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CarolfromTX

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Have you ever attended one? Dave has taken me to two of his, and I was bored. He seemed to enjoy it, which was the point, after all. Now he wants to go to another, and frankly, I’m over it. And I told him so. On previous trips, I have planned other excursions ( Erie Canal trip, Niagara Falls, Gettysburg, Pittsburgh) but I am done. Told him if he wants to go, the planning is on him. I’d suggest he go by himself, but I’m sure he won’t, mores the pity. I have no desire to attend my own high school reunion. It was a painful time for me, so reliving it would be also painful.
 
CarolfromTX said:
Have you ever attended one?
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Yep, went to my 50th a couple of years ago. Kind of a strange experience.

I only lived in Utah for a few years back then, and only went to the high school for my last 2 years. And then I moved away. I had not seen a single one of them since graduation. Somehow they found me when I moved back to Utah and sent an invite, so I went.

Funny how some of the same cliques still stuck together. I didn't know anyone very well, but I did remember some people, and some remembered me. Probably would not have without the name tags. They were friendly, but we had little in common. Didn't have a bad time, but I got bored and left early. Guess I'll wait another 50 years and see what happens.

Have thought about going to one for my class in Florida, where I was for my first 10 years, but probably won't.
 
Yes, I think we went to the first three, and no I did not enjoy it. People for the most part still behaved like they did in school. They still had not adapted to the real world where popularity, rich parents, great looks did not matter. I still do not understand that they could not get it. Many of the athletes were overweight and had not enough lung power to run to the bathroom. The popular girls were already fighting normal aging, boob jobs, nose jobs, dying their hair, artificial nails, shoes they could not walk in and poured into clothing like a sausage. All the athelets and beauties had already been married and divorced multiple times.

Those people were the same who judged others, that they were the most important people in the room. They really had no clue, we all had aged, we did not look or have the same gifts we had in school. Sadder still many of these adults were quite happy to brag that their parents still provided them with luxuries they could not afford otherwise. We never went to another, it was not fun, it was a waste of time and money.
 
My late wife was invited to her 50th back in Pittsburgh. We live on the West Coast. The event was in the boonies outside of the city, and most people going still lived there. The was a local alumni chapter near us, and she had no desire to even be involved with them.
We ended up buying a group photo of the reunion.
 
I went to my ten-year reunion and talked to a few people who hadn't changed since high school. The same BS a decade later. It was a bore. I met a very good old friend there, and we left early and went to a favorite restaurant for drinks and a late dinner. That was the best part of the evening. I'll never go to another reunion. That one was enough to last me for the rest of my life.
 
Many unhappy memories, never been to a reunion. I always lived too far away anyway.

My sister goes to reunions, even though she says she has unhappy memories too.

I did think of joining Classmates.com, because I think catching up with some of the people -- in writing, and maybe later in person -- might be nice. But then I read bad things about Classmates.com.
 
I went to my10th, everyone was trying to impress each other. Went to 25th, not that many attended. Then, planned reunion with friends from 45th to 50th. Five years, same cliques, and after the weekend fling, I said never again.
Instead of sharing what they had done, all they wanted to share was what their grandkids were doing. And lots of drinking.....
Very sad, I thought.
 
I’ve never been to any of my high school class reunions, and have no intention of ever going to one. I was socially awkward, non-athletic, not blessed with good looks, unpopular, and not one of the “cool” people. But of the three from my class who attended my university, I’m the only one who graduated. Most of the people I went to school with wouldn’t have given me the time of day back then. I have no time for them now...
 
