JaniceM
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That's what I've heard it's called- 'flaking'- individuals who kinda brush off commitments of all types as if it's nothing more than brushing off a dried bit of sunburn. I'm wondering how widespread this is, and if anyone knows its cause.
Before recent years, I only encountered it once, ever- one of my brothers' wives, from a different background and culture, approached me one day and said she'd take me out for ice cream after she got paid the following Friday. Friday came, and she shrugged, "I didn't say 'I promise'."
During the last decade and a half, it's been everywhere- everyday life, business arrangements, the workplace. Someone says they'll be somewhere or do something, and do not follow through, don't let you know their plans changed, and later get mad if you bring it to their attention.
I'm accustomed to keeping my word- and believing others should, too. Each time, I make the mistake of giving individuals the benefit-of-the-doubt, that perhaps something important came up, but not once has that ever been the case. And it's not only my experiences- I even read about some musician who didn't bother to show up for a sell-out concert.
Both of my kids have had these experiences, but my experiences have almost entirely been with individuals in our age groups.
Might anyone know what this is all about- are people simply becoming more irresponsible by the day?
Before recent years, I only encountered it once, ever- one of my brothers' wives, from a different background and culture, approached me one day and said she'd take me out for ice cream after she got paid the following Friday. Friday came, and she shrugged, "I didn't say 'I promise'."
During the last decade and a half, it's been everywhere- everyday life, business arrangements, the workplace. Someone says they'll be somewhere or do something, and do not follow through, don't let you know their plans changed, and later get mad if you bring it to their attention.
I'm accustomed to keeping my word- and believing others should, too. Each time, I make the mistake of giving individuals the benefit-of-the-doubt, that perhaps something important came up, but not once has that ever been the case. And it's not only my experiences- I even read about some musician who didn't bother to show up for a sell-out concert.
Both of my kids have had these experiences, but my experiences have almost entirely been with individuals in our age groups.
Might anyone know what this is all about- are people simply becoming more irresponsible by the day?