Ever ask your child or children for help financially?

fancicoffee13

fancicoffee13

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I just did. It took a lot of fore thought, and not wanting to do it. I was put in a position where I had to. She was glad to help, it just took a lot of "sucking it up" and asking for help. I was just wondering if this was one of those things that just happens when you get older.
 

No, but if I had to, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask my daughter first, then my son. He is a cheapskate much like his dad, or so I have been told. I keep using the word frugal, but they haven’t conceded yet that frugal is the better word.

I’m glad you were able to get the money you need. We should all be able to help our family when needed if able to do so. It’s what families do for one another.
 
fancicoffee13 said:
I just did. It took a lot of fore thought, and not wanting to do it. I was put in a position where I had to. She was glad to help, it just took a lot of "sucking it up" and asking for help. I was just wondering if this was one of those things that just happens when you get older.
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Fortunately, I have not needed to ask for help but of course they want to help you. My mother helped my grandfather financially and he lived with us for several years. My grandmother from the other side came to live with my family before I was born and until I was 12. Helping elderly parents is a worldwide tradition and it's a good thing. You raised a good daughter! ❤️
 
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No, but if I had to, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask my daughter first, then my son. He is a cheapskate much like his dad, or so I have been told. I keep using the word frugal, but they haven’t conceded yet that frugal is the better word.

I’m glad you were able to get the money you need. We should all be able to help our family when needed if able to do so. It’s what families do for one another.
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Well, I held off as long as I could. I am very thankful she and her husband are so understanding and helpful.
 
911 said:
No, but if I had to, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask my daughter first, then my son. He is a cheapskate much like his dad, or so I have been told. I keep using the word frugal, but they haven’t conceded yet that frugal is the better word.

I’m glad you were able to get the money you need. We should all be able to help our family when needed if able to do so. It’s what families do for one another.
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911 said:
No, but if I had to, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask my daughter first, then my son. He is a cheapskate much like his dad, or so I have been told. I keep using the word frugal, but they haven’t conceded yet that frugal is the better word.

I’m glad you were able to get the money you need. We should all be able to help our family when needed if able to do so. It’s what families do for one another.
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You are so right.
 
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I'm glad your daughter and SIL are able to help you Fanci. I'm sure they are happy to do it. I have an online friend and a former neighbor who have had to ask their children for help at some point.

I never had to ask my son. I started on the road to good money management back when I was "Poor Girl" in my twenties. Slowly but surely, I got to the point where I'm financially comfortable. All things being relative, if I didn't own this co-op unit where expenses are kept ridiculously low (thank you Mama for telling me to move here!) and if I didn't have great retiree benefits, including a pension, I'd be a lot less comfortable. But I don't think I'd ever have to ask for help.
 
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Yes, my son helps me; he pays my way too high cable bill, monthly on a credit card he has just for my usage, for emergencies, he says. Only use it for cable. When he was single & lived here he paid the cable bill and never stopped when he moved out in 2014. He paid all the vet bills and most things to do with Buffy and Max, including their food.

My DIL told me years ago they want to help me. She is close to her parents, and although they need not, she understands the bond.
 
OTOH, I have also loaned people that are not in the family money. I have a limit as to how much I loan out, but in rare instances, I have exceeded it, but only twice. Maybe I am too trusting or maybe I care too much about people, but my parents raised my sisters and I to believe that if we can help our family, neighbors or friends to get through a tough spot, we should consider doing so. There are times when that philosophy hadn’t fit, but in the past, I did try to help people that I thought were worthy of my trust. I only got stung once with no payback, but that was mostly my fault because I didn’t understand what was being asked. I don’t do “Go Fund Me” unless the reason for needing money can be corroborated by other means than someone says-so. I got stung because my nephew lied to get the money and set up his GFM account. That was about 10 years ago and he’s still on my SL. He’s lucky I didn’t have him arrested for cyber fraud.
 

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