That Guy
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"Write on!", Paul.
Greetings from a senior citizen.
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Paul
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That Guy,
Thank you. I love words and do the best I can under the circumstances. In my day (the forties and fifties we learned by (rote and memorization). Even after I supposedly created (my own style) of writing (at my age). Todays writers seem to interpret what the reader wrote as to read the readers thoughts. I've attempted creative writing to my misunderstanding. I am afraid it's (my way or not at all). I learn from others and share. Interesting how as we get older we get set in (our ways), oops there is that paraphrase again. Ok so I don't cross my (i's) and dot my (t's) oops! Paul
Paul
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Knightofalbion,
I was sitting in my car yesterday people watching. When a gentleman came out of the store carrying a umbrella. A lady stopped him to ask him a question. Holding the umbrella by the handle he unfolded a small seat then placed the unfolded umbrella point down on the ground and sat on the seat of the umbrella. What a wonderful idea wish I would thought of it. Here Marble N.C. it just stopped raining and the weatherman predicts more rain plus snow. I know it rains in England but do you have snow? Paul
Paul
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Old Hipster,
I love spell checkers. They have a new spell checker and sentence checker called Grammar.com. Interesting tho you pay by the month. Used it for thirty days and liked it until I found out what is cost. Was going that route but will have to live with my spell checker. If my spell checkers goes down I am in a world of hurt. Paul
I love spell checkers. They have a new spell checker and sentence checker called Grammar.com. Interesting tho you pay by the month. Used it for thirty days and liked it until I found out what is cost. Was going that route but will have to live with my spell checker. If my spell checkers goes down I am in a world of hurt. Paul
Diwundrin
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Paul, I'm going out on a limb here, and if I've got it wrong then please don't take it wrong, but....
Have you tried looking at your problems from another angle? Maybe you are complicating things by looking for reasons that you especially are being singled out for problems. Look instead for reasons these things happen to just about everybody. The problems may be different but everyone has them. Some are self inflicted sure, but most are just plain bad luck. "sh*t happens".
Look at yourself, your family, and your problems as an outsider would, we never can see things as a whole from close quarters.
You ask "are my sins following me...?" but do you really believe that your grandson only has ADHD as some kind of punishment that God is inflicting on you personally? Are you thinking that God sees you, personally, as so important that he'd do that to a child just to punish you?? Why? What would that prove? What makes you so much more important than your grandson, or anyone else?
If your reasoning is right then it's not a God I'd attach too much credence to and I sure wouldn't want him looking out for me.
Maybe you didn't mean to convey that message but that's how it comes across. You may blame your dyslexia, which isn't all that evident to me, for my misunderstanding of you, but you did mention the ADHD problem twice in a shortish post so it seems to hold a high importance in your thinking.
Are you writing here for advice from others or are you looking for excuses and sympathy?
Perhaps instead of wondering why God is doing this to you personally it would help if you cut that notion out of the picture entirely.
Try and take yourself out of the centre of the problem and place yourself instead as just one of many parts of a picture that we are all in. We can't all be the centre of things. We aren't all being singled out for punishments for past sins, we're all just sharing the natural downsides to living at all.
Your grandson's ADHD is his problem, not yours. If you choose to help him, as you appear to be doing, then do it because you want to do it, not because you feel it is your duty to do it. If you see it as a punishment then you must resent him? Do you resent him?
If so then walk away. If you can't walk away then it must be because you love him and want to help him, and that my friend isn't a punishment. It's a decision. Your decision, not God's.
It's not going to solve your problems by shrugging them off as God's fault, or an 'English professors' fault, it's nobody's fault. It's just bad luck. We all experience that in spades along the journey. Blaming luck on our 'sins' is just a cop out and excuse not to solve them.
I can see why you find it hard to get help, maybe it's because you expect others to wave a magic wand and 'cure your ills', that ain't gonna happen. Your dyslexia isn't our problem to solve Paul, it's yours to overcome.
You write as well or better than many who have never been diagnosed with that at all. So you want to be a great novellist or something? Tough, I wanted to be an astrophysicist or at least a rocket scientist but can't add 2+2. That's life.
We gotta live with our limitations.
We have to adapt to them and to settle for being as good as we can get with what we've got.
We have to get over that idea that we are 'worth' and 'deserve' more than we seem to have. We aren't. We're just alive in the here and now, coping with what the 'here and now' hands out, to the best of our abilities.
You are able to write better than your 'disability' would indicate, and you are caring for a boy who most would run a mile from, so you are doing pretty damned well compared to many, stop selling yourself short. You are not a puppet being played with by superior beings, you are a human capable of working out your place in the scheme of things for yourself.
Just think about your position from a different perspective, stop feeling sorry for yourself and treat your accomplishments as a plus and your grandson as a challenge to be accepted and overcome, or as 'a punishment' to be endured or escaped. That's entirely for you to decide.
You are the one with all the details, the complexity of circumstances are unknown to us so we can't help. All I can offer is the advice to try and look at it the circumstances dispassionately and for what and how they are, not as some 'punishment' fantasy.
I'm sorry to sound blunt, that's how I am. I may have read you all wrong so your next writing exercise is to put me straight.
Have you tried looking at your problems from another angle? Maybe you are complicating things by looking for reasons that you especially are being singled out for problems. Look instead for reasons these things happen to just about everybody. The problems may be different but everyone has them. Some are self inflicted sure, but most are just plain bad luck. "sh*t happens".
