Got a Case of the Lonelies, Anyone Else?

lynx78 said:
Mid 60's....stay busy, working some, active lifestyle and talk with friends via phone, text and staying in touch with HS and college friends has been really cool...this has helped in transitioning to retirement life/ age
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yes most of us here talk with our friends through this Forum..... many of us ..like me have active lifestyles.. and for those who are less active, then this forum again provides companionship...

The last thing most of us here would wish is to still be hanging onto HS schoolfriends...
 

Alizerine said:
Those few HS friends who manage to last for decades are very special. I recently lost a gem. Maybe my high school was special but good people can come from anywhere.
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I had one friend from first grade, he became my husbands best friend in high school. He was not just a friend he was family. We lost him in 2020 to a sudden heart attack. The rest of our high school friends we saw a few now and then but they were no longer the friends of youth.
 
I've been exploring reconnecting with different groups I lost touch with over a decade ago. One is co-workers I have common threads with going back as far as 1976.

I posted a social media comment... that just happened to be to one of the old butterflies. Most of those are former "administrative" staff, i.e. secretaries and the like. We hadn't thought about each other in 15 years, but it's nice to be remembered:

G*** U***

B*** R*** so true!!! She is correct! But I'm like you and probably others and read way too much into it! I think we're all way past overdue to get together and share a beverage or two and laugh about old times! How about we try to get the old gang together again? I can touch base with S*** W*** about setting something up, perhaps. In fact, I've just included her in this reply!!!
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Most of them still must be married with living spouses unlike me, but it isn't about that sort of thing anyway. There seems to be a core group still living in the area, and the gals will probably have close to 70 of those to invite yet. I doubt we'd get more than half a dozen at best the first time around.

Most of us worked together 10, 20, 30 years, some 35. In a sense we're like a second family. And we all know that nobody ever comes to blows at a family reunion!

We're at an advantage in that we're pretty much all 70 or younger yet and most of us bailed during an early retirement incentive period close together. But I hope we can find some of the crusty old bosses and wheel them in as well.
 
Ruthanne said:
Ok, even though I prefer right now to live alone with my little pets I get occasions where I feel lonely for some companionship, conversation, interacting. I want to talk to someone. Anyone else here feel that way now? 🐶 🐦 :D✌️🐸🐥🦕🐠🦢🦜🌷🌹🌈☀️🌊
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Yes I do. That's the reason I joined. I have gone through two long term relationships of about 12 yrs each. I miss the companionship of a woman and the feeling of being a part of a relationship in progress. I also enjoy my solitude and being alone, but the desire for a partner is always there. We cannot get away from our instincts, can we?
 
jpstrap said:
Yes I do. That's the reason I joined. I have gone through two long term relationships of about 12 yrs each. I miss the companionship of a woman and the feeling of being a part of a relationship in progress. I also enjoy my solitude and being alone, but the desire for a partner is always there. We cannot get away from our instincts, can we?
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Hi. I can relate to you. I don't know about getting away from our instincts but I haven't been in a relationship for many many years and for the most part I'm content. I would just like someone nice to visit every once in awhile. Best wishes to you 🌻
 
Got a reply to my response. Had me worried at first:

G*** U***

Well, if the group doesn't, let's you and I do so! I still remember the convo I had with you and R*** L*** where we decided our language was getting so specialized at some point we'd all end up drawing pictures in the sand with sticks and pointing at them to get our point across! I think we're almost there!!!😂😂😂
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That reply doesn't imply what it might seem to. It didn't take much research to determine that she's still married. She's always been super-social so I don't see anything ulterior there. Most likely she doesn't even realize that I'm not married.

There are people around us willing to socialize if we look.
 
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I'm still in touch with the girls I used to work with since 1959. There were 7 of us. Three have since passed on and 4 still here. I was the eldest of the group and I turned 80 last December and the other 3 are all 80 in January, June and July. None of us even contemplated reaching the 80's. We had the best times together, through sadness and happy times. I hope it will continue for a few more years. ☺️🥰
 
oscash said:
I'm still in touch with the girls I used to work with since 1959. There were 7 of us. Three have since passed on and 4 still here. I was the eldest of the group and I turned 80 last December and the other 3 are all 80 in January, June and July. None of us even contemplated reaching the 80's. We had the best times together, through sadness and happy times. I hope it will continue for a few more years. ☺️🥰
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wot a great post - loved reading that - blessings to you all
 
It seems that we are often lonely for the past rather than the present or future? baring those perhaps with some unhappy pasts? I recently just this week in fact caught up with some old friends from the 1960's later 60's - I think I last saw them in the 80's when I flew to Oz for my new life. I had been best man at their wedding dear hearts. As always we promised to keep in touch but things go astray and addresses are lost or change etc etc. I just found them incidentally on facebook and we than rang and chatted and cried and laughed etc.

They were no longer married - now seperated but still friends and just accidentally as I connected to the female, her former hubby was visiting her then. We had a great chat and promised to keep in touch now that the world was all electronically wired!! Incidentally another Jamaican friend in the same town as the two just mentioned had also lost touch with them - crazy heh so we are all re-connected now and I know if I ever get back to that town there will be a turn out in dozens for sure.
 
I hear you. I am lonely too. It is part of growing old, I guess. Sometime I play music from the old days. It is either therapeutic or sad - depending on the day and mood. This year so many close friends have died, and it is onlyMay. You are not alone. I am sorry, this is about you. I will PM a blessing and greeting.
 
Heard back:
GU: Did you see that S*** sent out an invite to everyone for [date] at [time] at O*** N*** K***? See you there?
Me: No I didn't, but I'll look. Thanks I'll plan to be there!​
Me: Huh. Looks like I'm not invited. Can't even friend her, I'm probably blocked! :ROFLMAO:​
GU: Well I am inviting you! You’re fun!
Me: Hey, I've crashed a party or two in my day.​
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Happyflowerlady said:
If you were blocked, you would not even be able to see her facebook page, @dilettante . Some people have their page set up with more privacy controls and you can’t send them a friend request, so you would have to let GU ask her to send you a friend request.
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Yes, we figured that out quickly. I'm not worried, I know S*** pretty well. I even worked with her Dad for years in the 1980s before she came to work there too.

But thanks!
 
I'm still in touch with 2 girls from school. We go back to 1951, in fact one of them gave me a photo of us in grade 4 primary school. We looked so cute in our uniforms. We have all turned 80 now and still enjoy meeting up with each other at least once a month. .
 

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