Family Holiday Dinner Hosting

One of my older sisters has always hosted family dinners. She loves to cook, and decorate for different events. She has done this from her early 20's .. she is now in her early 80's. Generally, everyone brings a dish (potluck).

She is hosting a dinner in a couple of weeks, which we're looking forward to.

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When we were in a house, we hosted dinners, mostly the kids birthdays.

We have hosted our daughters engagement party, years ago, in our condo party room.
 
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My sons took over in 2017. I moved from Illinois to Virginia. I was 66 at the time.
They were in their 40's by then.
The distance a problem then since we lived so far apart and my home was a lot smaller.
So now the Dinners don't include the whole family. That was hard to get used to for me.
My grandchildren who are adults on their own range from 26 -30 have not yet attempted this feat :LOL:
They do bring a dish.
 
I still do the majority of the hosting, but one of my sons and my daughter also host events at their houses as well. There’s no particular pattern to when they host, it’s pretty random, either one will offer or I’ll ask.

E.G. End of the month is one of the boys’ birthdays with Easter the following week. So that I’m not hosting two events back to back, we’ll do one here, and one at my daughter’s house.
 
After our mother died, I fell off the A list.

I’m ok with that.

My sister is the only sibling I have left and her family either goes out for a theme brunch of some sort or gets together for potluck, pizza, snacks, etc…

I’m not sure what the rest of my nieces and nephews do for holidays and special occasions.
 
When I was married we hosted almost all family functions, her family, my family, combined family. After my divorce the kids stayed with me so I continued the tradition of hosting my families holiday dinners, but once the kids left the nest I was done. Now my niece host the dinner or sometimes we don't get together at all, which I'm OK with.
 
I have been making holiday dinners for the last 10 years or so. My wife was getting very stressed out doing it so I took over and she took care of all the other work like cleaning and preparing guest rooms (which is a lot of work that I did not help with much previously). I like to cook, so this is a better arrangement.

But at some point, we may just resort to pot lucks as the family gatherings are starting to get quite large and I am getting older by the day!
 
I think what I was wondering is how/if our generations have changed in who and when
generations have changed but I see it for sure depends on the family makeup and situations.
In some cases it seems to follow into the same traditions we had when we were younger.

When I was in my young adulthood, I went to Grandma's house and helped her prepare
the house, then assisted her with cooking so I could learn from her. Then stuck around for cleanup.
Out of 3 sons, only one volunteered the same for me. I don't see any of my grands doing that for
their parents and only one has a young child. The others come in, as close to meal time as possible
eat, chat maybe 20 minutes then leave.

It doesn't bother me or upset me I just wonder why it changed spending time with family. It used to be
a whole day affair and even into the evening if a poker game was planned. I guess it saddens me more than anything.
 
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