How are your family relationships?

I forgot to mention I have a ton of nieces and 2 nephews who I love dearly. Two live not far from me-that's my niece and my nephew but they aren't sister and brother. I saw them last Spring when my brother visited here from the West Coast. I called my nephew last Spring but we don't communicate all that much. All of my family have their own lives and are in their own worlds as I am in mine.
 

Just my brother and I are topside
We talk to each other about once a month, talk about dead people, poke fun of each other, and everyone we can think of.
Kids are as fine as they're gonna be
The 17 grandkids get most our attention
 

Were 5 in my family, parents meant well but drove the 2 older boys away by too much controlling, manipulative behavior. Mom and Dad are dead now and never properly reconciled with the 2 older boys and their families. Mom was bi-polar and I was her caregiver; Dad depended on me to do that but despised me for it anyway. He's been dead 19 years and cursed me with his last breath. I looked after Mom for 18 years until her death a year ago. The oldest of the 3 sons died 4 months before her.....she wrote his family out of her will and gave a pittance to the middle son. Myself, the youngest one, inherited the estate. My one surviving brother won't speak to me. I'm still adjusting to things....
 
Ruthanne said:
I have brothers and we communicate at times. My sister and I don't communicate. I have a step family and my one step sister and I communicate fairly often. I have many cousins but don't have much communication with them although nothing is wrong. I see many cousins on FB--very nice people. My parents are gone from this earth but I still talk to them at times.
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My sister and I do not communicate either, we are very different people.
 
We are very close to our daughter and her two kids, and see them often. I have a brother. We were never close growing up, and now we don't speak at all. He did best to cheat me after my mother died, and then again when my father passed. There wasn't much money involved, but it was such an insult to my intelligence. And soooo unnecessary. I have no room in my life for people like him.
 
Lc jones said:
How long since you have spoken with each other if you don’t mind me asking?
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I think it's been around 2 years but not sure. When something or someone disturbs me I try to forget about that and then I forget exactly how long it's been, too. She is very aggressive towards me and I got tired of it and told her what I think of how she acts. She acts like a mean mother towards me.
 
Got to say, this thread breaks my heart. So many broken families and relationships. I can’t imagine.

I am so close and love all my family, friends, and cousins. Tried my best to raise our kids in an unconditional loving way.

One of my best memories was in October of 2000. I was in Southern California for 2 months of work. At the Marriott in Woodland Hills Warner Center. Friday night, sad. Banging on my door......Room Service. I thought... I didn’t order anything. Open the door. It’s my daughter! She flew all day unannounced from Ohio to LA! OMG so great! We drove that night Topanga Canyon Rd to PC1 to Santa Monica. Ha dinner on the Pier! Walked around the Prominade till 2am. Got a hotel on the beach for the night as we were both .........toasted. Beach all Saturday and Sunday. Then back to Woodland Hills. Left mid week. The officers of my company loved her! Made my time so wonderful. Wife called so happy for us.
 
I’ll add to my super proud moments. In 2008 my tennis buddies in Florida begged me to come down and play in a South Florida USTA tournament. Flew down.... won my qualifying match. Then won my first round match. Then won my second round match. Then won the quarter final! Called the family...so excited for me.
Friday night was the semi final. Friday at noon I get a call. It’s my daughter and son......hey can you pick us up? We are at the airport! OMG!!! I pick them up. We go to dinner.

They watched my semi final on Saturday .....ugh.....which I played well, but lost. Just loved every second with them. They left Sunday afternoon.
I’ll try to find the pics
 
Floridatennisplayer said:
I’ll add to my super proud moments. In 2008 my tennis buddies in Florida begged me to come down and play in a South Florida USTA tournament. Flew down.... won my qualifying match. Then won my first round match. Then won my second round match. Then won the quarter final! Called the family...so excited for me.
Friday night was the semi final. Friday at noon I get a call. It’s my daughter and son......hey can you pick us up? We are at the airport! OMG!!! I pick them up. We go to dinner.

They watched my semi final on Saturday .....ugh.....which I played well, but lost. Just loved every second with them. They left Sunday afternoon.
I’ll try to find the pics
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You are a fortunate man, FTP. Sorry about the match, but you have a treasure in your family. You remind me of Dave A... he also has a large and close family. (I was an only child)
 
Repondering said:
Were 5 in my family, parents meant well but drove the 2 older boys away by too much controlling, manipulative behavior. Mom and Dad are dead now and never properly reconciled with the 2 older boys and their families. Mom was bi-polar and I was her caregiver; Dad depended on me to do that but despised me for it anyway. He's been dead 19 years and cursed me with his last breath. I looked after Mom for 18 years until her death a year ago. The oldest of the 3 sons died 4 months before her.....she wrote his family out of her will and gave a pittance to the middle son. Myself, the youngest one, inherited the estate. My one surviving brother won't speak to me. I'm still adjusting to things....
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I hope you'll enjoy your inheritance immensely, Repondering. You deserve it!
 