Look at yourself, your family, and your problems as an outsider would, we never can see things as a whole from close quarters.
You ask "are my sins following me...?" but do you really believe that your grandson only has ADHD as some kind of punishment that God is inflicting on you personally? Are you thinking that God sees you, personally, as so important that he'd do that to a child just to punish you?? Why? What would that prove? What makes you so much more important than your grandson, or anyone else?
If your reasoning is right then it's not a God I'd attach too much credence to and I sure wouldn't want him looking out for me.
Maybe you didn't mean to convey that message but that's how it comes across. You may blame your dyslexia, which isn't all that evident to me, for my misunderstanding of you, but you did mention the ADHD problem twice in a shortish post so it seems to hold a high importance in your thinking.
Are you writing here for advice from others or are you looking for excuses and sympathy?
Perhaps instead of wondering why God is doing this to you personally it would help if you cut that notion out of the picture entirely.
Try and take yourself out of the centre of the problem and place yourself instead as just one of many parts of a picture that we are all in. We can't all be the centre of things. We aren't all being singled out for punishments for past sins, we're all just sharing the natural downsides to living at all.
Your grandson's ADHD is his problem, not yours. If you choose to help him, as you appear to be doing, then do it because you want to do it, not because you feel it is your duty to do it. If you see it as a punishment then you must resent him? Do you resent him?
If so then walk away. If you can't walk away then it must be because you love him and want to help him, and that my friend isn't a punishment. It's a decision. Your decision, not God's.
It's not going to solve your problems by shrugging them off as God's fault, or an 'English professors' fault, it's nobody's fault. It's just bad luck. We all experience that in spades along the journey. Blaming luck on our 'sins' is just a cop out and excuse not to solve them.
I can see why you find it hard to get help, maybe it's because you expect others to wave a magic wand and 'cure your ills', that ain't gonna happen. Your dyslexia isn't our problem to solve Paul, it's yours to overcome.
You write as well or better than many who have never been diagnosed with that at all. So you want to be a great novellist or something? Tough, I wanted to be an astrophysicist or at least a rocket scientist but can't add 2+2. That's life.
We gotta live with our limitations.
We have to adapt to them and to settle for being as good as we can get with what we've got.
We have to get over that idea that we are 'worth' and 'deserve' more than we seem to have. We aren't. We're just alive in the here and now, coping with what the 'here and now' hands out, to the best of our abilities.
You are able to write better than your 'disability' would indicate, and you are caring for a boy who most would run a mile from, so you are doing pretty damned well compared to many, stop selling yourself short. You are not a puppet being played with by superior beings, you are a human capable of working out your place in the scheme of things for yourself.
Just think about your position from a different perspective, stop feeling sorry for yourself and treat your accomplishments as a plus and your grandson as a challenge to be accepted and overcome, or as 'a punishment' to be endured or escaped. That's entirely for you to decide.
You are the one with all the details, the complexity of circumstances are unknown to us so we can't help. All I can offer is the advice to try and look at it the circumstances dispassionately and for what and how they are, not as some 'punishment' fantasy.
I'm sorry to sound blunt, that's how I am. I may have read you all wrong so your next writing exercise is to put me straight.
Rainee
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Paul just be yourself.. do what you do best . welcome to the forum..
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Michael.
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Along the Thames
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Hello Paul,
Taking a creative writing class I'm challenged by writing a play. What have you written? Also, curious about the way you write...what makes it different from the usual.
Best Wishes, Nina
Taking a creative writing class I'm challenged by writing a play. What have you written? Also, curious about the way you write...what makes it different from the usual.
Best Wishes, Nina
Katybug
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LOL at confirmation e-mail to Facebook. Poor lady!
Katybug
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Dear Friends,
Interesting happened when I turned on my computer. I couldn't get on this senior forum nor my e-mail at g-mail. No matter what I did the computer had it's way. The web master saved the day after my screaming and using language you probably never have heard before (not at him he is a God sent and has the patience of Job). Plus I have a ADHD eight year old grandson with medicine, he still pushes the envelope of (Patiences) especially at my wifes age and mine (seventy). I have tried desperately to show folks especially English teachers English Majors and yes even English professors I have a serious disability called dyslexia and a reading and writing comprehension problem. My argument is they do not understand and cannot understand (my disability) because they do not have it.
This forum is a God sent help for me. Thank all of you especially the web master for his patience. I will not list all of the problems we have for they are long and no help is in sight. You have not lived until you are around a child of eight with ADHD! Are my sins following me around? I do not understand why God allows this to happen to me (my name isn't Job! I see others who to are under severe strain because of todays economy, and I ask...Why? I see and understand everybody's stress but mine. I see some of the answers, but they have fell on deaf ears. It's extremely difficult and frustrating to know what the problems are but cannot get no one to listen. I can look back on my life and answer every question I had then. Strange how that works.
Ok! Sermon over. Thanks for listening. Hope not to tire your ears. Paul
One of the best things about this forum, Paul, we post the good and the bad. There isn't a better place to vent!
My heart goes out on the ADHD situation, as my boss has it. It's very difficult to deal with even as an adult, especially if they refuse meds and that's the case with him. I can only imagine how harsh it is dealing with your g'child. That's why God gives children to younger folks, far more patience than we seniors have. G'parents just have to work with it as best we can, as they can drive you bonkers. I know you must look forward to bedtime when he's around. It "ain't" easy, for sure!
And, by the way, you're doing an extremely good job with your posting. We're glad you're here.
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