How do you feel about Prenuptial agreements before marriage and why?

If I happened to get married again and my wife has children then I am all for it. I would want to make sure that her children received the inheritance due to them should something happen to them. However, as @Gary O' just pointed out, the best solution would probably just not get married but live together to avoid all of that.
 

My husband was from another country, where similar arrangements are the norm. Shortly before the wedding (after invitations had been sent, etc.), he insisted on a prenup, which at the time I had never heard of. I was horrified, but I felt it was too late to back out.

I agree with @Gary O' that it's a vow of distrust. Marriage has a certain meaning for me, and a prenup ain't it. If you need a prenup, don't bother getting married.
 
I think it's a good test to see if it's you she wants, or your money and possessions. I was in that situation once and she became offended when I brought it up. When we broke up she said that at least she got the engagement ring. Proof positive! I got it back and got maybe 1/4 the value on re-sale.

A very nice local guy took over my home town's butcher shop, did well, and expanded the business to another location. His wife left him for another and took 1/2 of everything including the second location. He became despondent and hung himself.
 
Last edited:
The only reason I brought one up is with the stipulation of inheritance. When my dad married a second time they did make an agreement that the children of the spouse did inherit what was intended should something happen to one of them. His ex wife died last December and it would have been a huge mess if they had not made such an agreement because of my dad's current situation. I am not a legal expert but I am not sure if her will would have covered all the stipulations.
 
As others have said, pre-nups are a measure of distrust. Date and/or live together for several years before getting married. As I believe Dr Laura recommends, don‘t marry before age 28. Good advice. These things you see in the movies or on TV where a couple meet and get married the next day — Yikes! No way!
 
When you’re both young and starting out, there likely isn’t a need for a pre-nup unless there’s a possibility of inheriting family riches.

I remarried in my 40s with 2 children. He was in the same situation. Both had houses and assets. Before we even moved in together, we signed co-habitation agreements to protect ourselves and our children. When we decided to get married, we signed pre-nups.

Love can be blind.
 
Jules said:
I remarried in my 40s with 2 children. He was in the same situation.
Click to expand...
Seems to me that is a time where prenups might make sense. You and your new spouse might want to be sure that your children get a fair share of inheritance. Otherwise, sometimes anyway, the longest surviving spouse's children get everything.

No lawyer, not sure how of if this would work legally.

My mother's second husband also had children. She knew she was dying and so gave everything she wanted my brothers and I to have before she died. And we all understood than when her husband died all his estate would go to his kids. Worked out alright, but not everyone can do something like that...
 
Neither of us had anything, the engagement ring was given us by my aunt, I really only wanted a gold band. So as soon as we were married, I gave it back to her for her daughter. Unfortunately the girl her husband was screwing got the ring . My aunt and he adopted 2 kids (not that he bothered himself about them after the divorce)!
 
Timewise 60+ said:
We promised to "love and to hold each other until death do us part"...that was over 53 years ago, and I think we are going to make it!

If you need to write it down to make a contract, you best move on to someone you really, really, love and trust!
Click to expand...
That's us too, married in 1968, always there for one another, that's not to say that we don't fall out. I do remember a classic newspaper report about a couple who were celebrating their 60th anniversary. We were probably in our twenties at the time. The reporter was asking their secret for the longevity of their marriage. "I don't remember us ever having a cross word," the wife replied. To which my missus said, with a wicked grin: "I bet that they have never been on a dance floor." Believe me, when your dance partner gets it wrong you are all over each other's feet. Cross words? More like profane ones.
 
I don't even have a girlfriend so prenuptial agreements are about the last thing I think about. Actually, I never think about it.

But, just off the cuff, I would say that if you are going to "shack up, move in, live in sin" or even get married during your senior years, I think it's a good idea. It will guarantee that your money, investments, property or whatever goes to your side of the family or whoever you see fit. Chances are your "friend" also has some investments and he/she too would feel like that. Anyway, I would strongly suggest seeing a good lawyer and having the papers drawn up. Unfortunately, someone's word is not worth much. Remember there are relatives "waiting in the wings" for you to "topple over" and they would love to get their greedy paws on whatever you own. A few hundred bucks for the lawyer will guarantee a lot of peace of mind.
 
Last edited:
Gary O' said:
Con;
Shouldn't be
It's a vow of distrust

Too many holes in prenups
Attorneys are the only ones to gain

Pros;
There are none
Simply....don't.....get.......married
Click to expand...

What Gary O' said.

If a marriage is based on love, loyalty, commitment and trust there is no need for a prenup but nowadays it's all about the money. Now I gotta go slurp down some potato soup in the cafeteria, oops, I meant the dining area, yeah, that's what I meant.
 
fiance-emasculate-family-marriage-prenup-fb38-png__700.jpg

www.hekmatfamilylaw.com/prenups/5-prenup-truths/

www.ranker.com/list/celebrity-prenup-details/rydavis

www.helloprenup.com/prenuptial-agreements/celebrity-prenups/

www.therichest.com/lifestyles/15-celeb-couples-with-unusual-prenups-we-would-have-never-signed/

www.radaronline.com/photos/20-crazy-celebrity-prenups-that-will-make-you-rethink-your-marriage

www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/celebrity-couples-with-and-without-prenuptial-agreements/jessica-simpson-and-nick-lachey-3/

www.legalzoom.com/articles/the-most-bizarre-prenuptial-clauses

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Uniform_Premarital_Agreement_Act

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Annulment

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_support

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alimony

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marital_separation

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_separation

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bigamy

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cohabitation_agreement

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No-fault_divorce

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Palimony_in_the_United_States

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michelle_Triola_Marvin





https://www.youtube.com/c/DivorceCorp/videos

The Prenup Movie:

www.imdb.com/title/tt4849404/

www.rappler.com/entertainment/movies/109550-the-prenup-review-jennylyn-mercado-sam-milby/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Prenup

 
In my case, I will have a prenuptial agreement, if and when I get married. If we remain married for 'x' number of years, I will have the option of cancelling the agreement, if the marriage has proven to be a positive experience and we still love and trust one another.

I have saved all my life and have never owed anyone any money, except for my mortgage that once the deduction went away, I paid that off. I have never made a car payment or a credit card payment, except to pay off any charges that I made during the month.

Why should I turn over half of my assets to someone that may be married to for only a few years? Or, vice versa.
 

You must log in or register to reply here.

Back
Top