Not good at all. Seven sisters and one brother. My daughter lives in Florida west side the gulf. My estranged daughters in Rhode Island. My youngest daughter is in heaven at 33, her son was taken by estange daughter to his father who never was allowed to see him. I haven't seen him since end of summer.
Daughter in Florida said they moved to Mississippi. I believe he's in Rhode Island with estranged daughter's daughter who hasn't talked to her mother for I guess what happened to my grandson.
Estrange daughter could not take care of him as his father expected sent him to her daughter who works alot and then grandson has bruises on him when he had just lost him mom my daughter. He is eight now, this happen when he was five almost five. I am too upset to say anymore.

Oldest daughter refuses to talk to me. Just so strange. She lives in North Kingstown.
 
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I'm blessed to have wonderful relationships with my son, his children, my DIL and my son's ex (mother of two of my grandchildren). I love the latter two like I pushed them out myself. :) We have long, fun and sometimes serious conversations. I met my (half) sister and brothers in 1998, thus other new family members (nieces, nephews, grand nieces & nephews). My sister and I became quite close as did one of my brothers and me. The second brother lived a distance so didn't get to know him well at all. We have a "crazy" family and when we get together we have big fun, no matter what we're doing. Icing on the cake...my DIL and my son's ex and best buds. It wasn't always like that so I'm so thankful things turned out the way they did. I'm the family matriarch and sometimes am consulted on different matters. My grandchildren think I'm the fun, knowledgeable grandmother. LOL I have many cousins as well, too many and too spread apart to stay in touch with or see them all, except those who make it to our reunions. There's one cousin who did me and my husband so wrong about 8 years ago. We've started mending the fence...but it's taken time and it's not complete. I admit, I love him though and I know he loves me.
 
CarolfromTX said:
We are very close to our daughter and her two kids, and see them often. I have a brother. We were never close growing up, and now we don't speak at all. He did best to cheat me after my mother died, and then again when my father passed. There wasn't much money involved, but it was such an insult to my intelligence. And soooo unnecessary. I have no room in my life for people like him.
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I’m sorry to hear abou
Floridatennisplayer said:
Got to say, this thread breaks my heart. So many broken families and relationships. I can’t imagine.

I am so close and love all my family, friends, and cousins. Tried my best to raise our kids in an unconditional loving way.

One of my best memories was in October of 2000. I was in Southern California for 2 months of work. At the Marriott in Woodland Hills Warner Center. Friday night, sad. Banging on my door......Room Service. I thought... I didn’t order anything. Open the door. It’s my daughter! She flew all day unannounced from Ohio to LA! OMG so great! We drove that night Topanga Canyon Rd to PC1 to Santa Monica. Ha dinner on the Pier! Walked around the Prominade till 2am. Got a hotel on the beach for the night as we were both .........toasted. Beach all Saturday and Sunday. Then back to Woodland Hills. Left mid week. The officers of my company loved her! Made my time so wonderful. Wife called so happy for us.
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Ruthanne said:
I think it's been around 2 years but not sure. When something or someone disturbs me I try to forget about that and then I forget exactly how long it's been, too. She is very aggressive towards me and I got tired of it and told her what I think of how she acts. She acts like a mean mother towards me.
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Mine is passive aggressive you’ll tell her what’s on your mind after she asks and then she’ll attack you so it’s been a real psychological minefield. I have shared this with her and she attacked me again, yikes! Couldn’t deal with it anymore, so I have forgiven her but I have to keep her away from me. There was a lot of repression of issues when we were kids so I think we were permanently affected by that.
 
Lc jones said:
I’m sorry to hear abou


Mine is passive aggressive you’ll tell her what’s on your mind after she asks and then she’ll attack you so it’s been a real psychological minefield. I have shared this with her and she attacked me again, yikes! Couldn’t deal with it anymore, so I have forgiven her but I have to keep her away from me. There was a lot of repression of issues when we were kids so I think we were permanently affected by that.
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This has been going on for three years. It really came to a head after my parents died.
 
Autumn72 said:
Not good at all. Seven sisters and one brother. My daughter lives in Florida west side the gulf. My estranged daughters in Rhode Island. My youngest daughter is in heaven at 33, her son was taken by estange daughter to his father who never was allowed to see him. I haven't seen him since end of summer.
Daughter in Florida said they moved to Mississippi. I believe he's in Rhode Island with estranged daughter's daughter who hasn't talked to her mother for I guess what happened to my grandson.
Estrange daughter could not take care of him as his father expected sent him to her daughter who works alot and then grandson has bruises on him when he had just lost him mom my daughter. He is eight now, this happen when he was five almost five. I am too upset to say anymore.

Oldest daughter refuses to talk to me. Just so strange. She lives in North Kingstown.
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I’m sending you a hug Autumn ❤️
 
Boo hoo 😭 I am sooooo sorry to had posted such a reality. I have it burned into my brain that I had to come back and see if it was still there. After reading other people's sadness to make it seem not too bad. But it is bad.....Why can't O just let go! Like she wants me to do.
She lived about what happen. O had watched the Philomena story. Then England's search for the babies that were taken from them. Silly me, of course they showed these few lucky people. As one son said, " it's because I had a good adopted family and childhood, why I said yes to starting a relationship with you." This was a son saying yes to his biological mother. He has children of his own. I am too tired of this pain...I need to sleep it off. Thanks for not crushing me.
 

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