First impression?

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Sliverfox

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From reading on the different forums here,I think we have a great group.

I've dealt with all types in the real world.

As I mentioned in my post about not expecting to get paid for a load of firewood.

If you are wondering why I state that,, here was my impression of her .

Skinny ,, sort of messy hair,, smoking,, first thing I thought was she looks like the pictures you see of a heavy drug user.

So yesterday,, she's chattering away, mentions they have had several fires at their place,, she has 5 kids.
Yup,, indeed she did as she showed them to me., stair step kids , meaning close in age.

Her husband , what I saw of him, looked older than her.

I think most of us at sometime have had a really rough time with life,,, But,, did you unload about it to a total stranger?

I'll wear my flame proof suit when I read the replies.
Thanks gang for any thoughts you have. :unsure:
 
I usually go by my first impression of someone. That is because it usually turns out to be correct.

My life has had many rough times in it but I normally keep that to myself until I know someone pretty good. My question is why did you leave the firewood if they weren't paying for it first? If I had that opinion of them I would have wanted the money upfront, unless I was feeling charitable towards them or the children. Maybe they will still pay for it if you go back for payment. I have come across some people who look like they have nothing and have more money than most people.
 
I am an open book to a large extent. In cyber space i talk about more personal stuff more 'quickly' in getting acquainted process because the nature of forums often draw out memories relevant to the OP or someone else's comment on the thread.

In the 3D world i can (tho only rarely do) engage in small talk with strangers or near strangers, but do not unload my struggles to them. What happens more often with me is that people i've just met, or barely know confide in me.
 
If it were me, and I were having a conversation with a stranger, I would probably have sensed what was going on and felt sorry for her children. First impressions - you were probably right - and they were going through some difficult times. You did right to offer firewood. I would have done the same, but that's me. :)
 
She came back! Didn't offer to pay either.

Wanted to rent the mobile home we got stuck with when our tenant walked away from it without telling us us.
Hubby told her no , that it didn't have room enough for all her kids.

He saw the mess at the property he delivered firewood to.

Several burnt buildings, junk, old cars .

I looked up the property that they gave us the address of.
What she tells us isn't what is showing up online. :unsure:


Beginning to think that they are squatters.
 
Sob stories, especially to a stranger, are usually told to elicit something from them. Be cautious that she wasn’t sizing up your property hoping to abscond with something later.

You didn’t ask her to pay for the wood when she returned?
 
I think hubby was speechless that she wanted to rent the trailer.

Our excited dog was out the door before we could stop him.

And to make matters worst she let her dog out of the vehicle!
I managed to get our dog back & had to settle him down.

@ Jules that is what I was thinking.

I was thinking of going into town while hubby is away tomorrow,, having second thoughts about going away.
 
Sliverfox said:
I think hubby was speechless that she wanted to rent the trailer.

Our excited dog was out the door before we could stop him.

And to make matters worst she let her dog out of the vehicle!
I managed to get our dog back & had to settle him down.

@ Jules that is what I was thinking.

I was thinking of going into town while hubby is away tomorrow,, having second thoughts about going away.
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I really HATE people who bring their dogs to my property and let them out without asking. I have 2 dogs of my own patrolling the yard. THEY get PO'd too.
 
Hubby & I have a hard time understanding the young woman that got the firewood.
We were talking about it after she left.

Told him she talks fast & appears nervous ,, that's why we are having trouble understanding her.

I hope she doesn't come back ,, hubby has left for the day.
 
Sliverfox said:
From reading on the different forums here,I think we have a great group.

I've dealt with all types in the real world.

As I mentioned in my post about not expecting to get paid for a load of firewood.

If you are wondering why I state that,, here was my impression of her .

Skinny ,, sort of messy hair,, smoking,, first thing I thought was she looks like the pictures you see of a heavy drug user.

So yesterday,, she's chattering away,,mentions they have had several fires at their place,, she has 5 kids.
Yup,, indeed she did as she showed them to me., stair step kids , meaning close in age.

Her husband , what I saw of him,,looked older than her.

I think most of us at sometime have had a really rough time with life,,, But,, did you unload about it to a total stranger?

I'll wear my flame proof suit when I read the replies.
Thanks gang fro any thoughts you have. :unsure:
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Darn. I left my flamethrower at home. 😊

I'm with Katlupe... COD, cash in hand, before unloading the wood. Cash only because you were in doubt about her credibility from the start based on the way she looked. I try to go with my gut. If something or someone doesn't seem right to me, it most likely isn't. Not that a skinny, disheveled, nervous, smoking person with five kids can't pay, but in this case your first impression of this woman was correct. In spite of your impression, you gave her the benefit of the doubt and delivered the wood. Since you realized that neither you nor your husband collected payment for it, you were hoping she'd pony up and pay you for it, but she never did.

You and your husband were nice to her. You were already kind enough to help them out by “giving” them the wood. To her, you're a soft touch, and she's trying to work you for more. The pictures of the kids, the sob story, even though it looks like it's true. They're obviously having a hard time, and it's easy to feel sorry for the children. How can seeing that not pull at your heartstrings? Having succeeded at getting the wood for free, she thought she'd hit you up to rent the trailer. Why not? But you knew when she asked she couldn't pay the rent either. As far as the address she gave you, she's lying.

She's skinny, talks fast, seems nervous, you can't understand her, and you said she looks like a drug addict. You might be right about that. I'm not sure I'd want to leave my property either. They obviously need money and who knows what she might do to get it. She's already ripped you off, so you know she's not to be trusted. You have your guard up now and know to be careful. This is worrisome. Keep your eyes peeled. I wouldn't be surprised if she keeps showing up. Keep us posted, Silverfox.

Some people will unload to anyone who will listen.

Bella✌️
 
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