Gift of leftovers

It depends. If it was a party where there was no reason I would have been invited then it might be a nice gesture.
If I should have been with invited it could be considered an apology if it was the host who brought it to you. If a friend brought it in that case it could be considered out of pity.
Both of the latter would be an insult, IMO.
 

I don't know. I think I'd need to know more details. Is this something you would have wanted to go to? Sometimes I feel like I get treated as non significant or just an afterthought, so I can understand it may have not felt good to you.
 
Timely topic. I spent Christmas alone (by choice as the drive to/from my daughter's is too long and tiring). Neighbours brought dinner - a traditional Turkey and ALL THE TRIMMINGS, INCLUDING SHORTBREAD; the other neighbour, brought over 2 dozen home made pot stickers. I feel blessed and lucky to live in this great neighbourhood.
 
debodun said:
How would you feel if a friend or relative brought you food that was obvious leftover from a party to which you weren't invited?
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I would say thank you and eat what delighted me.
Maybe they wanted to come over but had nothing to bring.
Maybe they didn't want the treats to go to waste.
Maybe they didn't intent to insult me.
It would be sad to damage a relationship over this. How do you feel? Is it worth it?
 
BC Flash said:
Timely topic. I spent Christmas alone (by choice as the drive to/from my daughter's is too long and tiring). Neighbours brought dinner - a traditional Turkey and ALL THE TRIMMINGS, INCLUDING SHORTBREAD; the other neighbour, brought over 2 dozen home made pot stickers. I feel blessed and lucky to live in this great neighbourhood.
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You are lucky indeed. None of our neighbors are bad people; I think they just forget we exist. But maybe it's not them but just us: a friend called to tell me about their planned Christmas trip and I was getting ready to reassure her that we'd be fine--we were--even though we were spending it by ourselves (due to family illnesses and others' marital discord) when she asked what we were doing. Welp, she never asked.
 
We lived on a houseboat at a marina. In the next slip were a couple that used their houseboat during the summers and we became friends, not close but neighborly. They had a fish fry every summer with their friends and one year, the day before the fish fry, they realized they were a little short of fish. I offered them quite a large amount of fish from our freezer to help out.

We never got invited over to their fish fry and watched them from our houseboat eating the fish I supplied them. After the party was over, the guy came over with a plate of fried fish for us. He said it would be a shame to waste them and thought we would like them.

I was a bit stunned and just said thank you and accepted the fish. It was well after our dinner time and we had already ate, plus I don't like cold fried fish. So guess where it went? To this day I can't believe he took our fish for his fish fry, didn't invite us, and then brought us the leftovers. What is the word for something like that?
 
caroln said:
We lived on a houseboat at a marina. In the next slip were a couple that used their houseboat during the summers and we became friends, not close but neighborly. They had a fish fry every summer with their friends and one year, the day before the fish fry, they realized they were a little short of fish. I offered them quite a large amount of fish from our freezer to help out.

We never got invited over to their fish fry and watched them from our houseboat eating the fish I supplied them. After the party was over, the guy came over with a plate of fried fish for us. He said it would be a shame to waste them and thought we would like them.

I was a bit stunned and just said thank you and accepted the fish. It was well after our dinner time and we had already ate, plus I don't like cold fried fish. So guess where it went? To this day I can't believe he took our fish for his fish fry, didn't invite us, and then brought us the leftovers. What is the word for something like that?
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I'd say the height of arrogance, but even that wouldn't cover it!
 
caroln said:
We lived on a houseboat at a marina. In the next slip were a couple that used their houseboat during the summers and we became friends, not close but neighborly. They had a fish fry every summer with their friends and one year, the day before the fish fry, they realized they were a little short of fish. I offered them quite a large amount of fish from our freezer to help out.

We never got invited over to their fish fry and watched them from our houseboat eating the fish I supplied them. After the party was over, the guy came over with a plate of fried fish for us. He said it would be a shame to waste them and thought we would like them.

I was a bit stunned and just said thank you and accepted the fish. It was well after our dinner time and we had already ate, plus I don't like cold fried fish. So guess where it went? To this day I can't believe he took our fish for his fish fry, didn't invite us, and then brought us the leftovers. What is the word for something like that?
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Oblivious?
 
I think all of your words apply to my fish fry "friends". I usually don't harbor grudges but this one I haven't been able to let go unfortunately.
 

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