Getting Personal Once Again...

[oscash]

After my triple by-pass surgery some 14 years ago, two years after my husband died, I came home to an empty house and had to do things for myself from the start. The first night I remembered crying and feeling so sad and alone. Every morning when I showered, I cried my eyes out. Each day got a little bit easier. Then I said to myself "Your parents never raised a squib, pull yourself together and start enjoying life, good things are ahead". Slowly things did get better and here I am today enjoying life and so thankful for my beautiful sons who are always there for me.

 

[papa tiger]

I totally understand you. I'm the same after an unhappy marriage, I actually feeling nauseous when I pass a wedding party....

Men meeting interesting women & Women meeting interesting men. Whoop-Whoop. Lifes interesting again.
Thats not meant to demean man / man or Ladies / ladies. it's interesting is the message meant. Aging and being
a hottie / handsome cuss is sort of ridiculous most likely. Just don't hide behind a negative personality, be a better-or else.

 

[hollydolly]

Men meeting interesting women & Women meeting interesting men. Whoop-Whoop. Lifes interesting again.

I have no interest.....

 

[SeaBreeze]

My Dad lived to 92. In the last decade of his life, he suffered from (what the extended family called) weepiness. I remember being embarrassed for him as he would cry at the drop of a hat. I now know what that was all about because, my friends, I am afflicted by the same thing now. I can feel my emotions becoming sad, not sad like I will occasionally get, but a condition that heightens one's emotional state.

I see a dramatic scene in a movie; I tear up. Every ad on Facebook that deals with a dying pet or the remembrance of a pet that has passed, I cry. Even a joyful scene in a movie, I weep. Sometimes when I look at Emma, I cry, or my wife's urn or the pictures of my parents, I am overwhelmed. It happens suddenly every time. It is generally brief but intense. If I did not live alone I would be embarrassed by the whole thing, but I have no need to filter my feelings or blunt my reactions. So, I let it flow. I don't remember any of my female relatives (aunts, grandmothers) suffering through this type of thing.

I decided that I would be brutally honest about myself with the friendly crowd on SF, but I realize some of the males here may scoff at being so open in return. I ask, Are there other males that are dealing with such emotions late in life? Any women?

Honestly,

-David-

Thanks for sharing that, I appreciate people who are compassionate and sensitive. I'm a woman, but I have been that way since I was a child, I could tear up watching something happy, like a poor lady who won on the TV show queen for a day. I could tear up at a cute baby, cute puppy, if someone shows kindness, looking at certain old photos and thinking of past memories.

Now that I've lost my husband of fifty years and am alone, it's easy to get emotional every day, just thinking of him, looking a pictures of both of us, missing him. My husband has shown emotion at times during a sad movie, and I've seen a few other men over the years who are the same way. I love that in a person, regardless of gender, I love people who feel empathy and have a warm heart. Something to be proud of and appreciate, in my opinion. It's healthy to express your emotions, men who bottle them up often become frustrated and resentful. Hugs, have a good evening.

My sincere condolences for the loss of your wife, I know your heart hurts, sending warm thoughts and love your way.

 

[SeaBreeze]

Kaddee,

I do not travel. I am at that stage where that holds no fascination for me. I'm sure my heart attack and extensive surgery has been instrumental in choosing isolation for myself. Home (while isolated) is my ultimate comfort zone. I have Emma, my beloved four-legged daughter, to keep me company. At one time I traveled a lot in my career installing large computer systems around the U.S. and, while I found different locations to be interesting, I was always glad to be back home. I have always been a homebody.

I have one sister who I video-call every Monday, two distant close male friends and 2 neighbors I count as friends. No other family.

I hope you enjoy Queensland!

-David-

I apologize, I thought Emma was your wife.

 

[SeaBreeze]

You think getting over emotional equates to a mental problem?? What the hell is wrong with you?

I agree with you, plus many of those drugs cause more harm than good for people. Some people are too eager to see a doctor and pop a pill.

When I first lost my husband, a lady in the neighborhood was asking me about him and how I was doing. My voice started cracking and I started to tear up, it was just days ago when this happened. She quickly said she was on some depression meds that helped her......I am not depressed, my feelings of emotion and sadness are because our love was strong and we were very close.

Prescription drugs are not the cure all for everything, some things are natural and very human, not to be artificially suppressed, in my opinion.

 

[DeePhase2]

A while back me, my ex-wife, my kids, and my grandkids all got together for a birthday celebration. Afterwards as we walked back to our separate hotel rooms, She commented on how happy it made her to have “the family” together for an event.

It seemed a rather weird comment since her affair and her decision to leave us for the other man is the only reason we have not been able to have many such gatherings over the last decade.

Sounds like your ex was insensitive by first of all, having an affair, and next it sounds like she did not make it right with you at least in some fashion like an apology or a conversation where she could show some sort of regard for your feelings. She did harm and didn't repair it or acknowledge it. Looks like you are the bigger person by showing up for the birthday celebration considering the situation.

 

[DeePhase2]

I agree with you, plus many of those drugs cause more harm than good for people. Some people are too eager to see a doctor and pop a pill.

When I first lost my husband, a lady in the neighborhood was asking me about him and how I was doing. My voice started cracking and I started to tear up, it was just days ago when this happened. She quickly said she was on some depression meds that helped her......I am not depressed, my feelings of emotion and sadness are because our love was strong and we were very close.

Prescription drugs are not the cure all for everything, some things are natural and very human, not to be artificially suppressed, in my opinion.

Very true, sadness and depression are not the same thing. I am sorry you lost your husband.

 

[Pepper]

Prescription drugs are not the cure all for everything, some things are natural and very human, not to be artificially suppressed, in my opinion.

I felt that way when my husband died, but my intense sadness and crying lasted for years. It was like "he's worth the suffering," and then I got on Prozac and it helped. I instantly stopped crying and there was such a physical relief from not doing that. He was worth the suffering, but that only made my life worse.

 

[SeaBreeze]

I felt that way when my husband died, but my intense sadness and crying lasted for years. It was like "he's worth the suffering," and then I got on Prozac and it helped. I instantly stopped crying and there was such a physical relief from not doing that. He was worth the suffering, but that only made my life worse.

Good to know that it helped you.....hugs, my sympathy.

 

[Fritz]

Well according to the doctors here if your sad you are automatically depressed and need antidepressants. If you refuse those you are non compliant.

As for the OPs post I have noticed I am becoming more weepy with age. Not sure if it's hormonal or what the deal is. I know that men can suffer from andropause which is a form of menopause for men. That could very well be the culprit.

I wouldn't feel ashamed if it's something hormonal that can't be helped then it is what it is. Not sure if the dr could offer anything to assist with that or not. I don't know if they do hormone therapy on men during their menopause.

It's ok to be saddened by things. It's part of being human. But as Seabreeze stated being sad and being depressed are two different things.

 

[Pendle]

I’ve always been emotional but can sympathise as I do cry more these days. Songs can set me off in an instant.
It’s especially hard as you lose all the people & animals that you loved but are gone now, more & more.
There’s nothing quite like the love from a dog for comfort. I’m sure she does speak to you in her own special way, they certainly understand your feelings. I couldn’t live without my little bunch, never been without dogs in my life, my best friends always.