Understand that moving an aged parent/acquaintance from their home to more efficient facilities is a case by case issue. When my Dad could not longer care for himself, he handed us his car keys and asked to be moved to an assisted care facility. Too easy!!! My wife has an aunt and uncle in their 90's, living out in the country in a home built in the early 1900's. Their kids have begged and tried to coerce them into moving into town. Neither can any longer drive. The kids have to check on them daily. Yet, they cannot convince the aged couple to be more considerate and move to town.
My wife cared for an aged couple for many years. When the wife of the couple passed, my wife told the old gentleman that he was moving to an assisted living facility. She reserved a room. Loaded him in a car, had some of the rest of us load minimal belongings into a truck. And, we moved him in about an hour. At first, he was not happy with the move. That lasted about 48 hours. Then, he realized someone was there to cook, clean, medicate... take care of the things he could no longer do himself. Worked out well.
A good friend's mother can no longer care for herself. He moved her to an assisted living facility... with her kicking and screaming. She has made his life miserable. Calls all hours of the day and night wanting to move back "home". She simply cannot live by herself due to her health. Yet, will probably pass from grief of being moved to where people can care for her. Sad.
Wife's sister-in-law's parents are both still living in their mid-90's. Still live on a farm where they have been for 70 years. Her mother wants to move to town. Her father won't. Tells them to take her mom to town and leave him to "die in his chair". Sheesh!
Not trying to duck the issue. Personally, when the time comes I hope I will be agreeable, ready, and happy about moving to a facility. You have some difficult decisions to make. Those decisions must be for the best of the person you care so much for... even if it may not be the choice they have in mind.
