Ever wondered if you've picked a few wrong signposts along the way?

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our times are times of reflections as we voice them everyday. Have you ever wondered how many wrong turns you may have chosen and the 'harm' it may have caused you physically or mentally. At 18 I seemed to be the last remaining sibling in the house - everything went gray and dull - it was exactly the same environment it had been previously but now a dull edge.

I decided to leave home and never returned permanently all my life - trained for something ; got married ; had kids heh ho heh ho. My father died at a youngish age - I think he was the favorite parent. my mother survived another 20 odd years - I hardly spoke or saw her. That was the first wrong signpost - looking back I should have made more effort at mending bridges. I was her first born and I was told 'the apple of her eye'

Heh but this is not all about me - so if you feel like joining in I'll continue later - signposts and where do they lead ? happy or sad?
 

smiley said:
our times are times of reflections as we voice them everyday. Have you ever wondered how many wrong turns you may have chosen and the 'harm' it may have caused you physically or mentally. At 18 I seemed to be the last remaining sibling in the house - everything went gray and dull - it was exactly the same environment it had been previously but now a dull edge.

I decided to leave home and never returned permanently all my life - trained for something ; got married ; had kids heh ho heh ho. My father died at a youngish age - I think he was the favorite parent. my mother survived another 20 odd years - I hardly spoke or saw her. That was the first wrong signpost - looking back I should have made more effort at mending bridges. I was her first born and I was told 'the apple of her eye'

Heh but this is not all about me - so if you feel like joining in I'll continue later - signposts and where do they lead ? happy or sad?
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Oh yes. So many regres!
 

yes hindsight is a very useful but not enough used concept - but in the spring of youth we also feel inspired ready to challenge the world and shake off the old. Strangely enough of all our little nuclear family I was the only one individual who went back regularly to the city of all our births and visited remaining rellies - that's another side of me! - many moons ago people with money could hire a "mentor" for their youngsters at a certain age - a wise man/women who would gentle guide them to the right signposts! some school masters or mistresses may also have been good at it but usually not enough time in their busy schedules
 
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well I suppose there are a percentage lets say 25% that would behavior like you then another 25% who wouldn't give a s..t - and then all those wandering and confused in between who just keep on making the same mistakes perhaps? I suppose years ago that may have been the collective function of churches to guide the weak and confused along the way? and even they were never 100% effective were they?
 
Many regrets...with people and jobs. But this assumes I had true freewill to change it. I wish I had married but not even close. My jobs connected me with many unpleasant jerks beneath my better talent and ambition.
Old saying, when your ship came in you were waiting at bus station.
April 1----the day to remind us what we are the other 364 days.---Mark Twain.
 
Capt Lightning said:
I just wish my parents had heeded a few signposts instead of sticking rigidly to the only path they knew.
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true Capt true - the other side of the family coin heh? Good parents can sometimes pick good mentors 0 doesn't usually happen the other way around?
 
The advantage of old age is we get to look back. I know for sure making mistakes happened. Not so sure mistakes were about picking a wrong sign post. I think it was more about not having enough life experience to choose differently.

One thing I know for sure. Learning did happen so that repeating a wrong choice didn't happen again.
 
Aunt Bea said:
IMO itā€™s all part of life.

Iā€™ve made some poor choices but I also accepted the consequences and hopefully became a bit better for the experience.

Life doesnā€™t give everybody a cookie and a T-shirt for just showing up but it should give us the strength of charactor to admit our mistakes and make amends where possible.
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That's pretty much the way I see it and feel about it. I feel that the mistakes I made that I can remember were due quite a bit to youthful ignorance & naivetƩ, a considerable need to explore life & possibilities, ineptitude at the time, and an occasional reaction to a person or situation based on indignity & resentment.

We don't come into life with a personal operator's manual. I look at life as an evolution, and the things I may feel some regret about are probably some of my bigger life lessons.
 

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