Hardest Things To Do

The hardest thing I ever had to do was to raise my 4 younger siblings when my mum died suddenly when I was a teen while bearing the brunt of my violent fathers' actions towards me..
 
Yes, overcoming childhood family problems tops my list, too...
 

Well, at the risk of casting a black cloud over things. The hardest thing my husband and I ever had to do, was bury our daughter. No parent should ever have to stand at their child's graveside.
 
As an only child at age 26, Losing & caring for both my parents within 6 months of each other.
Talking a pet on its last trip, & cuddling him or her until their safe & comfortable arrival at the Rainbow Bridge.
 
Our middle child, our youngest daughter, pushed every button that could be pushed. During her teen years she got into drugs and alcohol and who knows what else. When you see your daughter hauled away by the police, for her own protection, and locked in a detox ward it tears your heart out. My wife and I shed many a tear as we journeyed through that extremely difficult time. Dealing with that ongoing situation with a child was the most difficult thing we've had to work through.

We would never have bet 50 cents that she would graduate from high school. We talked of the worst, because we knew we should plan for it. We and our daughter were one of the few success stories. At age 26, she was the youngest vice president of one of the largest insurance brokerages in the U.S. Today, she sits in a corner office of a firm that employees over 2,000 people as the Director of Rick Management and Contract Administration. She has served on the Board of Directors of one of the facilities for troubled youth where she resided when she was too dangerous to have around our other children. She and her husband could not have children, so just 10 years ago, they adopted a sibling set of 3 of the very best grandkids we could ever ask for.
 
Mine would definitely be accepting guardianship of a 12 year old female at age 73 since her Mother died suddenly and unexpectedly.
I keep saying to myself back then "what the hell you doing??? You're 73 for cripes sakes".
But today at 77 with now a 15 year old it turned out pretty good.
 
Davey Jones said:
Mine would definitely be accepting guardianship of a 12 year old female at age 73 since her Mother died suddenly and unexpectedly.
I keep saying to myself back then "what the hell you doing??? You're 73 for cripes sakes".
But today at 77 with now a 15 year old it turned out pretty good.
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It can't be easy for either of you.
 
It`s a toss up for me. Quitting smoking was definitely tough-a 5 pack a day habit is REALLY a habit. But I was determined and I did it-cold turkey. So up until that time of my life,that was definitely the hardest. But then,like Grumpy,my son got into drugs and my life (and hubby`s-but more mine) was a living hell for about 7 years. Yes,seeing your child hauled off to jail is not easy. But he,too,has turned his life around and gone farther than we ever dreamed possible. It`s funny how,to me,it seems that the smartest kids are the ones who get involved with this stuff. Weird. Today is his 35th birthday-a birthday I certainly never thought he would see. Happy to be able to celebrate with him :)
 
I hesitated to post in this thread because when I come to the forum I try to be positive and
not dwell on the unhappy times in my life.

MY husband and I arranged a service and stood by the grave of our youngest son.
It is a loss that parents never recover from and a pain that never heals.
In the five years since he passed away there has never been one day when I did not think of him.
Most days I think of him many times, there are so many things to remind me.
On the last mother's day that he was still with us he gave me a large potted stargazer lily plant. I kept it in the
house until warm enough to put it outside. Every summer since it has bloomed beautifully.
We know the pain of losing a child and my heartfelt sympathy goes out to other parents who have
suffered the same loss.
 
Mrs. R., How wonderful for you, your husband, and your son. Thirty-five today, I hope you have the biggest party ever to celebrate all of you coming through such a trial in all of your lives. I know you will hold tight to your good fortune. :wave:
 
Raven, Yes, many of us do know your pain. For us it has been 21 years and 7 months, and your also right about not one day going by without thoughts of our children. I feel thinking of them keeps them close, instead of losing them totally forever. I wouldn't change one of those memories, and I think that maybe it helps you and us to still have our children in someway. I know there are members of our extended family that feel uncomfortable when we speak of them, But that's their problem. :bighug:
 
Ina, Thank you for your kind words.
You are right, memories keep them near and bring comfort to broken hearts.
Hugs to you.
 

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