Ever hear of a woman or man befriending, falling in love with, or marrying a prisoner?

Ever hear of a woman or man befriending, falling in love with, or marrying a prisoner?
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During the time I worked for the Sheiff's Dept. in the jails, and later working at a prison for Dept. of Corrections there were numerous co-workers that had fraternized with inmates. Most lost their jobs, a few found themselves joining the ranks of prison inmates.

People get attracted to people, I'm just not quite sure what the attraction is to inmates...shrug.gif
 
Richard Rameriz:

Incarceration and death

By the time of the trial, Ramirez had fans who were writing him letters and paying him visits.[129] Beginning in 1985, Doreen Lioy[130] wrote him nearly seventy-five letters during his incarceration. In 1988, Ramirez proposed to Lioy, and on October 3, 1996, they were married in California's San Quentin State Prison.[131] For many years before Ramirez's death, Lioy stated that she would commit suicide when Ramirez was executed. However, Lioy eventually broke ties with Ramirez in 2009 after DNA confirmed he had raped and murdered 9-year-old Mei Leung.[132] By the time of his death in 2013, Ramirez was engaged to a 23-year-old writer.[133]
 

Yep, sure have .…. These 2 who shot and killed MY FATHER were entrusted to work at a puppet show part way through their sentences I sadly don’t know the full story as way back then unless you lived in the city news was limited to what ever the local country newspaper decided to print

They were found hiding in a home of a woman they met at the annual show that’s on for 10 days each September .
( in Adelaide , South Australia)
The younger one is believed to have shot my father over a dispute over a stolen watch he was 43 years old
at the time 21/6/ 1970 ……his killer was 17.
I do know from extensive research the younger one is deceased and lies in the same cemetery , within meters of my fathers mother

Edited to remove killers photos.
 
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Nathan said:
During the time I worked for the Sheiff's Dept. in the jails, and later working at a prison for Dept. of Corrections there were numerous co-workers that had fraternized with inmates. Most lost their jobs, a few found themselves joining the ranks of prison inmates.

People get attracted to people, I'm just not quite sure what the attraction is to inmates...View attachment 304128
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I've heard of women doing this but not men. Some women will feel safer with a man who is locked up because he'll be faithful, so they think. I always thought men were too smart to fall into this trap. :unsure:
 
my only guess is some have a issue with self esteem....
a criminal in general would not be honest and often a skilled manipulator... I have just watched commercials for a show called "love during or after lockup " there was a few men but most seem to be the types who figured a woman in jail was not that picky......

maybe it is an overblown sense of being a rescuer that a person could change all the bad boy or girl ways ......
 
My first husband went to prison and I visited him and wrote him almost every day. He rarely wrote back. I thought he was a good guy who just accidentally got into a bad situation.

He really was defending himself but the prosecutor made him out to be rotten which was wrong .

Anyhow after he got out for awhile I didn't know what was up with him anymore. He didn't make a lot of sense nor did he seem to care for me much.

After about a year he went back to prison for new charges. I saw him once after he got out and told him I couldn't do much for him anymore. That was the end of that.

After thinking about him for many years and after he died I concluded that he was a pretty good guy who got mixed up with a bad brother. Yet he stood up for me very much when one of my abusers bad mouthed me. He got a sock on he jaw thank goodness. He was the only one who defended me.
 
Yep, one of my friends fell in love with a murderer behind bars in Texas.
I have known this girl for 40 years, she is a hopeless romantic and loves to be adored.
Thankfully she has a fear of flying so that ended that budding romance quick smart, mind you it only lasted 18 months, 10 months into the relationship, his family started calling her for money, try as we could we couldn't show her enough evidence that his family were a bunch of grifters, even her grown children tried, it was of no use, she ended up down 6K and broken hearted.
 
Nathan said:
During the time I worked for the Sheriff's Dept. in the jails, and later working at a prison for Dept. of Corrections there were numerous co-workers that had fraternized with inmates. Most lost their jobs, a few found themselves joining the ranks of prison inmates.

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I concur with you. I have seen and noticed the same things that have gone on. I never understood the reasoning for their actions. What kind of future do you think you will have married to a felon and depending on what the felony is, that person may never get a decent job.

In one case, we had a guy doing 18-25 years. I never knew the attraction or why someone would marry a man doing 25 years (must serve at least the minimum before parole can be requested) and was only in year 2. There were to be no conjugal visits, but that can change. In Pennsylvania, we have had women help men escape. Never understood that either. When you ask them what they were planning if they got away, the one woman looked at me and said "I don't know. We never talked about that." You can only imagine what I told her.
 
There are sites where you can check out convicts' profiles and pics, along with their addresses, and of course, their prison numbers. From TV, I understand that most are scams. The goal is to enrich their accounts at the prison store. And if they get a 'live' one, to do their bidding. And you can't discount that somebody could fall in love with a triple ax murderer.
 
chic said:
I've heard of women doing this but not men. Some women will feel safer with a man who is locked up because he'll be faithful, so they think. I always thought men were too smart to fall into this trap. :unsure:
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I would say that there are probably more women that get involved with inmates than men, although one of my male co-workers in maintenance was found to be living with a former female inmate. Department policy prohibited staff from contact with former inmates for six months after their release, although such policy is actually unenforceable.
 
The father and several stepfathers of a friend of mine were all ex-cons; that's what her mom liked; also the mom only seemed to like those of her children--not my friend--who'd also done time.
 
I knew someone who's older sister began as a pen pal with an inmate. They wrote each other for a few years and when he was released they got married. Their story made the local paper as a human interest feature. It was also good publicity as they were opening a small diner together, which was around for 20 years.
 
Years ago, though work, I got to know a woman who was in a long-term relationship with an inmate. She was attractive, but was very unconventional, and claimed she didn't believe he was guilty of his crime, but all she had was his word for it. I don't think she grasped the fact that honesty isn't most prisoner's strong suit. She was convinced he was a great guy. It was hard to understand why she chose that route, but, as they say, love is blind.
 
Not with a prisoner, but I did know a woman lawyer who was defending a man charged with murder. I can't remember if he was convicted or not, but she fell in love with him, and they got married. I always though highly of that woman and still do. I assume she was convinced of his innocence, but I don't know that. Still, it puzzles me. She was not a woman I would describe as "hard up." I'm sure she must have had plenty of guys that were interested in her.
 
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