Have you ever known someone who changed gender?

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My husband did, years ago. It was a chap at work, known him for ages and never suspected a thing. This chap was away on extended leave. It was quite a surprise when the managers told all the staff that 'he' was now 'she' and would be coming back to work soon, with a new name. Everyone was told to just get on with business as usual and no negativity would be tolerated.

My husband was in shock about it all, but after a while things just settled down. She, the now woman colleague, did her work as normal. At intervals this now lady would disappear for treatment and operations, gradually looking and being more feminine. Eventually nobody hardly thought about it, it's amazing how people do just get used to things.

My husband and I agreed privately that it must have been extremely hard for that colleague, it took a lot of courage to change his life. It must take such strength to live life being who you really are when many others would just not understand.
So have you known someone in person who changed gender?
 

In my early 20's, I was introduced by a gay friend, to someone who was transitioning. They came by the office, and we went for my coffee break across the street. "She" was in a dress, heels, and was preparing to go to New York for reconstructive surgery.
 
yes. have met a couple of people who transitioned from man to woman. they were both older than me so probably in their 50s or 60's when I knew them 20 ish years ago.
I did not know them well,

Also know a daughter, now son, of a work colleague in my old job, who is now in his 20's
 

In the late '70's I had a job where several of my co workers and I would have a few beers after work. One night my friend who had worked there several years longer than I, pointed out a man who had just come in. See that guy, he used to be a woman. Didn't say much about the person, but wanted to tell me how they had to have him use the toilet in the nurse's office not any of the assigned male or female facilities. I never knew this person, but having him pointed out to me, I saw him in the hall a few times.
 
Someone I dealt with through work. Who had a ton of anxiety and was not easy to deal with.

I'm all fine and dandy unless I'm in trouble for mis gendering or something similar.
 
We have one at the place I work that is transitioning. We hired him as a male with a name as such. Couple weeks later he comes in and wants to be called by a girl name. Mid 20's in age. There is a lot of lost souls in this world.
 
Oh one more. A consultant at my last job regarding our benefit package. She was very nice and I shut down a couple of people who were being nasty in the break room. I'm not argumentative but when I heard things like "that wasn't a woman" and "what was that" I replied "she sure was nice" and "she was very helpful and knowledgeable" At least they knew I wasn't going to play that.
 
One of my coworkers at the job I had before I retired transitioned. Everyone was really cool with it, tho a few times in meetings someone would forget and use her previous male name.

It is amazing to me how many people had to hide aspects of themselves because of intolerance and ignorance (and I grew up completely ignorant of the variety of humans too and thinking when I would hear of them that they were nuts).

I saw an interesting thing on YouTube of a girl explaining she was intersex, that genetically she was XY but that her body lacked an enzyme necessary to making testosterone. She only realized she was intersex when she was about an adult and asked her parents if she was and then why hadn't they told her. She said her parents said they had told her, because they'd told her "<some long string of medical terminology that meant she lacked that enzyme>".
 
I have never known any personally, but I wish all of them safety, happiness and peace in their lives. I have had some good close friends and coworker over the years who were gay, both male and female. Great friends, intelligent, kind and caring, I was blessed to have known them.....much respect. ☮️
 
Yes. Just an acquaintance. My attitude about all of this is, if you're not harming anyone, live your life. Be happy. Society will always, always find a way to hate the minority. Always. I experience that now as an older person in a youth-worshiping state. I am among the marginalized now. Moreover, as a female, I have been among the marginalized my whole life. (As you probably know, most every medical research study was only performed on males up until around the 1990s, 2000s. They marginalized women in medical research even though we are 50% of the population.)

Therefore, as a marginalized person, I fully support the marginalized. Be happy.
 
There are all sorts of 'change' types. My cousin whom I've known all my life began calling himself by a feminine name after both his parents passed. He takes a woman's behavior, but neither cross dresses nor aspires to a sex change. Though married since 22 years old (now 75) he has been a married man and fathered a daughter. Today, he and his wife are still legally man and wife, though they sleep in separate bedrooms. Generally, the wider extended family accepts his 'new' identity.

Some applaud him. However, I have reservations. First, I've known many men who at older age realized that should their wife leave them their lives would be over, and thus did ANYTHING to make her happy. His wife has always aspired to be a trend setter and influencer. Second, he claims to have felt more like a woman than a man since 8 years old, but only 'came out' five years ago. And, thus he has presented himself as a fraud to his true self and others all his life. I am not sure I respect that. And, so thus, do not respect him for coming out today. Since he came out long after retiring and lives in a new location he really risked nothing with respect to ongoing relationships except with family members.
 
The San Francisco Bay Area has always been a Mecca for those choosing different lifestyles, especially regarding gender and secks. As a social Counterculture person often in corporate work places with a full spectrum of many others, long ago adopted a "Let it Be" attitude. I never ask people about gender and secks and am not the nosey gossip type, so would never know what, when, where, how others became what they are. But tend to socially flow away from those obvious others that appear to have cultural behaviors I might have issues with for example outlaw bikers.
 

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