Ever wondered if you've picked a few wrong signposts along the way?

quote.....We don't come into life with a personal operator's manual. I look at life as an evolution, and the things I may feel some regret about are probably some of my bigger life lessons.

well I had access to quiet a few operator manuals like:
two sets of grandparents
loads of aunts and uncles
ministers of the church
officers of various boys clubs
adults who I knew well who might be classified as part-time mentors
school teachers
various professional associations and workplaces in general all with codes of practice

still broke a few rules along the way but nothing to get me incarcerated?

ps: forgot to mention Parents combined DNA's - lot of new research showing us fascinating tales there
 

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quote.....We don't come into life with a personal operator's manual. I look at life as an evolution, and the things I may feel some regret about are probably some of my bigger life lessons.

well I had access to quiet a few operator manuals like:
two sets of grandparents
loads of aunts and uncles
ministers of the church
officers of various boys clubs
adults who I knew well who might be classified as part-time mentors
school teachers

still broke a few rules along the way but nothing to get me incarcerated?
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I think that there is a lot of truth in this old quote.

“Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.” - Aristotle
 
agreed whether you're talking about the criminal fraternity like " pick a pocket or two character...." or the high morality teacher/preacher etc .............and all things inbetween?
 

I certainly should have paid attention to the signs many times but I also think Garth Brooks said it right in his song "The Dance".

And now, I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could've missed the pain
But I'd had to miss the dance
 
now a rather funny tale? - as a very young sprog I attended a local church within 5 mins walk from home - Methodist. After various forms of service we finished up in a large hall in small circulars open classes with a teacher - classes were mixed sex and this was the '50's. One particular event somehow I and another fella started arguing about something - and it became quite heated and stopped by the supervisor. Unfortunately as the events finished and we were dismissed from church we continued the fight outside finishing up rolling over on the cobblestone surface and thumping each other. we were now surrounded by a crowd of mixed mates all egging us on.

Someone had the foresight to duck back in to church and report. Out comes rushing the head concho himself who drags us apart as for a quick explanation and then dismissed the surrounding kids.

Imagine any possible headlines: Kids just finished Sunday school worship fighting prostrate outside of said church ; address provided if requested.

ps: the church - that lovely church is still standing but as is the nature of time been converted into cheap flat accommodation for needy youth - very fitting [fighting] too!!
 
I choose a route of a Maintenance Mechanic in the Industrial field. Every skill was needed and I trained for them.
8 years later I was at the top of my field and did it for 37 years. I don't regret a moment. I loved what I did and If I could of stayed
35 forever, I would still be doing it. I was good for any assignment, electrical, welding, fabricating, mechanical repairs, you name it.
I worked too much, I know but I don't regret a moment of it. Most all days were good days. One day, I decided it was dumb to
die on the Job. My boss agreed, said he would retire today too if he could. I'm glad I choose to do what I did. It all fit in with
my younger dreams too. Follow ones dream always. Thas a great plan for all. Give the young persons opportunity, always, thas
a route / rule that will show positive results nearly always work.
 
smiley said:
our times are times of reflections as we voice them everyday. Have you ever wondered how many wrong turns you may have chosen and the 'harm' it may have caused you physically or mentally. At 18 I seemed to be the last remaining sibling in the house - everything went gray and dull - it was exactly the same environment it had been previously but now a dull edge.

I decided to leave home and never returned permanently all my life - trained for something ; got married ; had kids heh ho heh ho. My father died at a youngish age - I think he was the favorite parent. my mother survived another 20 odd years - I hardly spoke or saw her. That was the first wrong signpost - looking back I should have made more effort at mending bridges. I was her first born and I was told 'the apple of her eye'

Heh but this is not all about me - so if you feel like joining in I'll continue later - signposts and where do they lead ? happy or sad?
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Breaking off with a family member or the whole family is the wise thing to do if they are holding you back. I can give you several personal examples of that but I'm not in the mood right now.

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Pepper said:
No regrets. It happened. It unfolded as it was supposed to. A lot of pains....a few frogs smooches....LOADS OF FUN.....all leading to the Big NOW.
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why don't you fill in some of the dots.....................................??
 
signposts?? ...........I was born two years before the end of WWII in a city battered by bombs - houses opposite ours destroyed by bombs and we played in the ruins of same. And yet they were the most idyllic times of my life. Dad arrived safely back from fighting and we started our new and complete family that had to have 2 more kids added! We even became upward mobile by moving in with Dads widowed mother who lived in a more salubrious suburb and flashier house than ours which had been attached by bricked walls to a "public house" of noisy disputes!

Life could have carried on for ever like so - I had entered Grammar schooling was learning to play the violin the govt issued me with a student bus pass to travel there and back from school - we were surrounded by parks - could catch a ferry cross the mersey when we wanted to sit on sandy beaches - then Ma and Pa made that momentous decision to move to farther fields which broke up that happy family for ever - it really was never the same - wrong signposts - who can tell?

We kids had from our inceptions and in reality been part of that often maligned extended family structure - my mother was one of 11 children. I lived next door to one grandfather and grandmother and then moved in with other grandparents - this was our lifestyle and then we turned it in for a "nuclear" family structure - another signpost ? - but in a way it said " we want a better life and want it without you [the grandparents]" - Wrong signpost - bloody well was!!
 
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signposts?? ...........I was born two years before the end of WWII in a city battered by bombs - houses opposite ours destroyed by bombs and we played in the ruins of same. And yet they were the most idyllic times of my life. Dad arrived safely back from fighting and we started our new and complete family that had to have 2 more kids added! We even became upward mobile by moving in with Dads widowed mother who lived in a more salubrious suburb and flashier house than ours which had been attached by bricked walls to a "public house" of noisy disputes!

Life could have carried on for ever like so - I had entered Grammar schooling was learning to play the violin the govt issued me with a student bus pass to travel there and back from school - we were surrounded by parks - could catch a ferry cross the mersey when we wanted to sit on sandy beaches - then Ma and Pa made that momentous decision to move to farther fields which broke up that happy family for ever - it really was never the same - wrong signposts - who can tell?

We kids had from our inceptions and in reality been part of that often maligned extended family structure - my mother was one of 11 children. I lived next door to one grandfather and grandmother and then moved in with other grandparents - this was our lifestyle and then we turned it in for a "nuclear" family structure - another signpost ? - but in a way it said " we want a better life and want it without you [the grandparents]" - Wrong signpost - bloody well was!!
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I didn't realize at the time that we were trading in a true and tried family system that had worked well for a new smaller one - much later I realized that my father hardly ever seen his mother on a regular basis - us kids had no bargaining power and so just followed orders - I remember going back to see my grandmother and her sister who had moved in with her - they looked so bleak and lonely - I would stay over for the w/end but it was never the same again?
 
I only have perhaps one or two actual regrets there are some things I wish I had done differently said differently but in the long run you learn from your mistakes
And at least I have made a few really good decisions
 

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