How big is your ego?

I don't worry about my ego, I don't have one. People can think what they want, do what they want. I have no desire to compete with anyone. I don't care where you live, how much money you have, what you look like. If you are a good person, are kind to others, help when you can, stand up against hate against others that is what counts. That is what makes a person. It you think that you have an ego best to go look in the mirror and let God tell you what makes you so much better than any other human.

The only exception to this rule has nothing to do with ego. It is about people that think is okay to hurt fellow humans for their own purpose. They do not want to work hard to build a better life for themselves and their loved ones. They want to hurt others to get what they want.

My question is to you is what is the purpose of having an ego? Can you give us an answer? Do you have an ego? If so, why? Why are you asking this question? Is this just a matter of you wanting to start some kind of argument? To get some attention? This question makes no sense to a normal person. Ask questions that really make a difference, where we can share our fears, heartache and problems. None of us need to think about where we fit up to others standards. We should all be here to support each other. I have seen so many open ended questions from you. I don't see yet that you are sharing your deepest thoughts.
 

LadyEmeraude said:
I realize a curious question, but ...
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I don’t find it curious at all. Interesting question. An overly large ego can be problematic, but, in my opinion, a small amount of harmless conceit can often be quite endearing. I don’t have a big ego, I still struggle with self esteem issues. I am curious, though, in your definition of ego do you also include healthy self esteem?
 
Blessed said:
I don't worry about my ego, I don't have one. People can think what they want, do what they want. I have no desire to compete with anyone. I don't care where you live, how much money you have, what you look like. If you are a good person, are kind to others, help when you can, stand up against hate against others that is what counts. That is what makes a person. It you think that you have an ego best to go look in the mirror and let God tell you what makes you so much better than any other human.

The only exception to this rule has nothing to do with ego. It is about people that think is okay to hurt fellow humans for their own purpose. They do not want to work hard to build a better life for themselves and their loved ones. They want to hurt others to get what they want.

My question is to you is what is the purpose of having an ego? Can you give us an answer? Do you have an ego? If so, why? Why are you asking this question? Is this just a matter of you wanting to start some kind of argument? To get some attention? This question makes no sense to a normal person. Ask questions that really make a difference, where we can share our fears, heartache and problems. None of us need to think about where we fit up to others standards. We should all be here to support each other. I have seen so many open ended questions from you. I don't see yet that you are sharing your deepest thoughts.
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I don’t understand your critique of the OP’s subject matter.

We are a varied bunch from all over the globe. This forum reflects that. Some posters prefer lighthearted topics, others enjoy the game threads. Many shop around, delving into a

smorgasbord of discussions, while others share poignant stories of their lives. Sometimes needing our advice, or

support. In my opinion, it is this diversity that makes sf such a worthwhile place. If we don’t value a particular topic, there are many other threads to check out. Something for everyone.
 
I think of ego as self-esteem and confidence. Here is a definition of ego strength from Encyclopedia Britannica.

A strong ego is exhibited in the following characteristics: objectivity in one’s apprehension of the external world and in self-knowledge (insight); capacity to organize activities over longer time spans (allowing for the maintenance of schedules and plans); and the ability to follow resolves while choosing decisively among alternatives. The person of strong ego can also resist immediate environmental and social pressure while contemplating and choosing an appropriate course, and strong ego is further characterized in the person who is not overwhelmed by his or her drives (but instead can direct them into useful channels). On the other hand, weakness of ego is characterized by such traits as impulsive or immediate behaviour, a sense of inferiority or an inferiority complex, a fragile sense of identity, unstable emotionality, and excessive vulnerability. Perception of reality and self can be distorted. In such cases the individual may be less capable of productive work, because energy is drained into the protection of unrealistic self-concepts, or the individual may be burdened by neurotic symptoms. Ego weakness also underlies the inflated sense of self, which can be associated with grandiosity and a superiority complex.
https://www.britannica.com/topic/ego-philosophy-and-psychology
 
I just don't appreciate open ended questions. Tell me what you are thinking about. I gave my honest thoughts, what I was thinking about. At that time, nothing deep, just normal everyday things. Her answer, very good Blessed, like I was in therapy or a trained dog. I have yet to see her being open and vunerable as so many of us are. At this point, I think I would be better off not to engage with the OP. I am not here for anyone's amusement or analysis.

As far as the information that @SeniorBen posted. Well no, I did not go look up the definition of ego and I am suprised that he felt the need to do so and post a link. I guess that would be an ego thing. If it makes him feel better that is fine. If it gives him an inflated since of ego to go to that extreme, that is great. I am happy to be an emotional, unstable, weak, inferior, vunerable, sense of self. I would choose that over the worst traits of having a inflated sense of self.

I look forward to see if she has an answer to my questions. If she can share what her interest is in our ego or sense of self. Is this something she is questioning. Is she going through an emotional situation that is making her question this to gain insight? Again, why the question?
 
chic said:
It's healthy but not huge.

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There moves what seems a fiery spark,
A lonely spark with silvery rays
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Hither and thither the vision strays,
A single lurid light.

Oh no!!!! It's the Dong with the Luminous Nose!!!! 😊
 
I think I've always had a fairly big ego.

It's kept me in good stead, though. I feel as comfortable around Kings as I do Paupers. I like people in general. I realize I'm not always the brightest candle on the cake, but I have confidence in my abilities.

You need a bigger ego...believing in yourself when all others don't...to succeed on a large scale in this life. You can still have a big ego without being a narcissist.
 
As a child, I had no ego, thanks to one of my parents. Some parents know how to tear down a child's self esteem and self confidence, but are totally ignorant on how to build it up. A child's psyche is very fragile and once it's broken the damage is done. When I was living in NYC, I took acting lessons and it gave me courage and self confidence to perform in front of my fellow students, and later small roles in 5 off off Broadway shows, made me grow to like myself, and proud of things that I did from then on.
 
LadyEmeraude said:
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Hopefully, it's big enough and functioning properly, because everyone has one, and it without it you probably be more robot than human.

At the risk of being a pedant; From the Psychology Dictionary: Professional Reference
Ego: A psychoanalytic term denoting the part of the personality which carries on relationships with the external world.The ego is conceived as a group of functions that enable us to perceive, reason, make judgments, store knowledge, and solve problems. It has been called the executive agency of the personality, and its many functions enable us to modify our instinctual impulses (the id), make compromises with demands of the superego (conscience, ideals), and in general deal rationally and effectively with reality. It operates largely but not entirely on a conscious level, and in a mature person is guided less often by the pleasure principle than by the reality principle—that is, the practical demands of life.
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With that in mind, I think you are asking the question, "How full of yourself are you?" I'm not sure anyone can answer the question with a high degree of accuracy. I thought Gary O had a good response. It may not be definitive response, but it seemed thoughtful to me.
 
StarSong said:
Like @Blessed, I'm curious why OP started a thread by posing a random question without including her own answer as well as an explanation for why she posed it.
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Yeah
I'm bettin' her own answer will come

I treat these types of topics with not much more than entertainment value.
They've been rather often, from a few members of late
Sometimes thought provoking
Sometimes nonsensical

But

It's a change
A change from the usual 'days gone by' or 'I just got my new hearing aid and still can't hear my own butt fart'
or 'everybody in my family hates my dog' or 'my toilet water seems to be swirling the wrong direction, should I be concerned?'......

anyway, they're ones to have fun with.....or...scroll on by
 

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