Kaila
SF VIP
A minute before you posted this,Yes. It’s a LITTLE upgraded
I suddenly realized that you'd said.....
Almost as putrid!!!!!
I got back online intending to reply..... that I'm glad it's a little upgraded!
And I found your follow up post.
HaHaHa. Coincidence? I think not!
- Thread starter Pepper
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I suddenly realized that you'd said.....
Almost as putrid!!!!!
I got back online intending to reply..... that I'm glad it's a little upgraded!
And I found your follow up post.
PeppermintPatty
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- Canada
((((((( Pepper ))))))) Stay strong and keep talking to us. We are all proud of you. You are an amazing woman.
hearlady
Homebody
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- N Carolina
Yes. Keep talking. You sound better than you have.
Amanda76
Member
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- Eastern US
@Pepper You are a strong, tough, ... in and out Hospital and back and forth Nursing Home. It's very tough to deal with. I truly understand.
But, ... How about Counselling to cope with the current situation you've been in. It's 'talk therapy'. The good professional counselling might benefit.
If you're not ready to get home and your son wants you to stay there, you need to 'adjustment' to the current living arrangement.
'Services' you wants, but it's not easy to find a good, honest and doing a job the way you want.
I did Counselling twice 30 years apart, one was one of my family members and the other for my own problem. Both of Counselor were good to talk and listen. I learned from them, 'how to deal the problem approprietly.' Definitely, I'm very glad for Counselling.
There must have some Counselor inside Skilled Nursing Care you've been staying in.
But, ... How about Counselling to cope with the current situation you've been in. It's 'talk therapy'. The good professional counselling might benefit.
If you're not ready to get home and your son wants you to stay there, you need to 'adjustment' to the current living arrangement.
'Services' you wants, but it's not easy to find a good, honest and doing a job the way you want.
I did Counselling twice 30 years apart, one was one of my family members and the other for my own problem. Both of Counselor were good to talk and listen. I learned from them, 'how to deal the problem approprietly.' Definitely, I'm very glad for Counselling.
There must have some Counselor inside Skilled Nursing Care you've been staying in.
hearlady
Homebody
- Location
- N Carolina
I say that because when you're talking, especially commenting about Artsy Fartsy things (A term I haven't used or heard in years), I feel you're more like yourself. When you go dark I worry.Yes. Keep talking. You sound better than you have.
I know it's hard and I'm sorry.
PeppermintPatty
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- Canada
I agree with hearlady. You truly DO come across as more stable and more like the Pepper we know and love.I say that because when you're talking, especially commenting about Artsy Fartsy things (A term I haven't used or heard in years), I feel you're more like yourself. When you go dark I worry.
I know it's hard and I'm sorry.
Murrmurr
SF VIP
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- Sacramento, California
I agree.
And, unfortunately, these chain nursing-home/rehab joints have crushed independently owned care homes because they can accept Medicare's ridiculously low compensation rates by making up for it with volume, keeping their facilities at maximum capacity.
nyctrasit5950
Member
Pepper, I'm glad to see you becoming more your normal self and realizing your DIL needs a break. At least she is working behind the scenes for you. You know I love you, so I'll share my own experience with you. I lost my father in 2000 and was responsible for my mother for the 21 years she lived. I'm an only child.
Each time I tried to make a decision that was in her best interest, she pushed back on it. The one she didn't push back on was selling her house in South Florida and moving her to a 55+ community outside of Dallas, because I also moved here. She loved living there and made lots of friends. But her friends could no longer drive her on errands and she began falling. Each time the EMT was called and she ended up in the hospital for about a day. The day I told her she needed to move to assisted living she sat at the table, crossed her arms and insisted she wasn't going.
But she moved there and was happy. She did go in and out of a nursing home from time to time but she always came back home. She was once put into hospice and was actually taken out after 6 months. She was eventually confined to her recliner or a wheelchair, but each time I visited she said the physical therapist told her he could make her walk again. I knew that wasn't true, and it hurt my soul to think she still expected it. I made sure she had the best life possible until she passed away.
I guess my post is about having realistic expectations about where you are in life and knowing that those who are close to you have only your best interests at heart. You remind me of my mother... strong-willed, persistent, with lots of chutzpah. Getting older isn't for sissies, but try as best you can to go with the flow. You are much loved here, Pepper!
Each time I tried to make a decision that was in her best interest, she pushed back on it. The one she didn't push back on was selling her house in South Florida and moving her to a 55+ community outside of Dallas, because I also moved here. She loved living there and made lots of friends. But her friends could no longer drive her on errands and she began falling. Each time the EMT was called and she ended up in the hospital for about a day. The day I told her she needed to move to assisted living she sat at the table, crossed her arms and insisted she wasn't going.
But she moved there and was happy. She did go in and out of a nursing home from time to time but she always came back home. She was once put into hospice and was actually taken out after 6 months. She was eventually confined to her recliner or a wheelchair, but each time I visited she said the physical therapist told her he could make her walk again. I knew that wasn't true, and it hurt my soul to think she still expected it. I made sure she had the best life possible until she passed away.
I guess my post is about having realistic expectations about where you are in life and knowing that those who are close to you have only your best interests at heart. You remind me of my mother... strong-willed, persistent, with lots of chutzpah. Getting older isn't for sissies, but try as best you can to go with the flow. You are much loved here, Pepper!