Ever wondered if you've picked a few wrong signposts along the way?

Yes I have regrets, I made some poor decisions and also neglected some promising opportunities, all because of a low self esteem and minimal self value.
And my birth family made some bad choices too for similar reasons.....causing all of us to live with and cope with distresses that needn't have happened. It all could have been so different.
But I have my health, the logistics are sufficient, my journey isn't over yet and my present life is preferable to everything else I've lived through.
But it would have been nice to know better all those years ago.
 
No one is perfect R - with all slipped up along the way occasionally I'm sure - recovered OK?
 

BeefStu said:
I certainly should have paid attention to the signs many times but I also think Garth Brooks said it right in his song "The Dance".

And now, I'm glad I didn't know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance
I could've missed the pain
But I'd had to miss the dance
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Those words remind me of a colossally bad romantic choice, but still glad for the dance, and lessons learned.
 
I have had more than one graduate course in decision science. I don’t remember most of it, but what I do remember… a rational actor will usually act using the best information available at the time. If past decisions are passed through that filter, it does sometimes relieve the burden of later regret from making a less than desirable choice, since later new information was not revealed at that earlier time. But, if one has good, complete information and ignores it, through willful ignorance or just to be contrary, then the fallout is on them.

Did I ever mention the sunk cost fallacy as one of the most common reasons we make or continue to make a less than optimal choice?
 
Not only did I pick a few wrong signposts, I hammered in some because I was certain I was right. No regrets, even though sometimes the learning curve was steep.
 
EmptyCup said:
I have had more than one graduate course in decision science. I don’t remember most of it, but what I do remember… a rational actor will usually act using the best information available at the time. If past decisions are passed through that filter, it does sometimes relieve the burden of later regret from making a less than desirable choice, since later new information was not revealed at that earlier time. But, if one has good, complete information and ignores it, through willful ignorance or just to be contrary, then the fallout is on them.

Did I ever mention the sunk cost fallacy as one of the most common reasons we make or continue to make a less than optimal choice?
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Recently came across a meme that warns against doing that...

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EmptyCup said:
I have had more than one graduate course in decision science. I don’t remember most of it, but what I do remember… a rational actor will usually act using the best information available at the time. If past decisions are passed through that filter, it does sometimes relieve the burden of later regret from making a less than desirable choice, since later new information was not revealed at that earlier time. But, if one has good, complete information and ignores it, through willful ignorance or just to be contrary, then the fallout is on them.

Did I ever mention the sunk cost fallacy as one of the most common reasons we make or continue to make a less than optimal choice?
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No??? please continue??
 
EmptyCup said:
I have had more than one graduate course in decision science. I don’t remember most of it, but what I do remember… a rational actor will usually act using the best information available at the time. If past decisions are passed through that filter, it does sometimes relieve the burden of later regret from making a less than desirable choice, since later new information was not revealed at that earlier time. But, if one has good, complete information and ignores it, through willful ignorance or just to be contrary, then the fallout is on them.

Did I ever mention the sunk cost fallacy as one of the most common reasons we make or continue to make a less than optimal choice?
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No?? pray continue please??
 
I don't have any regrets of the things that I did. Given the same circumstances, I'd do the same thing all over again.
But I do wonder about the things I could have done. It's easy to paint a rosy picture of how things might have been only if you did x, y, or z, yet you don't know how things would have actually came out.
 
I sometimes caused extra pain to myself, while making sure I was making the right decision. I needed answers, in black & white. This made me see the hard truth, but left me with the answers I required.
 
I have long regretted not having a personal mentor as some richer families perhaps strived for - they could discuss the signpost along the way and open up a wider dialogue about the efficacy of such??
 
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