Final Birthday & Christmas haul.

[-Oy-]

SLAINTE!

 

[-Oy-]

May even get to Father's Day in June with this lot (Optimistic view lol)

 

[Remy]

I want a drink!

 

[Shalimar]

I want a drink!

Only one?

 

[JaniceM]

Good Lord did somebody rob a liquor store?!?

 

[Remy]

Only one?

I havne't had a drink in years. I need a slew of them. I'm afraid I could have a drink then my stepfather may call and need something and I can't drive.

 

[hollydolly]

I havne't had a drink in years. I need a slew of them. I'm afraid I could have a drink then my stepfather may call and need something and I can't drive.

If you want a drink have one late at night before bed...

 

[Remy]

If you want a drink have one late at night before bed...

The problem is, he could still call. If something happens. He relies on me. While my stupid brother on the other side of the country does nothing.

 

[hollydolly]

The problem is, he could still call. If something happens. He relies on me. While my stupid brother on the other side of the country does nothing.

Remy.. we've said it a thousand times, you let this horrible man rule your life.. and it's not fair. In the unlikely event that he might need someone at 11pm call a cab..

 

[Shalimar]

I havne't had a drink in years. I need a slew of them. I'm afraid I could have a drink then my stepfather may call and need something and I can't drive.

I hear you. For years, I suffered from what my therapist termed “terminal responsibility.” Finally, he asked me how long was I prepared to prioritise other’s mental or physical wellbeing

over my own? I applaud your kindness, but you are not responsible for your stepfather’s choices, nor the current state of his life. I am crying as I write this. Please, please give some thought to your needs. As it is, you carry such a heavy burden

from your past, none of which belongs to you. Do not sacrifice yourself on the altar of misguided loyalty. The burden could crush you. Besides you DESERVE to have some comfort, some

warmth, relaxation. Take a day off, have a few drinks. If he calls with a medical problem, alert the authorities, anything else can wait. I cared for my mother, I learned the hard way that unless I

practiced self care, I was useless to her and myself. You are a good person, it is self care rather than selfishness to take time for yourself.

 

[Remy]

Thank you for your kind response @Shalimar Wish I could at least get a kind word from my brother or have a venting and verbal support source. But he just puts me down. My stepfather is 93. I think he'll live forever. And I really do have that terminal responsibility ingrained in me.

 

[Remy]

Remy.. we've said it a thousand times, you let this horrible man rule your life.. and it's not fair. In the unlikely event that he might need someone at 11pm call a cab..

I'm almost ready to go buy a bottle of Grey Goose Vodka!

 

[Shalimar]

Thank you for your kind response @Shalimar Wish I could at least get a kind word from my brother or have a venting and verbal support source. But he just puts me down. My stepfather is 93. I think he'll live forever. And I really do have that terminal responsibility ingrained in me.

You are most welcome.