For those suffering a loss this year

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old medic

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Our hearts, thoughts and prayers go out to you....
After reading several posts and threads got me to thinking about our own losses over the years....
I sit here today thinking of my Dad who passed this year, And my heart breaks for my Sister....
She is spending her 1st Christmas not only without Dad, But also her 23 year old DIL.
She suddenly passed away 3 weeks ago, 6 months pregnant with her 1st grandchild.
Some in here have lost pets, and it strikes their hearts just as heavy....
We all have suffered losses. And all though it creates sorrow, keep in mind the JOY that
was collected from what you lost, Smile at memories, and let that fill your heart.
Share them with friends and family.
Merry Christmas all
 

My caring goes out to each one of you who are suffering additional losses;
This week of the year, can be very emotionally difficult, for many of us.

Thanks for your idea to hold on to the joys we did collect.
I dont know why, but some of us find it difficult to do, after our losses and with our griefs.
But thanks for the reminder, to try.
 
This has been a bad year for so many of us. We lost a sister-in-law in February, my husband in April, and one of my husband's younger brothers in June. When I was 13, my paternal grandmother told me that when you get married and one of the 4 parents passes away, from then on it seems like you are watching the coffins go by. I found that to be true. Especially since my husband came from a large family. Hardly a year has gone by that we haven't lost a loved one.
Over a decade ago, my husband's cousin's wife died of cancer. Then, their only child died from a bad reaction to a medication. His cousin lost his family and committed suicide. An entire family unit gone. I can still picture the three of them sitting at the table together on Thanksgivings.
We go on as best we can and try to dwell on the good memories we have of those we lost. We can't cry forever. We have to learn to fight through the sadness and smile when we think of the good times we had with them. It's how we survive, I guess.
 
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My brother passed this last June. Been especially hard on my beloved nephew (brother's only son); they had been somewhat estranged, totally my brother's fault (emotionally and then literally distant father), they made their peace with each other about 5 years ago (mainly nephew forgiving his dad), brother said to me a few years ago when I said what a good son he had, "Yeah better than what I deserve"; anyway, as nephew said to me last June when his dad died, "Well at least I got to be with Dad for a few years anyway." (Brother was living with nephew the last 2 years of his life.)

Just shows that time is short and you never know what's gonna be thrown at you.
 
aunt, who stepped in as mom when i was 8, passed in the spring... 95 yo. she had taken a fall, broke her hip and never came back from that.

sil has been slipping physically and mentally for past several years. memory things have been a big issue, but brother said her doc says partially due to chemo/radiation after not 1 but 2 brain surgeries to remove tumors. she's very frail and can't get around on her own.

my brother has serious weight problem... is diabetic, and a bunch of other medical problems. he has always been one of those strong/silent types. has been in hospital... recently moved to a dementia center. i have a feeling he has been able to hide the dementia symptoms until recently. he has quickly tumbled down that rabbit hole. my nephew has his hands full with BOTH parents in extreme need.

and this whole covid thing just makes it extra hard. travel restriction between my state (NJ) and theirs (PA).

some days just wanna pull covers up over my head and cry. some days think a few too many drinks (NO driving of course) would work.

have only found this place recently and enjoy hanging out here. i go to a few other boards, but at least here there aren't any political loonies!
 
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aunt, who stepped in as mom when i was 8, passed in the spring... 95 yo. she had taken a fall, broke her hip and never came back from that.

sil has been slipping physically and mentally for past several years. memory things have been a big issue, but brother said her doc says partially due to chemo/radiation after not 1 but 2 brain surgeries to remove tumors. she's very frail and can't get around on her own.

my brother has serious weight problem... is diabetic, and a bunch of other medical problems. he has always been one of those strong/silent types. has been in hospital... recently moved to a dementia center. i have a feeling he has been able to hide the dementia symptoms until recently. he has quickly tumbled down that rabbit hole. my nephew has his hands full with BOTH parents in extreme need.

and this whole covid thing just makes it extra hard. travel restriction between my state (NJ) and theirs (PA).

some days just wanna pull covers up over my head and cry. some days think a few too many drinks (NO driving of course) would work.

have only found this place recently and enjoy hanging out here. i go to a few other boards, but at least here there aren't any political loonies!
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old medic said:
Our hearts, thoughts and prayers go out to you....
After reading several posts and threads got me to thinking about our own losses over the years....
I sit here today thinking of my Dad who passed this year, And my heart breaks for my Sister....
She is spending her 1st Christmas not only without Dad, But also her 23 year old DIL.
She suddenly passed away 3 weeks ago, 6 months pregnant with her 1st grandchild.
Some in here have lost pets, and it strikes their hearts just as heavy....
We all have suffered losses. And all though it creates sorrow, keep in mind the JOY that
was collected from what you lost, Smile at memories, and let that fill your heart.
Share them with friends and family.
Merry Christmas all
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Old Medic, that was beautiful. I am so sorry for the tragic losses in your family this year. That’s a lot. But you are right about the memories. They are all we have left and should be cherished and shared 💕
 
My heart goes out to all of you. So much sorrow, but also so much love. They were as lucky to have you in their lives as you were them, and how blessed you were to have them in your lives for however long. Hang on to that thought and I pray their memories will, in time, bring you peace ❤️
 
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