Has your role as a " breadwinner/stay " at home changed?

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Things change over time. People drift in and out of roles. Has your role as a breadwinner changed? Has your role as a 'stay at home' changed?
Some of my male friends have "gotten retired", while their wives are now bringing home the bacon. For me, it's just me, don't even have cats anymore.
 

Wife works a full-time job, for now. I retired on SS Early Retirement when I turned 62 and stay at home. I do our laundry, run some errands and clean our apartment. She is very happy that she doesn't have to do these things and work also. It doesn't bother me at all to be the "Mabel" (maid tv show years ago) or Mel (the restaurant owner/cook in tv show Alice, years ago) of our home. My wife makes more money than I ever did and she likes working...…..well, at least most of the time.
 
ClassicRockr said:
Wife works a full-time job, for now. I retired on SS Early Retirement when I turned 62 and stay at home. I do our laundry, run some errands and clean our apartment. She is very happy that she doesn't have to do these things and work also. It doesn't bother me at all to be the "Mabel" (maid tv show years ago) or Mel (the restaurant owner/cook in tv show Alice, years ago) of our home. My wife makes more money than I ever did and she likes working...…..well, at least most of the time.
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What happens when you finally move back to Colorado next week/month/year/decade/century?
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Things change over time. People drift in and out of roles. Has your role as a breadwinner changed? Has your role as a 'stay at home' changed?
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My "role" changed when I retired 17 or 18 years ago. My wife never worked outside of the home, so probably the biggest adjustment for us was my being constantly "underfoot"....I finally found enough activities to keep me from becoming a nuisance.
 
It has always been just me.

I'm not supposed to eat the bread or the bacon so there is really no point in bringing it home!:):playful::eek:nthego:

Now that I'm finally collecting SS I feel at ease with just puttering around doing what I feel like doing. It still amazes me every month when my rich Uncle Sam tops up the checking account and I'm good to go for another month.

My life is good and I'm content with it.
 
We both retired at the same time and have never looked back. We moved to a 55 plus community and it was the smartest thing we ever did - well, except for marrying each other. We kept out minds open to see what was out there. I got into pickin' and grinnin' (bluegrass) - interesting for a Noo Yawk boy. A pickin' buddy lured me into a community theater group and it has been fabulous - not a "time filler" but a wonderful bunch of varied experiences.

My bride was always interested in doing art and has spent many hours over the years engaged in it. So, we each have our "own thing" and we have the "us stuff" - not a bad package.

It's out there - we just have to keep out eyes and minds open.
 
Both my husband and I were 'breadwinners' during our marriage, and we both retired during the same period of time. So for us, nothing has changed, we both worked and now we both enjoy our retirement.
 
me retired - although I'd still be happy to work if I could get it! - wife younger and still working and on 'good bread' - I'm usually up at 5am ish - do the mail [internet] then feed the dogs [3] and cat [1] then water a quarter acre of garden plants every second day [gets hot in these parts 37C daily for ever]

try to keep the kitchen tidy - I'm amazed how it gets out of hand! living in a clean tidy house doesn't appeal to me - I can take dust!!
 
This is really not a new situation. Way back in the day Jesse James and his boys had a bad experience in Northfield MN and when he got home he said, "That's it, I'm retiring". So he ans his wife move to TN - a 55 plus community (actually 35 plus back then). they were enjoying life - she found mah jong, be found pickle ball and they both got into bridge.

But then it happened as it so often does, her "honey-do" list started driving him nuts. So he decided he had to get out of the house and go back to work.

Do you know what happened next? Well.....
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xiwPiwot7E
 
When I was first married and new in my career as a Physical Therapist and my husband was starting out his career as an Accountant I guess we shared the honor of breadwinners. Then a few years later my son was born and I cut my hours a little and my husband became more the breadwinner. My son then turned 15 and my husband and I got a divorce and suddenly I became a single mom and even with his child support I became the breadwinner. Now recently retired and living on a fixed income and my son is a grown man it is a totally different situation even though I live a pretty good life.
 
Oh, I forgot to say, when we both worked, we had weekends off. Everything that was done on the weekend, we done together. Same still goes for weekends. Our boat doesn't hit the water unless my wife is on it with me. We go to the Range together to practice shooting. Shopping done together, etc., etc.. A major thing that brought us together was that we were both the "clingy" type and we loved our same interests. The only time we are apart is when she is at work.

During my years of being divorced, I had ladies break up with me saying "I just can't see you as much as you want to see me". That never happened with my wife when I met her. She told me "I wanted a rodeo cowboy and got one!" She loved going to many, many rodeos with me.

We even get shocked at how many things we have in common...…...and love that! But, currently I'm the "stay at home" and she is the "worker".
 
I was a stay-at-home housewife until I graduated at 33. From that time on I worked until almost age 66, then retired and once again became a stay-at-home. I enjoyed my profession, but I was glad to retire and pretty much do as I pleased
 

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