Have you ever asked out your therapist?

[KSav]

She is older than me and plain

Wow.

 

[Murrmurr]

No, its a woman, I called her a ho once and she was ok with that, I would talk to her a lot about Otis Booard. I bumped into her the other day and then I emailed her asking if she would like to meet up for a coffee. I guess I'm just hoping that she was genuinely interested in Otis Booard rather than taking an interest from a therapeutic point of view or as something she was just getting paid for.

She is older than me and plain, not sure if it's a physical thing?

Maybe it's just to enjoy talking to someone with a shared interest. Romantic or not, there's certainly nothing wrong with asking her out.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

When I was at school, I once had a teacher ask me out! Think I was 16 at the time. The teacher was a fit woman but very inappropriate!

It’s just as inappropriate for a therapist to date her patient.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

Maybe it's just to enjoy talking to someone with a shared interest. Romantic or not, there's certainly nothing wrong with asking her out.

Are you serious? There’s everything wrong with asking her out. She could lose her license for one.

 

[CaliS]

Some things you just don't do -- asking out your therapist is on that list!

 

[CallMeKate]

Wow.

You're sittin' on your hands, too, I do believe. Not gonna say a word. @KSav

 

[hollydolly]

this is you Roman...isn't it ? How old are you ?

 

[Murrmurr]

Are you serious? There’s everything wrong with asking her out. She could lose her license for one.

But that's on her, though. There's nothing wrong with asking.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

But that's on her, though. There's nothing wrong with asking.

There’s everything wrong with asking, especially if you know she could lose her license. It’s unethical and immoral.

 

[Ruthanne]

No I haven't but I did find one of my therapists awfully handsome!

 

[Pepper]

Yes. He said "You know I can't have sex with you."

 

[Murrmurr]

There’s everything wrong with asking, especially if you know she could lose her license. It’s unethical and immoral.

I disagree. In my opinion, it's neither unethical nor immoral for a patient to ask their care provider if they would like to meet for coffee, and it's definitely not illegal. It's entirely up to the provider to consider their professional ethics before either accepting or turning down the invitation.

And I know from personal experience that a mental health professional's ethics include either a polite explanation as to why the invitation has to be turned down, or informing the patient that it has to be billed as a session.

 

[Sunkist]

Why in the universe would you call her- or any woman- a 'ho'?!?!

and wondering why a couple of individuals thought this was funny???

 

[Sunkist]

Maybe it's just to enjoy talking to someone with a shared interest. Romantic or not, there's certainly nothing wrong with asking her out.

The same excuse can be used for how so-called 'inappropriate relationships' start between school kids and their coaches, teachers, etc.

Whether an individual is a therapist, doctor, school staff member, etc., he/she should stay in that role.

 

[MarciKS]

and wondering why a couple of individuals thought this was funny???

I just laughed because I loved how you said it. I agree though with what you said. I wasn't laughing at you I promise.

 

[roman gupta]

There’s everything wrong with asking, especially if you know she could lose her license. It’s unethical and immoral.

She's not my therapist any more, she used to be years ago.

 

[Pepper]

I just laughed because I loved how you said it. I agree though with what you said. I wasn't laughing at you I promise.

There is a woman in public life I call a slut and I'm not apologizing. Political. There are worse things,like actions.

 

[MarciKS]

See...when people leave out little pieces of information it is difficult to respond without ALL the information. But irregardless, if you need a therapist again, you're gonna go to the one your dating?

 

[Sunkist]

I just laughed because I loved how you said it. I agree though with what you said. I wasn't laughing at you I promise.

Thank you.

 

[MarciKS]

Thank you.

Sorry for the misunderstanding.

 

[PeppermintPatty]

She's not my therapist any more, she used to be years ago.

So why didn’t you say that from the beginning?

In particular, a new code of conduct to be implemented from today provides updated guidance that it's almost never OK for a psychologist to date someone who's been a client, even if that was years ago.

It's almost never OK for psychologists to date their clients

 

[Dr.Colosso]

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[Murrmurr]

Whether an individual is a therapist, doctor, school staff member, etc., he/she should stay in that role.

I don't disagree.

 

[Rakaia]

Most therapists probably have a therapist too, give it a 2nd thought.

Yes professional supervision is common place.

For those who do have a crush on their therapist, my advice is to atop seeing them and wait two years before considering anything further.

 

[January]

She's not my therapist any more, she used to be years ago.

Ok that is obviously crucial information which you didn't mention.

so although no longer technically unethical or unprofessional, I still think it would mostly be bad idea.

If she is your current therapist - in any form of therapy - - always a bad idea.