My condolences to on the loss of your wife. I lost my husband right after thanksgiving, it was the last time I cooked the traditional dinner. All he ate was one roll with turkey as a little sandwich.
I still think about him, miss him every day. There is no fogetting or moving on for me. It gets easier, the depth of the pain, the grief but in fact we have a broken heart that will never heal.
For this reason, I stay home at holiday time. I don't want to cause anyone to feel bad on the holidays but I just can't pretend that I am okay. I do make a special meal but it is not the normal fare. A nice steak, baked potato, green beans. I do however make a pumpkin pie because I am a big fan. I reflect on the happy life we had and all the family dinners with my inlaws.