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i_am_Lois

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As many of you know my sister died on the 11th of this month. You all have shown me great support that I needed. Now I have a question I hope someone can answer. I have received several sympathy cards in the mail from friends and distant relatives. Am I expected to write or call these considerate folks to thank them for their card? I do not want to appear rude, if etiquette dictates I respond in some manner and I ignore them. Honestly, I don't want to discuss my sister's death over and over again. If I am supposed to send thanks for the cards, I would prefer to send a 'thank-you' card. Somehow, the idea of a thank-you card, for a sympathy card, seems like over doing things a bit & needless. But my husband tells me I shouldn't just overlook their gesture.
 
I've usually received regular sympathy cards and did not respond, I never thought it was expected, and would be over doing it. According to Emily Post, receipt of regular store bought cards, or online notes of condolence need not be replied to. If someone has sent a hand-written letter of sympathy, a gift (as of flowers) or contributed to an organization on behalf of the departed, then a brief note of thanks is proper.
 
Lois, Go to a Hallmarks Card store, and ask what card they would recommend. I too didn't want to talk about or rehash any memories concerning either of my son's deaths or lives. It was to painful. The Hallmarks employee was very helpful in picking out an appropriate card, and all I had to do was sign the cards and mail them. I felt that I needed to acknowledge their caring for my son's and me. I hope this helps you.
PS: I like your new picture, you're smiling, and you're beautiful. :flowers:
 
Have you heard of Jacquie Lawson cards
They have a good collection.
Personally I would not answer they would understand.
 
I think that the people who did nothing more than send a card are probably just wanting you to know that they are acknowledging your sister's passing, and want to let you know that they care. I don't think it is necessary to send any kind of a reply card back to them if all they did was send a sympathy card.
For people who sent money, gifts, flowers, or something besides a card, then I think it is proper to thank them; but otherwise it is not necessary, unless there is a personal message in the card that you wish to respond to.
 
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