Father-Daughter Relationships

[Brookswood]

Haha! I wish my daughter kept enough descent food in her fridge that it was worth raiding! I have learned to bring over my own coffee, creamer and snacks when I visit. Otherwise it's vanillal-pumpkin-spice chemical junk to lighten my coffee and raw leaves for lunch.

Still I love her dearly and I don't know what I would do without her.

 

[leowks]

I am not sure what is the difference between eastern culture and western culture.
My daughter married to a westerner 2 years ago and residing in UK. They have being staying in separate cities due to job requirement and trying hard to come to stay together. Once they decided to settle down in that city, they plan to buy a dream house there. I believe it could be as soon as next spring.
Me and my wife yet to live with my SIL. We made family trips before, that was twice before they got married and another time was during their wedding (soon after wedding ceremony in UK). I doubt my SIL contributed much financially, because seem to me most payment was made by my daughter.

My concern now is when my daughter/SIL finally come to settle down in one city and buy a house, me and my wife plan to go over and stay with them for a while, probably a month or so.
1. What are the Do and Don't when we stay with them?
2. Do I have to contribute anything in terms of dollar and cent? I don't mind if it is a norm for westerner as I am financially OK to spent a few thousands GBP per visit.
3. Do I have to tell them how long we intend to stay by buying a return ticket with fixed date? I don't expect my SIL to pay for our air tickets.
4. Do I have to bring any gift?
5. What type of gift is most appropriate?

Any suggestion and advice are most welcome, especially those from the UK.
TQVM.

 

[Brookswood]

I think it's more the family values than East vs. West culture.

Some families are warm and welcoming of just about anybody. Others take the view that only blood matters. I have known a few people who even refuse to acknowledge that an adopted child is really a genuine relative. Needless to say, that just about kills any chance of a good relationship with the parents.

However, I would say that you should set a limit to your visit and keep it on the short side. A small gift is always appreciated, but better is to help out around the house with chores and things like that. Nobody likes to be treated like they are running an extended stay hotel in their house.