catholic School was not always the same was what adults were taught because for children, much of the detail that would lead to correct interpretation, was watered down so a child could get some sort of comprehension. Since I left the Catholic Church right after Confirmation, I can't honestly say what the Catholic Church teaches to adults (i.e. the detail that would explain more clearly what we were told in Catholic grade school).

During some conversations I have had with current practicing Catholic adults, I have also come to realize that the Catholic Church has apparently changed some of its stances on various social issues over the years since I was growing up. The Church does seem more inclusive now than back then.

Also, some of what you mentioned seems more a matter of a poster expressing his or her own opinion or concern, rather than stating a fact about the Catholic Church.

Of course, there may well also be posters here who are not, and never were Catholics, expressing what they believe they understand about the Catholic Church based on what they have heard or read, but definitely from the outside looking in.

In a forum, we have many people whom we really don't know, and therefore do not have a good frame of reference for understanding why they may have said what they did. One-on-one discussion in person can yield that level of understanding, but I doubt we will get to that in a forum.

Tony
 
I never knew that the Catholic Church considers a marriage to be carried over to...after life.

Since none of us(or anyone else) knows what to expect, the best we can do is wish and hope.

I would like to see my parents, grandparents, siblings and children in the after-life.
 
Llynn said:
I don't really buy into the life after death thing so I guess I'm not too bothered.:D
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Here is the loosest understanding I can provide, and am prepared to believe myself, and it is along the lines of something our primary school headteachers, (first grade in the US I guess), used to tell us all. He told us whatever we did in life would ripple out from us, similar to the way this happens when a stone is thrown into a pond.
In a sense then, if our headteachers was correct, then those "ripples" could go on beyond our own life, let's say by whatever good we might have done living on in some way, maybe in the way our own children choose to treat others, if we've had anything to do with encouraging them to be positive, helpful people etc.
If we are, or become, overall at peace with ourselves, and our contribution in this world, accepting we'll slip up often enough. I was told I would go straight to hell for swearing recently, though i suspect the individual I met through work is hazy on his knowledge, as I'd guess its blaspheming would be the only possible way to think such a prospect were in store for any of us, so I won't worry about that one :) !
 

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