Never had any interest in reconnecting to people I knew just casually in high school so never went to a reunion. Never recall getting any notice of a reunion actually but I did move around a lot after my academic career.
I am curious though as to where these things are held. Are they held in the actual high school or somewhere else and how does it work? Do people just go and walk around mingling and talking to people to see if they know anyone?
Please tell me they don't make you wear a name badge like a small child who's in danger of getting lost :oops:
 
Blessed said:
Yes, I think we went to the first three, and no I did not enjoy it. People for the most part still behaved like they did in school. They still had not adapted to the real world where popularity, rich parents, great looks did not matter. I still do not understand that they could not get it. Many of the athletes were overweight and had not enough lung power to run to the bathroom. The popular girls were already fighting normal aging, boob jobs, nose jobs, dying their hair, artificial nails, shoes they could not walk in and poured into clothing like a sausage. All the athelets and beauties had already been married and divorced multiple times.

Those people were the same who judged others, that they were the most important people in the room. They really had no clue, we all had aged, we did not look or have the same gifts we had in school. Sadder still many of these adults were quite happy to brag that their parents still provided them with luxuries they could not afford otherwise. We never went to another, it was not fun, it was a waste of time and money.
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Wait a minute. In the "real" world popularity, rich parents and great looks don't matter? We must be living in different worlds then. :rolleyes:

I've never bothered with a high school reunion. I had a great time in HS so don't get me wrong but that was then and this is now.
 
CarolfromTX said:
Have you ever attended one?
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CarolfromTX said:
I have no desire to attend my own high school reunion. It was a painful time for me, so reliving it would be also painful.
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No, I never attended one. My graduating class was 1200 in a school of 5000. I was a nobody lost in a crowd of rabble, and the chances of seeing someone I knew were less than zero. I'd be the guy sitting at a table by myself staring at the floor, wondering WTF I thought was going to happen.
 
I think you've done your "duty" by attending two of them when you didn't want to be there. In a couple of years our 60th reunion will be coming up. I can't believe it ! I have never attended a one. We had a huge class..703 people. I figured that my high school friends and many of the classmates I liked might not have been in attendance either. I found out via our class's Facebook page and from my own personal life thatt we've lost about 10% of our classmates. A couple were my cousins, some were friends. I know I won't be attending the next reunion.
 
High school would probably equate to "6th form college" in the UK. There was no graduation as such, but there was a leaving Prom. I don't think there were any reunions although some of us stayed in touch for a while or went to the same university. Within a few years most of us had gone our separate ways and scattered to the corners of the earth. That was over 50 years ago and I've only seen (quite by chance) 2 or 3 of my old college pals.
 
I've been to a half dozen reunions. As far as I was aware our class didn't have many cliques, although we were all closer to some kids than others, usually depending on whether or not we lived in the same neighborhood or rode the same bus.

So the kids who lived "up a holler," (this was West Virginia) knew each other since first grade in their little elementary, my elementary school served a more suburban area, and then there were the kids who actually lived in the town where the high school was. So some of us had gone to school from first through 12th grade.

A few girls were beauties, a few boys were star athletes, a few kids were super smart, but I guess there just wasn't enough of any one type to form an exclusive group. We were all friends, more or less, from seventh grade to graduation.

We lost a few boys in Vietnam. We lost our smartest girl to drugs. Some died from cancer.

When we were younger it was fun catching up, meeting spouses and hearing about careers. Some of the beauties got fat, some of the plainer girls came into their own after learning how to dress and wear their hair.

Now age, the great equalizer, has made us value health over money or looks, and we're happy just to be able to make the trip. We all still love each other and can see the child that still lives inside us.
 
My grade school was closer knit. There were only 22 8th graders that last year. This was where I developed my close relationships, some that went on into high school. Now if we had an 8th grade reunion, I'd be very interested.
 
Gardenlover said:
You can never go home. Talking about your glory days gets boring quickly.

Besides, I think the best is yet to come.
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oh i would love to go back to when i was 14 /16.yrs old
i was chatting to an old friend /neighbour, yesterday, and had such a laugh chatting about old times


we have school reunions every year now. at a venue we all used to go dancing at...
but i cant go anymore ,
but i hear all about it, and they send me pictures and videos .... ,
 
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