Forced Into Living Alone In The House

[Blessed]

I am so sorry you are suffering. I also suffer from anxiety and depression. I don't have ocd so I don't know how that feels. I do know it is the best thing you can do is accept help from doctors and take the medication suggested.

The worst thing would be being unable to care for yourself and be forced into a care home. The time has come that you must dig deep and find the strength to care for yourself. It is hard, it has been hard for me. Start with the basic, keeping yourself clean, buying groceries to keep yourself fed. Keep the kitchen clean including the fridge.

After that make a schedule on task a day, cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the floors, doing the dusting, changing the bedding. One step at a time and you will be able to do it.

All these things must be done to stay independent avoid others from taking control of your life. If you are so tired and are ready to give up the future that awaits will not be easy. I wish you the best but now is the time to find your strength.

 

[rubygems]

Does any one know if local realtors would be interested in hooking seniors up regarding housing so a win win for both? (ie: secure roomate for someone wanting to keep their home; share rent like a golden girls situation) ?? Any "roomie sites" on the internet are kinda worthless. Wondering about something devoted just to seniors who don't want to live alone or can't financially?

 

[officerripley]

Does any one know if local realtors would be interested in hooking seniors up regarding housing so a win win for both? (ie: secure roomate for someone wanting to keep their home; share rent like a golden girls situation) ?? Any "roomie sites" on the internet are kinda worthless. Wondering about something devoted just to seniors who don't want to live alone or can't financially?

A really good idea. And I agree with you that the internet sites for that are worthless (all the ones I've looked at anyway). I wonder if local senior centers could help? Or maybe local churches?

 

[OneEyedDiva]

I can't give any advice about what you should and can do, especially since I live in another country. But I do hope that a resolution for your mother's situation and your home situation is found soon and that it is beneficial to you. I also hope that you can get the help you need, in whatever form, so that your mental health improves. Take good care.

 

[davey]

glad you can get on here and talk to others it must be comforting?

 

[Trish]

I'd be very careful about taking in housemates as, if it did not work out, they would have rights. Once the house is yours to sell, that would probably be a better idea as you could look for a home which suits you and your needs, possibly sheltered housing where you can get help if and when you need it? I hope life improves for you

 

[MissRJ]

Updated On Wednesday, 2/21/2024

Several months back, I talked a lot about living elsewhere.
The house needs some work.
I am still living alone in the house.
Mom has been in a nursing home for a few weeks.

When my cousin is able to, he comes out once per week to take me out on errands.
I no longer have in-home support help.

 

[MissRJ]

I'd be very careful about taking in housemates as, if it did not work out, they would have rights. Once the house is yours to sell, that would probably be a better idea as you could look for a home which suits you and your needs, possibly sheltered housing where you can get help if and when you need it? I hope life improves for you

I never posted about taking on roommates or housemates.
At this moment I would not want a complete stranger living in my home (with me).

 

[davey]

you sound much stronger now??

 

[bingo]

fear and anxiety can do bad things to our minds and bodies..
your mind is your most powerful tool..
keep doing little kind things for yourself..
hope must remain in your heart and mind...shove out the fear...tell it to leave..
hope and love to you

 

[Trish]

I never posted about taking on roommates or housemates.
At this moment I would not want a complete stranger living in my home (with me).

I was referring to rubygems' comments about room mates (quoted below) which I did not think would be a good idea for you although, I probably could have made it clearer.

Does any one know if local realtors would be interested in hooking seniors up regarding housing so a win win for both? (ie: secure roomate for someone wanting to keep their home; share rent like a golden girls situation) ?? Any "roomie sites" on the internet are kinda worthless. Wondering about something devoted just to seniors who don't want to live alone or can't financially?

 

[gruntlabor]

During most of the day I am unable to function properly.
There are a lot of things that I just cannot do or I do not do.

Starting on late Monday evening I did not sleep for 2 nights.
I began doing and then continuing to do more stuff (that I thought would help and beneficial).
It turned out to be a waste of my time that was not helpful or benedfical
By 3:00AM Tuesday Morning,due to what was happening with me I felt that I could not tolerate having that home health person in my home. So, I cancelled her becasue I rwas really in such bad or rough mental state.
I am not that much better today(Wednesday,11/22/2023).

As of today, Wednesday,11/22/2023 I do not see any resolutions or anything being resolved.

To distract yourself from worrisome thoughts with tv, book, solitaire, movie, cooking, gardening and so forth is a form of meditation, a valuable tool for mental health. Maybe try not to fixate on a problem, but work on it briefly and put it on a back burner to percolate as you work and sleep.