Nathan
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- High Desert- Calif.
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@ABitGrayandConfused, I type slowly and didn't see your latest post until just now. I'll leave my post as-is for you to read, take from it whatever might be useful or relevant.
Adult kids? Are you worried that they will take sides or be judgey? You know your kids, but I would hope that family that loves you would continue to love you regardless.
A thought: It looks to me like you feel dependent on your wife for social / recreational fulfillment, so perhaps you could focus on activities that you like doing, and at the end of the day you and your wife can meet in the middle(as they say), and you can have the woman you love.
@ABitGrayandConfused, I type slowly and didn't see your latest post until just now. I'll leave my post as-is for you to read, take from it whatever might be useful or relevant.
@ABitGrayandConfused , I hope you reconsider your wish for a divorce and try to look at your marriage in a different light. My life could be defined similarly to yours in a way, my wife has her friends network and frequently spends weekends doing those things she and her friends enjoy. We both often go our own ways, and that's OK. My wife and I have each been previously married(several times each), but I think through those experiences we learned to take what we want in a relationship, and have learned to share as well.I feel very unhappy here in this empty house while married for 37yrs. She has her girlfriends that she goes off on most weekends and does things, and I stay at home doing nothing. I have NO friends that I can or do see most of the time. I mountain bike but I have no one to go do that with either. I am quite lonely and feel isolated as if I am watching my life just go right by me. She and I are nothing more than mere roommates.
I told her last week that I wanted a divorce and we had a calm conversation about it. But now huge fear, doubt, and intrepidness have crept in about how my adult kids will take this, and what it will mean for their future and my little granddaughter who loves us both dearly.
Adult kids? Are you worried that they will take sides or be judgey? You know your kids, but I would hope that family that loves you would continue to love you regardless.
A thought: It looks to me like you feel dependent on your wife for social / recreational fulfillment, so perhaps you could focus on activities that you like doing, and at the end of the day you and your wife can meet in the middle(as they say), and you can have the woman you love.