How Are You Feeling Now?, 🤔,😀🥺

Widow of Vietnam Vet said:
I mentioned the other day to a senior friend-that when 'normal things" happen ,I often get stressed and depressed about it-and she said she does too. We are both widows so there is no one there to bounce off, sort of, so we have to handle those things alone.

Another friend of mine, fairly new to widowhood, always says from time to time, ' Everything is on me!' even though her two adult children still live at home. And all of us widows and widowers know how "everything" is on us!

But then I think back, and realize, I handle my monthly budget well, I try to get broken things repaired or replaced,
I take care of my car maintenance, and have been able ,every week, to get rid of some stuff I do not need.

But if my TV doesn't work ( it might be a simple check to make sure all the plugged in stuff is plugged in) or the TV dish fills with snow after dark ( a little challenging to hold a flashlight and brush it out at same time) or I inadvertently push the wrong thing on my police/EMS/Fire scanner ,if the phone rings, in my bedroom, trying to lower the scanner audio- it just gets me down- and happened a few days ago.

I start playing around too much with the scanner buttons, and always think I broke it, but somehow I manage to calm down and the scanner comes back on the right channels.
I have the detailed instruction booklet on the same table the scanner sits on, but this is by far, the most sophisticated scanner I have ever had , and I hate to read all the remedies, for stuck channels, etc etc.

These are little normal things but also feel that stress often comes from other people in our lives. The fairly new widow often gripes to me about things I sure cannot change. And I felt someone was trying to take advantage of me about a month ago-
and it gave me stress to hear her tale of financial woe- but this is someone I hardly know and I sure did not offer her any cash.
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Last week it was selecting a Medicare Advantage plan for 2024. I got that done and over with, and I can pat myself of the back. Yay. The stress is over.

This week it's choosing a new internet provider. Current one is going away. I think I know what I want, but when I go to the phone to call, I'm not sure. There are just too many options, and options within those options. I just want the cheap way out. I think. I change my mind every 4 hours. Thrashing. At least I have my current internet for this month.

I guess my main problem is that I can make up my mind 90%, but not 100%. I want to be 100% sure of the decision. It feels wrong to go ahead and pull the trigger when I am only 90% sure, but there is a deadline. Maybe I have to accept 90% sure as 'the best I can do' or 'good enough'.

It's not a hard decision for most folks, I would think. But it is driving me crazy, lol.
 
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Made the decision! I just had to be brave. I have selected a path, and am going cautiously along, stopping at various kiosks along the path. Today I stopped at the 'tech questions' kiosk, and got some clear answers. Got a few more kiosks to get through. Looks OK so far.
I'm not even worrying about the other paths I could have taken. I think I'm on the right path.

I feel relieved, and more relaxed. Unbelievable how stressed out I was.
 
Back when I went to the doctor and got things checked out and a prescription I was getting to the point of a panic attack every 3 days. Some of the good days weren't so good, I could feel the black cloud overhead. Then I joined here.

For a couple of weeks the meds took time and the issues hadn't cleared up but got spaced out further. The wonderful people here helped.

For weeks now I've been clear of that cloud with no relapses at all, and I have to give some credit to this community and its special members.
 
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Hello, Dilletante and Old Medic!

I was feeling depressed, anxious and despairing for a few days. Unable to 'cope' with normal problems. I thought I might need Vitamin D. If I take a Vit D pill, it makes me more sad, though, lol. DId you know Vitamin D is actually a hormone?

I actually had my D level tested a month ago, and it was at 20, whereas the lowest 'normal' level for D is 30 to 100.

Anyway, I decided to try getting my D from fortified raisin bran, fortified whole milk, and from natural eggs. Started this a few days ago. Feeling better now. More confident, less anxious.
 
RandomName said:
Anyway, I decided to try getting my D from fortified raisin bran, fortified whole milk, and from natural eggs. Started this a few days ago. Feeling better now. More confident, less anxious.
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Don't overlook sunshine when it is available, even in these cold months up north.

Windows don't cut it, you need to get outside. Even getting some sunshine on your face and hands is worth it, even if you must march around a bit to stay warm. ;)
 
I had a melancholy moment today after watching some short heartwarming Christmas videos. They always have somewhat of a sad side to them.
Three of my children won't be here for Christmas this year and I thought that might be a nice break from last Christmas but no...I'm already missing them.
 
dilettante said:
A little hung over. I took a whole Melatonin tablet before bed, instead of the half I'd normally take when I do. It works for me, but too much and I can wake up stuck in 1st gear. I had a series of odd dreams.
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I read on the Mayo Clinic's site that a headache is the number one side affect. Vivid dreams or nightmares is next. Next is short-term feelings of depression and irritability.
 
Lara said:
I read on the Mayo Clinic's site that a headache is the number one side affect. Vivid dreams or nightmares is next. Next is short-term feelings of depression and irritability.
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I'm sleeping pretty well lately, but sometimes when I wake up in the morning I have feelings of impending doom and hopelessness, really despairing about the problems of life in general.

I just have to get up and start doing stuff, and look on the bright side of life, and try not to worry about things.
 
I'm feeling a little apprehensive today, I'm having my family (15) for Christmas tomorrow for the first time in many years, my cooking skills are certainly not what they used to be, never mind all the extra work, my daughter has been helping me some, thank goodness.....so.....lots of prep cooking today..:unsure::unsure:
 

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