How Do You Apologize or Do You Ever?

Ruthanne

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I'm one to say I'm sorry at times but other times and I'll say most of the time I want to prove that I am sorry and change my behavior towards someone. So, I don't always say I'm sorry but instead show I want to make it up. So most of the time I just try to show the change in me. I don't believe there is a perfect way to say you're sorry but showing a change, to me, is the best way to go.

We ALL make mistakes, no one is exempt from that. We're human after all!

What about you?
 

If I’m in the wrong I’ll admit it and apologise sincerely, but we all make mistakes and I won’t be beating myself up about something for the rest of my life !
 

If I’m in the wrong I’ll admit it and apologise sincerely, but we all make mistakes and I won’t be beating myself up about something for the rest of my life !
Beating oneself is a choice and I don't choose to do it any more either. But sometimes a change is needed.
 
I say I'm sorry when I'm wrong and when I value a person's friendship.

“Sorry” usually works when a simple mistake has been made, but not when trust is broken.

Forgiving is easy, but forgetting and trusting again is sometimes impossible.
 
If I make a mistake I always admit and apologise, why
should somebody else get in trouble for my stupidity.

People who worked with me in the past were always
grateful as the lower ones were automatically blamed
wrongly for any problems.

Mike.
 
I used to make posters

This one seems appropriate for this thread


.....sorry


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A recent survey of more than 1,000 Brits found that that the average person says ‘sorry’ around eight times per day – and that one in eight people apologise up to 20 times a day.

“The readiness of the English to apologise for something they haven’t done is remarkable, and it is matched by an unwillingness to apologise for what they have done,” wrote Henry Hitchings in his aptly-titled Sorry!: The English and their Manners.


Do as I say, not as I do
However, asking someone what they’d do in a theoretical situation is very different to measuring what they’d do in real life. Take the last example; in the YouGov survey, 36% of British respondents said they would apologise for someone else’s clumsiness, compared to 24% of Americans.
But in her book Watching the English, social anthropologist Kate Fox describes experiments in which she deliberately bumped into hundreds of people in towns and cities across England. She also encouraged colleagues to do the same abroad, for comparison.
Fox found that around 80% of English victims said ‘sorry’ – even though the collisions were clearly Fox’s fault. Often the apology was mumbled, and possibly people said it without even realising it, but compared to when tourists from other countries were bumped, the difference was marked. “Only the Japanese seemed to have anything even approaching the English sorry-reflex,” Fox writes.

The above taken from this link...interesting study comparing British, Canadian and American ''apologies''

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20160223-why-do-the-british-say-sorry-so-much
 
A recent survey of more than 1,000 Brits found that that the average person says ‘sorry’ around eight times per day – and that one in eight people apologise up to 20 times a day.

“The readiness of the English to apologise for something they haven’t done is remarkable, and it is matched by an unwillingness to apologise for what they have done,” wrote Henry Hitchings in his aptly-titled Sorry!: The English and their Manners.


Do as I say, not as I do
However, asking someone what they’d do in a theoretical situation is very different to measuring what they’d do in real life. Take the last example; in the YouGov survey, 36% of British respondents said they would apologise for someone else’s clumsiness, compared to 24% of Americans.
But in her book Watching the English, social anthropologist Kate Fox describes experiments in which she deliberately bumped into hundreds of people in towns and cities across England. She also encouraged colleagues to do the same abroad, for comparison.
Fox found that around 80% of English victims said ‘sorry’ – even though the collisions were clearly Fox’s fault. Often the apology was mumbled, and possibly people said it without even realising it, but compared to when tourists from other countries were bumped, the difference was marked. “Only the Japanese seemed to have anything even approaching the English sorry-reflex,” Fox writes.

The above taken from this link...interesting study comparing British, Canadian and American ''apologies''

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20160223-why-do-the-british-say-sorry-so-much
This is a very interesting read Holly and here I thought it was just us.


It’s interesting to read that it’s most often used to communicate through the social classes that’s you’re sorry for your privileges.


Then it’s used as a way of approaching strangers by letting them know you are sorry for invading their space but you have some questions to ask or need to sit next to them.


It’s odd that some people look at it as a sign or admission of guilt or a sign of weakness.
I think it takes a person of strong character to apologize. I don’t understand how not apologizing gains more pride. That’s foreign to me.


I probably shouldn’t be surprised. We Canadians have much in common with the British. Many food dishes are similar especially in Newfoundland and New Brunswick. Many traditions we currently have came from the British.


Thanks for the link.
 
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I always apologize right away for any mistake I've made involving another person because it's the diplomatic thing to do. It soothes troubled waters fast. And if you make a mistake, why not own up to it? We're all just human. If we apologized more to one another for our mistakes the world might become a better place to live in than it is at this moment. Not admitting to making a mistake and apologizing for it is just foolish pride, and can allow anger and misunderstanding to fester.
 
I notice that in England where I am that "sorry" seems
to have replaced "excuse me", when somebody approaches
another person on a collision course, instead of stopping
to let the other carry on as I was taught when I was young,
to be polite, they keep going, pushing through with a "sorry".

Mike.
 
I apologize freely and easily whenever there is a need. I don't often worry about who's right and who's wrong. I don't really care. I seldom get into arguments, preferring instead to maintain my own counsel and let the other person have their point of view.

I think that having lived with an abusive man for all those years, who absolutely and unequivocally HAD to be right ALL THE TIME, It pretty much cured me of any burning need to maintain or assert any particular rightness. I'm not a wimp, but at the same time there are few things that I am so passionate about that I'll get into an argument or disagreement to defend. Those things that I AM passionate about, I just tend not to talk about.

I'm a good listener though ;) and will happily listen to someone expound on their favorite subjects, whether I agree or not!
 
If I make a mistake I always admit and apologise, why
should somebody else get in trouble for my stupidity.

People who worked with me in the past were always
grateful as the lower ones were automatically blamed
wrongly for any problems.

Mike.
That's cool Mike.
 
I apologize freely and easily whenever there is a need. I don't often worry about who's right and who's wrong. I don't really care. I seldom get into arguments, preferring instead to maintain my own counsel and let the other person have their point of view.

I think that having lived with an abusive man for all those years, who absolutely and unequivocally HAD to be right ALL THE TIME, It pretty much cured me of any burning need to maintain or assert any particular rightness. I'm not a wimp, but at the same time there are few things that I am so passionate about that I'll get into an argument or disagreement to defend. Those things that I AM passionate about, I just tend not to talk about.

I'm a good listener though ;) and will happily listen to someone expound on their favorite subjects, whether I agree or not!
I really like the way you see things Ronni!
 
I readily apologize for some dumb thing I did, because I truly feel sorry for the person, whom I somehow have wronged. I think it's rather gross if you don't have empathy for your misdeeds. And it depends on what happened if I'll forgive and forget. But as I get older, there is less and less that really irks me. Most of the things that happen to you are too damn trivial to worry about.
 
I readily apologize for some dumb thing I did, because I truly feel sorry for the person, whom I somehow have wronged. I think it's rather gross if you don't have empathy for your misdeeds. And it depends on what happened if I'll forgive and forget. But as I get older, there is less and less that really irks me. Most of the things that happen to you are too damn trivial to worry about.
I agree fb! :)
 

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